First, parent-child relationship
Parent-child relationship is the first interpersonal relationship formed in life, and it is also the most basic and important relationship in the family. Parent-child relationship has a far-reaching impact on the socialization of teenagers. The quality of parent-child relationship determines whether the socialization process of teenagers is smooth, whether there are obstacles or defects, and also determines the possible level of socialization of teenagers.
Under the influence of authoritarian parent-child relationship, children either become inferior, obedient and don't like to associate with their peers, or become self-centered and daring. Children under the influence of doting parent-child relationship often form many bad qualities such as laziness, selfishness, weak will and lack of independence. Democratic parent-child relationship The relationship between parents and children is harmonious, and children's independence, initiative, self-control, self-confidence and exploratory development are good.
Family disharmony will have a great influence on children. When children go to junior high school, they should try their best to maintain the stability of family life. For example, no parents will divorce, parents will not stay away from their children for a long time, and children will not know the joys and sorrows.
The second-grade children are in the developmental stage, and the physiological changes also make them need personality development more, and hope that their parents can understand and respect their true thoughts. Nowadays, due to the pressure of work, many parents work hard every day, spend little time communicating with their children, and don't pay attention to some details in their study and life. In the long run, it is easy to have contradictions and generation gaps between parents and children; There are also some parents who don't pay attention to communication with their children at all. Parents know nothing about their children's recent events and psychological changes. In this case, there will inevitably be contradictions between parents and children.
Many parents are eager for their children to succeed, interfere too much with their children and have high requirements; Or overindulgence, which leads to excessive demands on children, but parents still think it is good for their children and love for them. But this misplaced love for children is not felt and will not be accepted. In the process of getting along with children, if there is a language conflict with children, parents must be calm and never intensify the conflict.
Second, the social impact.
During the second day of junior high school, online media and peers have a great influence on students, even exceeding the educational role of parents and teachers. Sometimes, a thousand words from parents and teachers are not worth a word from the other half of the child. A good boy, because he worships singers and movie stars, is addicted to surfing the Internet, playing games, falling in love, and interacting with bad teenagers in society, his grades are likely to plummet.
The temptation of society to students far exceeds the restriction of society to students. In the laissez-faire violent culture in modern cultural life, students have developed a violent tendency. From the internet, students found a sense of accomplishment in the virtual fantasy game world that is not in reality. When our parents find some problems in their children, they should find them early and do their work early. Pay attention to the people who make friends with children and understand the situation of children making friends. What kind of friends you make can reflect what kind of real state your child is.
Third, values
The second day of junior high school is a crucial period for the formation of outlook on life and values. At this time, if children have no ideal values such as money worship, nothingness, hatred and indifference, they will form a value gap in human development and will never be educated again.
It is necessary to educate children to love the motherland, love the people and set up lofty ideals. Caring for and helping the weak. Be a person who contributes to the country and the people, be a person who is useful to the society, be a person who pays back to his parents, and be a person who is responsible for himself. Attach importance to children's ideal education, and parents should not impart their low-level values to their children.
As parents, they should communicate with their children more, have enough patience to guide their children's shortcomings, and update their educational concepts at the same time. Don't just focus on grades, and don't turn high expectations into pressure to put pressure on children. Children need their own growth space, and what children need is the guidance of their parents.