First, the channels of sex education.
First, knowledge transfer and education between parents and children, which is the most important and effective educational channel.
Secondly, sex education in schools is not reliable, because all schools are avoiding sex education at present.
Third, online education is easy to get out of control and go wrong.
Fourthly, sex education in writing is accidental for some readers, because it is not easy for our children to read these written materials.
Fifth, media-based sex education, including TV and other self-media and so on.
These are mainly stimuli and belong to one-sided sex education.
Family sex education is the most important, appropriate and effective education.
Parents give up sex education, which is tantamount to leaving their children in a state of numbness without education, and it is very dangerous to let their children rise and fall in the ocean of desire.
Second, educational opportunities.
Four or five years old, grasp the sensitive period of children's gender identity, that is, four or five years old, and complete their gender identity.
When I was about four years old, my children were most concerned about who was a boy and who was a girl, why I was a girl, why I was different from a boy, what was the difference, why boys could not wear skirts and so on.
In social activities, children begin to confirm their gender and complete their gender self-identity through self-observation.
Our suggestion is that in this period, children's exploration and understanding of the body comes from observation. When adults explain to children, their attitudes must be objective and scientific, just like understanding children's eyes, nose and mouth, helping children to complete their gender self-awareness of body, clothing, image, personality and society. Create opportunities for children to understand gender and answer all their questions.
Before puberty comes, that is, children are eight to nine years old, during which they complete the teaching of physiological changes and physiological change knowledge.
Girls have the concept of breasts, pictures of breasts, touching mothers' breasts, menstruation, prevention of menstruation, treatment of discomfort, perineal hygiene, disease prevention, sexual desire and psychological reaction.
For boys, there are penis hygiene maintenance, normal erection, masturbation, masturbation reaction, sexual desire, sexual desire performance and sexual desire reaction.
Introduce children to formal books and let them read formal sex education books.
You can watch and discuss with your children. Parents are calm, and the less mystery their children have about sex, the better.
What should be avoided at this time is the avoidance of parents, which forms a blank of children's knowledge of sex education and is in a passive state of ignorance, helplessness and helplessness, and children can easily go astray.
To deal with children's confusion, we should pay attention to safeguarding children's privacy, and knock on the door when entering adolescent children's rooms, so that children can be fully prepared.
After observing the child's masturbation behavior, we should guide the child to read Kinsey's sexology report. When children see that the proportion of male masturbation is 90% and that of female masturbation is 58%, the sense of tension and shame will be reduced and the fear will disappear.
Masturbation will not hurt children, and the fear of masturbation will seriously hurt children, even fatal.
But at the same time, let the children understand that there can't be too many good things. The delicious thing is enjoyment. If you eat too much, you will get sick. Similarly, masturbation can relieve sexual desire and have pleasure, but too much will lead to fatal diseases, so we must control ourselves.
Explain the methods of self-control, teach children to control sexual desire and masturbate.
Third, the promotion of love education.
Before children fall in love, the education of love for children is completed, which is the so-called early education of youth love. The way is to use the topic to play!
For example, tell him: son, Xiao Ming, the son of my mother's best friend, is in puppy love, and the little girl is quite beautiful. Son, are there any girls looking for you? If the child says no, my mother will say it is wrong. My son is so handsome that no one can look up to me. It's really strange. It's normal and natural for someone to like you at your age.
This language is to eliminate children's vigilance and create an atmosphere for parents and children to talk about sensitive topics. Regardless of whether the child will have a youthful love, the mother is ready to communicate and is not afraid.
Keep in touch with each other frequently. Children tell their mothers and listen to their opinions. Children are safe at all times.
Fourth, the main content of adolescent love education.
Once a harmonious spiritual atmosphere of youth love education is established with children, children's youth love issues can be freely discussed.
First, children tell this kind of classmate's youth love story. Talking about other people's problems is always casual and natural, but we can get children's feelings and attitudes towards love from it, and then see the opportunity to complete the following love education.
1, the aesthetic education of love, feel the beautiful feeling of youthful love.
2. The responsibility education of love is to be responsible for yourself, the other party and ultimately the society.
3, the custom education of love, the commonly accepted way of love, such as not being able to do intimate behavior in public.
4, the private education of love, privacy is beautiful.
5, the risk education of love, the danger of losing control of youth love, we must take preventive measures, while protecting ourselves, we must also protect each other, so that children can intuitively experience the cruelty of risk.
In other words, you can watch pictures and videos on the Internet, tell your children the seriousness of the consequences after losing control, and let them take precautions in advance.
If we realize the youthful love of these children, there will be no crisis.