Lead: What did Saint Amethyst say? Is it father's fault to raise or not to teach? ; Father's words and deeds are often more powerful than mother's, and the improvement of father's own cultural literacy directly affects children's learning attitude and code of conduct. The German philosopher Fromm said? Father is one of the children's mentors. He showed the children the way to the world. Although father can't represent nature, he represents the other pole of human existence, that is, the world of thought, science and technology, law and order, discipline, experience and adventure. ? In the process of education, fathers should educate their children purposefully to make their personality more perfect.

How should fathers educate their children? 1. Be an inclusive father.

In our inherent impression, the father is always so dignified, but in the environment where the mother is the mainstream of education, this severity is gradually replaced by the mother. As a father, he should not only love his children, but also be considerate of his wife. While deeply blaming yourself for inaction, you should actively communicate with your children and understand your mother's good intentions.

When a child complains to his father that his mother beat him, the most correct way for his father is to convince the child first, ask the reason why his mother beat him, and tell the child how his mother felt and thought when she beat him from the mother's point of view, so that the child can understand the urgency of her mother's love for her son. Mother's impulse may be because she is in a bad mood, or she is in trouble at work, or the child is disobedient, or the heavy housework makes her uncomfortable and so on. Then as a child, she should learn to be considerate of her mother, share her pain and sorrow, listen to her mother and be a sensible child. Instead of indiscriminately condemning the mother, accusing her of being wrong, or accusing the child of being disobedient and dealing with problems without thinking, it can only cause mutual harm. Friction between family members is inevitable. When unhappiness happens, as elders, what we should do is to maintain our prestige without hurting our children and resolve conflicts with euphemism.

Children are growing up, and rebellion is always inevitable. At this time, they will unconsciously disagree with adults and disobey discipline, so there will always be some inevitable conflicts, adults are anxious and children are agitated. At this time, the father needs patience to deal with, explain and tell the other party what to do. It is necessary for the mother to understand the psychological characteristics of the child in the rebellious period, and it is necessary for the child to understand the love of the elders.

2. Be a father who can play.

The father is the child's mentor. Play? This is the nature of children. They get success and satisfaction, experience and emotion in play. Playing with children can quickly establish close and harmonious family relations with children, which is more conducive to bringing children's enthusiasm and creativity into play. Playing sand, playing chess and assembling various machines with children? In these activities, as a father, we should constantly adjust our mentality and cultivate our interest. Playing together is not participation, but enjoying time with children. Games can help children develop their thinking, language, operation and communication skills in practice.

3. Be a learning father

? Looking forward to success? This is the wish of every parent. It seems that the quality of learning is a child's business. Parents always play the role of alarm clock. Remind them regularly: You should study hard! Tell them to listen carefully before school and say a homework after school. It seems that this is the full responsibility of parents for their children's study. Parents themselves have gradually lost their interest in learning and only ask their children to love learning; I never hold books, but I ask my children to read all the time. Every child is born to love learning. Their minds are full of curiosity and questions, but their parents can't answer their children's questions, or even know nothing about them, or help them in their studies, or provide them with some guidance on learning methods and knowledge exploration, which is unfavorable to their mental development. To be a learning father, we should not only have the concept of lifelong learning, but also pay attention to life, current affairs, reading books and newspapers and further study. More importantly, we should pay attention to children's learning, take a look at his daily homework, make some suggestions, or praise his progress, which will be of great help to children's learning.

How should fathers educate their children? Method 1: Respect your children. Sophistication? -Feedback effect

Whenever parents point out their children's mistakes, children always find many reasons to prove their innocence. At this time, parents usually angrily scold their children for this behavior? Sophistication? In fact, this is not sophistry, but a kind of feedback from children to their parents' education.

Education is a two-way street. Parents should not only teach, but also accept children's feedback, so that education can achieve the most perfect effect. However, many parents are not aware of this. They only care about themselves? Teaching? I don't care about children's feedback at all. Such education often fails to achieve the purpose that parents want.

Method 2: Analyze and respect children's feedback.

When children give feedback on our education, we must first analyze this feedback. Of course, this analysis is not only aimed at children's language, but also includes children's movements and expressions.

But whether it is children's feedback or not, it deserves parents' attention. Sophistication? Be sure to respect your child's feedback. In the above educational cases, when children say? Do the children in our class say so? The mother yelled at her children without analyzing their feedback. Is this a sign of disrespect for children's feedback? So, the mother doesn't know if the child's feedback is true-don't you think so? Are you stupid? This is a dirty word.

It is conceivable that parents misunderstand and suppress their children's feedback. In the long run, children will never give positive feedback to their mothers' education. Without children's cooperation, parents can't educate their children.

