Of course, some parents blame their children. Our children are naturally emotional and have to shed a few tears at everything. But obviously, the children's world doesn't understand these complicated feelings. At most, I was hurt and shed a few tears. It is by no means a dead bird that cries for a long time. Of course, with the growth of age, this will indeed become a reality. How to avoid it!
Know where the child's emotions come from!
1, from life
Every child is unique, so in our hearts, that is pride, and we can't care too much. However, we need to pay silent attention to find out what children have experienced from life and what are the reasons why children are susceptible to emotions now!
2. From friends
3. Where are the children's troubles likely to come from? Friends? Maybe a friend brought him a plasticine today, or maybe the toy was taken away. These little friends in life are one of the emotional sources of children. When they cry and laugh, they are changing according to the environment, so we must understand which friends can communicate and which friends can't!
3. Lack of guidance
Children need guidance and someone to share their troubles. When emotions arise, one more person to share will reduce their troubles. When everyone understands them and gives advice, children may feel relieved and feel nothing. Not only children but also adults will feel this way.
So how to guide, this is mentioned? Cloud principle? How to drive emotions away like floating clouds?
1, have a clear understanding of children's emotions.
To change a child, we must know what she has experienced. After learning this, we need to express it with body language or our own emotions, so that children can feel that their parents understand them. At this time, the child will confide, and we will analyze and persuade according to what we know and what the child understands!
Step 2 shift focus
Children attach great importance to this matter, don't they? Children's emotions are like this, and it is easy to walk into a dead end. At this time, we need to divert his attention, let's not talk about it for the time being.
For example, on Monday, we made an appointment to go to the playground on Sunday, and we frequently reminded the children that they were going to play in the playground soon. At this time, the child may recall the state of playing before, and his mood will suddenly get better, and he may forget things in the future!
Step 3 go back to the center
After we divert our attention, when children are about to forget, parents will return to this center to analyze what happened and give them various solutions. In the case of choice, we need to explain the advantages and disadvantages of the method and what the result is, and see how the child chooses.
When the child makes a choice and is ready to solve the problem, no matter whether the answer is the best or not, it is equivalent to helping the child solve the problem, and the child is no longer affected by emotions!
Summary: Nothing is difficult in the world, only if you put your mind to it. Many parents say that children are not well educated, but we are just impatient and bored. Looking back, we actually find that we have no patience to educate our children, so our achievements are bound to be limited. Patience and persistence are not only reflected in children!