How to deal with the rebellious period of three or four-year-old babies, children will inevitably have various problems on the road to growth. As parents, we should solve these problems for our children instead of adding fuel to the fire. Let's see how to deal with the rebellious period of three or four-year-old babies. Parents are welcome to learn from it.
How to deal with the rebellious period of three or four-year-old babies 1?
1, in the face of the baby's resistance, parents can't blindly oppose and stop it. Only by correctly understanding the reasons behind the baby's resistance can we "prescribe the right medicine". It is necessary to know whether the parents' handling methods will directly affect the baby's growth, so in the face of "resisting" the baby, you also need to "think twice before you act".
2. Understand the baby, respect the baby and understand the baby. When the baby begins to like to say "no" to his parents, it is the first step for them to build self-esteem and self-esteem. The purpose of the baby doing this is nothing more than asking for equal status with adults. At this time, parents should not easily interfere with the baby's actions, but should consult the child's opinions equally and leave the child with a choice. Doing so will make the baby feel that you respect him and maintain his self-esteem, so he will not talk back to you easily.
3, the requirements for the baby should be reasonable. The requirements for the baby should be reasonable. Parents should strictly ask their children to do what their babies must do and can do completely; Don't force them to do unnecessary things that the baby doesn't want to do. When the baby is having fun, parents should never disturb their interest; If the baby really does something wrong, parents should let go when stopping the child's rebellious behavior without endangering life, health and morality. Doing so may bring some troubles to adults, but this concession is very worthwhile relative to the return of the healthy development of the baby's personality.
4, believe that the baby meets its curiosity and reasonable requirements, believe that the baby meets its curiosity and reasonable requirements, believe that the baby is curious about the baby, parents should give support, and don't overprotect or arrange the baby, which will make the baby lose many opportunities for self-exploration and also cause their resistance. Parents should give full trust and affirmation to the baby's ability. When the baby encounters difficulties that can be solved within his own ability, parents should try their best to let the baby do it by himself, so that the baby can experience the happiness of success and reduce confrontation with his parents.
5. At the same time meet the needs of the baby's independence and desire for protection. At the same time, meet the needs of baby's independence and protection. The fundamental reason why the baby shows tenacious "resistance" is for independence. On the surface, it seems to be against parents, but the baby still needs your emotional support and timely encouragement. When letting the baby do something independently, parents can first judge how far he can finish and the problems he may encounter, and then let the baby do it by himself without personal danger. If what the baby is going to do may be harmful to health, parents must resolutely stop it and switch to other non-dangerous activities. Let the baby enjoy the sense of independence and the care of parents, which will also reduce the occurrence of baby's resistance.
6. Have enough communication with your baby. Parents should not have psychological worries and troubles when they see their baby changing from clever to naughty. These are all a process of baby's growth. But that doesn't mean parents can ignore it. If they do, the baby will really become a bad boy. Parents should give their babies more tolerance, care and communication than before. Patiently listen to the baby's inner thoughts and understand his needs. Ask the baby what he thinks and why he does it, so as to minimize the baby's rebellious and repulsive psychology towards his parents.
7. Don't spoil and pamper your baby. Don't spoil and pamper your baby. It is normal for babies to say "no" to their parents, but if they are allowed to develop or obey, they will form a wayward and arrogant character. Therefore, as parents, for those wayward babies who always satisfy their unreasonable demands with irony, they should:
(1) Reasoning calmly, introducing relevant knowledge, explaining why he can't meet his requirements, and restraining the occurrence of willfulness and stubbornness.
(2) Try to divert the baby's attention, attract him with something that makes him more interested, and let him give up that unfair request.
(3) In the case of ineffective persuasion, clarify the attitude of parents: unreasonable demands can no longer be met, and then immediately walk away and terminate the unreasonable demands of children by cold treatment.
How to deal with 2 1, and give understanding and respect to the three or four-year-old baby in the rebellious period?
When the baby starts to be disobedient, it is the first step for him to build himself and self-esteem. He did this just to gain room for growth and have the same equal status as you, so don't interfere with his actions easily at this time. When the baby wants to do something by himself at first, he might as well meet some reasonable requirements and give guidance when he needs help. In this way, the baby will feel that you respect him, and the baby whose self-esteem is maintained will get a sense of pleasure and accomplishment, and naturally become an obedient child.
2. Transfer your baby's attention in time.
When a baby is interested in something, he will desperately want it and make some unreasonable demands. At this time, you can't stop it rudely, but put forward some suggestions that he is more interested in to divert his attention and take him away from the place where the target item appears in time. For example, when the baby has to throw the crystal ball on the table, you can give him a ball. Take him to another room and throw him out with him.
3, to meet the baby's curiosity and reasonable requirements
Give your baby enough space to explore independently while keeping him away from dangerous goods. In order to keep the baby away from dangerous things, one of the easiest ways is to provide him with other substitutes, and at the same time set certain rules for him to limit his exploration, because at this time the baby's boundaries between touchable and untouchable things are blurred.
Provide some interesting toys and articles to effectively attract the baby's attention and enable him to concentrate on activities that can meet the needs of exploration. Try to provide him with more structural toys to put together; Guiding him to innovate the way of playing old toys or using waste as toys, such as rolling old newspapers into balls for football kicks, not only satisfies his curiosity, but also satisfies his desire to operate. He must be very happy.
When the baby puts forward reasonable requirements, especially things that can be solved within his own ability, such as dressing and washing his face, please let the baby do it himself in time, which will make him feel a sense of accomplishment and pleasure, and also avoid the occurrence of "disobedience".
4. Communicate with your baby in the right language.
How to communicate with the baby directly affects his behavior.
It is suggested to use more positive words. For example, don't say "Don't crush the flower" to the baby, but say "How tender this flower is, the baby should gently touch it with his fingers". Don't use the word "no", because it will attract his curiosity and aggravate his desire to try.
How to deal with 3 1 and exchange methods in the rebellious period of three or four-year-old babies;
Let other children play wayward children, and let wayward children play the role of parents or others. Through this role experience, wayward children can understand that waywardness is an unwelcome character.
2. Transfer method:
When the child is willful, take advantage of the situation at that time and try to shift the child's attention to other novelty that can attract the child.
3, let the law:
When a child has willful behaviors, such as crying and splashing water, parents should ignore him when safety is guaranteed. When he feels that crying and throwing these "weapons" are no longer effective, he will naturally stop crying. At this time, I will choose the right route to reason with him, and now I will receive better educational results.
4, reasoning method:
When children make unreasonable demands, parents can give vivid examples to explain the possible consequences of willful behavior to their children so as to educate them.
5, guide method:
Parents can find "bright spots" from wayward children and dig and guide them. Doing so can not only protect children's self-esteem, but also turn wayward shortcomings into positive psychological factors.
6. Challenge method:
When children can't control their emotions, parents can deliberately use provocation to urge their children to restrain their willful behavior in a competitive psychological state. (7) Prevention method: When the situation that may induce children's willful behavior approaches, parents can ask their children to do "three chapters of the law" in advance.
7. Entrustment method:
Children like to do things for adults. When a child behaves willfully, parents can entrust him with an interesting task within his power. This can help children get rid of wayward emotions, prevent the "top cow" state, and feel trusted and satisfied.
8, praise method:
In view of the psychological characteristics of children who like to listen to good words and wear "high hats", children's wayward behavior can be explained relatively reasonably by their good behavior in the past or what they like to listen to, so that children can "go downstairs along the ladder". These methods can sometimes mobilize children's self-esteem, compassion and self-motivation, thus controlling their willful behavior.