First, understand puppy love and treat it calmly

Parents should first have a correct understanding of puppy love, which is a normal phenomenon for adolescent children. If, one day, a child tells you that he has a crush on a boy/girl, you should be happy, because the child has not concealed you, which is a sign that our baby has grown up. Don't think puppy love is bad study or depravity. If you find your child's "puppy love", immediately treat it as a scourge and become angry from embarrassment, or rush to tell the teacher and the other parent, make a scene and the ending will definitely be out of control. Moreover, it may also make the two children feel that neither of us is happy-forever, but it has helped.

Puppy love is a kind of emotional privacy, and parents must keep it secret for them, even very close people. You know, puppy love is like spring. The harder you press it, the higher it will play.

Second, don't peek at children's privacy.

Some parents (mostly mothers) always look through their children's diaries, schoolbags and mobile phones on the grounds of "puppy love" ... Not only that, but the after-care technology is not up to standard, and children often find it.

Each of us has privacy and wants to be respected by others. No matter what excuse parents use to pry into their children's privacy, it is extremely disgusting. As Huang Lei said, "How does a girl get through the stage of being a girl without secrets?"

Third, many boys' parents flew into a rage as soon as they heard that their children were in puppy love, and they began to punch and kick within two sentences. Such "stick education" will only cause great harm to children, not only physical pain, but also mental harm.

In fact, we need to take the initiative to popularize this knowledge for our children and tell them frankly that puppy love is not wrong. We should correctly distinguish the difference between puppy love and goodwill. Just like Fiona Fang told her daughter by innuendo in Little Parting, don't give up the whole forest just because of a small pine tree. Telling children the pros and cons of puppy love is much more effective than sticks.

Fourth, guide children to concentrate on their studies.

Love is an important lesson in life, but our life is more than love. Knowledge is the cornerstone of improving our self-ability and laying the foundation for the future. If you are confused and lost because of love, it will not be worth the loss. This requires parents to guide correctly, pay attention to children's changes in time and ensure their growth.

What would you do if one day your child told you, or you found out that he liked someone in the class? Anxious parents may not be calm at all. They can control their anxiety and impatience like this father, and they are humorous, which is really admirable! I have to say that only when parents kneel down, talk to their children equally and become friends with their children sincerely can they lead their children to grow up more effectively.

The reasons for children's puppy love:

1. Physiological reasons: Teenagers begin to have sexual consciousness with their physiological development.

15- 18-year-old students' secondary sexual characteristics have just formed, and physiological changes have caused subtle changes in sexual psychology. In the process of this change, they hope to associate with the opposite sex of the same age.

Girls' sexual characteristics develop earlier than boys', so girls' psychology of pursuing the opposite sex is earlier than boys'. The psychology of adolescent girls is hazy or idealistic, so that some girls regard their beloved man as an idol and have a wrong view of love. Therefore, it is necessary to strengthen the education and guidance of sexual psychology and adolescent physical health knowledge for female students in this period.

Secondly, social culture has promoted the development of young students' puppy love consciousness.

Adolescent boys and girls generally like reading novels, TV, movies and plays, and most of them like singing. However, this has played a catalytic role in the sexual psychology of adolescent students.

Nowadays, the society has given too much exaggeration to children's puppy love, and there are endless literary works and film and television programs describing children's puppy love, which makes teenagers feel that children's puppy love has become the mainstream in school. As a result, it has actually contributed to students' puppy love. Of course, there are many reasons for students' puppy love tendency, but the influence of society should be decisive.

Third, the psychological competition stimulates the openness of puppy love behavior.

In some schools, students' puppy love is influenced by classmates or close friends, and they join the ranks of puppy lovers in order to lose face. Adolescent students like to form small groups in the form of small groups, while boarding school students often form different small groups, and some small groups are small social circles that are puppy love allies.

Now some primary school students are actually pursuing "puppy love" and think it is shameful to have no object. A "little boy" with a "physical" experience said, "What a shame to have no object! Now many boys have more girlfriends than others. " It is understood that some children are even upset because they don't have a girlfriend. There are many children who don't think about tea and rice and are tired of learning and fighting because of "lovelorn", and their parents are confused and at a loss.

Fourth, the educational methods of parents and teachers have stimulated students' rebellious psychology of puppy love.

Due to the high voice against puppy love in society, many parents are afraid that their children will delay their studies because of puppy love and take restrictive measures against their children's heterosexual contacts. Families often don't allow children to have normal heterosexual contacts, which leads to some children's rebellious psychology.

However, teachers in some schools are afraid that students will make mistakes in puppy love, regard puppy love as a scourge, and are indifferent to the communication between boys and girls. Therefore, parents and teachers have jointly adopted educational countermeasures of suppression and restriction. Adolescent students have a strong sense of independence and resistance, and they have their own philosophy. Under the high-pressure policy, they will show all kinds of resistance.