What are the disadvantages of intergenerational education? With the improvement of life, parents are too busy supporting their families to take care of their children, which makes more and more elderly families take care of their children. Although the elderly will treat their children with great care, there are many disadvantages in intergenerational education. Let's have a look.

What are the disadvantages of intergenerational education? 1 1. Overindulgence of the baby hinders the baby's self-growth.

When grandparents were young, they might not be able to take good care of their children because of the limitations of living and working conditions. They are prone to a kind of psychological compensation. They focus their love for their children and grandchildren on their grandchildren and care too much about their babies, so that they do everything for their babies and indulge them everywhere, leading to problems such as willfulness, strong dependence and low self-care ability.

2, causing family conflicts, leading to parent-child estrangement.

In the first few years of a baby's life, parents have a very important influence on him. After all, for a baby, parents are his most important relatives. If his parents can't stay with him, he will easily feel abandoned and leave a shadow in his heart.

In addition, the baby lives with grandparents or grandparents since childhood and is used to accepting their protection and accommodation. It is also possible to develop some behavior habits that parents don't like. When parents take the baby over or completely take it over from grandparents within a certain period of time, they may be eager to reverse these so-called problem behaviors of the baby, and it is very easy for parents and babies to have opposing emotions. This kind of opposition will make the baby more alienated from his parents and retreat to his grandparents. Therefore, grandparents and fathers can easily cause family conflicts because of the baby's education problems. If grandparents come forward to stop parents from "teaching" their grandchildren, this contradiction will be further aroused.

3. Stick to old ideas and hinder the baby's personality development.

Many grandparents are backward in their educational concepts and lack a correct understanding of the characteristics of their babies' psychological development. They may limit the baby's various exploration activities and put forward some requirements that are not suitable for his age, which invisibly binds him and leads to his lack of pioneering spirit. In addition, many old people have aging knowledge, relatively rigid thoughts, rigid views on things, easy to get stuck in dust, and adopt an overly traditional way to educate their babies. Then, their backward education mode will affect the speed at which babies accept new knowledge, leading to a lack of creative thinking and divergent thinking consciousness.

Of course, there are also many ancestors who are old-fashioned because of their low level of education. They may unconsciously inherit some feudal dross that can't keep up with the trend of the times, which restricts the baby's thinking and hinders the baby's personality development.

What are the disadvantages of intergenerational education? 2 1. intergenerational education is prone to family conflicts.

In daily life, we often hear young parents complain that the old people's parenting style is unsanitary and too rustic; Old people accuse young parents of lacking sense of responsibility, tinkering, being poor and picky. There are also a group of photos on the Internet that are different from those of parents and grandparents. The "generation gap" will make parents and grandparents have great differences in the concept and behavior of taking care of their children. If they lack communication and don't understand each other before, it will cause great family conflicts and seriously affect family relations.

2. intergenerational education may make children lack independent personality and strong willpower.

Compared with mom and dad, grandparents are more concerned about their children, obedient, responsive and overindulgent. There is an old saying: "If you put it in your mouth, you are afraid of dropping it." Everything is to accommodate the children, but the children's lives are arranged. Especially in material life, all kinds of snack toys must be bought home as long as children look after them. In fact, this kind of practice seems to be "caring for children", but in fact, such doting will make children dependent on their parents, thinking that "grandparents can help me fulfill all my wishes" and "I don't need to do it, someone will do it for me", which is a serious lack of independence. Children who grow up in this way, on the one hand, do not know how to cherish the existing life and have a strong "vanity"; On the other hand, once they encounter difficulties in society, most of their choices are to retreat and then go back to their grandparents.

3. intergenerational education may not be conducive to the development of children's practical ability and creative thinking.

There is a big difference between young parents and old grandparents. First of all, on the playground, grandparents often take their children to parks and squares to watch sports games for the elderly or chat with them. Moreover, parents often take their children to children's playgrounds, playing with sand and water, rock climbing, swimming and so on. In contrast, children who are with their parents will have more opportunities to operate and take risks. In the content of conversation, because mom and dad are more open-minded, their ideas are newer, they have more information to contact, and the information they bring to their children is more in line with the current trend; The communication between grandparents and children may be those old children's songs and ancient poems. Therefore, the next generation of educated children may be slightly inferior in the development of practical ability and creative thinking.

4. intergenerational education is not conducive to the harmonious development of parent-child relationship, which refers to the intimate relationship between children and parents.

Psychological research shows that childhood is an important period to cultivate parent-child attachment, and a safe parent-child attachment relationship plays an important role in children's future development. If children don't live with their parents during the important period of parent-child relationship cultivation, their parent-child attachment objects will shift and they will be more attached to people who have been in contact with them for a long time. In this way, children will regard their ancestors as their closest relatives, and then their relationship with their parents will become farther and farther away, even alienated. This kind of family relationship is abnormal, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of children.

In a word, parents play an irreplaceable role in children's growth. Therefore, young parents should choose who will educate their children from the perspective of their healthy growth.