Method 3: Educate children purposefully according to their feedback.

When analyzing the problems of children's feedback, parents can carry out purposeful education on children's feedback. For example, if children don't know the importance of politeness when giving feedback, parents will never do it again. They can tell their children the importance of being polite through examples and reasons, and guide them to be polite children. If the child's feedback is that he doesn't want to know the responsibility caused by his recent wrong words and deeds, parents should isolate the child and make him a person who knows his mistakes, corrects them and dares to do things?

In short, no matter what feedback children have on their parents' education, respecting and analyzing children's feedback is the primary prerequisite for achieving educational goals.

Method 4: Family education should not be inconsistent-Watch Theorem

Psychologists have done an experiment: give a person a watch, and when someone asks him the time, he can tell it quickly and confidently; However, when the man got two different watches, the watchmaker could not know the time quickly. Because two watches can't tell a person a more accurate time, on the contrary, it will make people who look at the watch lose confidence in the accurate time. Psychologists call this phenomenon? Watch phenomenon? This leads to a conclusion that there can only be one guiding principle or value orientation in doing things. Later people called this conclusion? Watch theorem? .

How should fathers educate their children? 1. It is necessary to recognize the important role of fathers in the growth of children and play a central and positive role in all stages of the growth of daughters and women.

2. Accept the father's guidance, let the boy be independent from his mother's arms naturally, and help the girl to establish a correct position for the man.

Children are easily influenced by their mothers, because they get along with their mothers day and night. Through the time with my father (especially through sports or leisure activities), I can overcome the frustration and defects brought by my mother's long-term edification, and make my father's strengths be constructively supplemented and spread.

4. Help children identify with gender concepts, especially let children know how men should respect women and what attitude women should adopt towards men.

5. We should recognize the truth that parent-child relationship can't be formed in a short time, and lay a solid foundation for maintaining the relationship from childhood.

6. It is necessary to realize that the education of children cannot be replaced by verbosity and reprimand, and adopt the model of parents leading by example to educate children. In particular, we should pay more attention to children's emotional changes, avoid comparing or mocking children with other children, overcome high expectations of children, and let children understand that their parents' love for them is unconditional.

7. Encourage and praise boys to establish self-confidence in their study or work, and cultivate girls' pride as women. In particular, it is necessary to understand the positive reinforcement effect and educate children to give priority to praise and encouragement, with less criticism and punishment.

8. The most important legacy left to children is that as a father, we should realize the importance of being a good father and maintain a good marriage relationship. In particular, fathers should set an example in their attitude towards their mothers. Let everyone know how his father successfully solved the problems in his life, such as the middle-aged crisis.

9. Let children feel the will of unity and unity of parents to treat their children everywhere, and prevent children from taking advantage of their parents' differences of opinion.

10, reducing the daughter's distrust of men and society. In particular, it is necessary to help her daughter choose a healthy boyfriend in the future, so that she can overcome the fear caused by sexual relations and being close to her boyfriend.

1 1 Through the strong support of father, help children not to succumb to the pressure of friends, and urge children never to change their strong will to pursue a sound attitude towards life.

12 through actual contact with her daughter, prevent her daughter from being disappointed with other men because she thinks well or idealizes her father.

13, tell daughters not to wander around and be hurt by other men because they are unconditionally looking for their father's love.

14. prevent daughters from prone to compulsive weight regulation, bulimia or obesity because they are eager for fatherly friendship.

15. Tell your child that his father pays special attention to friendship through frank emotional expression, change the image that his father is never good at expressing his feelings, and let the child know that his father often resolves his differences with different feelings or opinions constructively through persuasive dialogue.

16, educate children about correct sexual knowledge and morality, and prevent children from producing distorted sexual knowledge and wrong sexual morality.

17. Fathers should understand all kinds of educational methods for their children and their effects, instead of adopting excessive, compulsive and vain methods, and define the boundaries of children's actions through dialogue, appropriate and decisive educational methods to provide children with a sense of psychological stability.

18, for the child's physical changes or growth and progress, timely convey the blessing as a father.

19. In order to prevent boys from directly testing the danger of their male chauvinism because of their disharmony with their father, the father should let them understand the flexibility and balance of behavior in their common life with their children.

20. Through the good tradition of children's education handed down from generation to generation, the father should let the children understand and inherit, and the bad inheritance should be eliminated and stopped. Especially in the new environment, although children have suffered some hardships in the process of absorbing new knowledge, they should be encouraged to absorb new knowledge and guided not to stick to narrow prejudice against the next generation. In children's education, we should always learn and keep innovating, and educate children in the same way to solve the educational problems of the next generation.