Let children experience some fun of success: parents should not laugh at their children's efforts at any time. I often hear some reprimands from my parents: "Look, look, you made a mistake again, how stupid!" " "Look at Xiaohong, she can speak English, so you can play" and so on. Although these blurted out criticisms are well-intentioned and want children to behave well, they are often due to parents' misjudgment of their children's abilities. Such a way of speaking can only hurt children's self-esteem and make them afraid of learning.

The correct way is to avoid nagging criticism and give positive recognition to children's efforts, even small progress should be appreciated, so that children can experience the happiness of success, which is not only the best spiritual reward for children, but also conducive to encouraging children to make the next attempt.

Parents should let their children complete some difficult tasks that can only be accomplished through hard work, such as "jumping and reaching", don't expect too much at once, don't let their children suffer too many failures, and don't scold or make fun of their failures even if their children don't behave well. Instead, they should always affirm their efforts, appreciate their strengths, let their children realize their progress, and always face setbacks and setbacks in life with the F word.

Try to understand children's psychological world: in children's eyes, everything in the world is alive. They can't correctly distinguish between living and inanimate objects. Psychologically, this is called animism. They will turn the magnificent Great Wall stone into a lying steamman; Think of the porcelain doll on the table as a sentry on guard; If the glass is broken, he will say it hurts. After four or five years old, children will think that everything that can move is alive, and things that can't move are lifeless, such as cars running in the street and clouds floating in the sky. It is a mistake for parents to understand this kind of consciousness in their children's words and behaviors, and to communicate with their children in a way that they can understand, rather than simply denying their way of looking at the world.

Children's brains are full of fantasies, and childhood children can't completely separate the real world from the imaginary world. If children go home together and say that they have seen a dog as big as a horse, parents should not think that the child is lying, it is his imagination. The child runs in circles with his arms outstretched, which is also a manifestation of his fantasy that he is an airplane. Children can't tell fantasy from the real world, not because there is something wrong with their brains, but because of their normal performance in early childhood. Children at this time are living in imagination and fantasy, so they are very easy to accept hints. As long as adults give them a little inspiration, children may use their imagination to perform. Therefore, children's imagination and fantasy can not be simply regarded as wild dreams, because children's free imagination is the only way for children to grow up intelligently.

In short, parents, as children's first teachers who come into contact with society, their educational behavior will affect their children's life. We can't change our genes, but scientific parenting is something we can do through hard work. Let's work together!

Influencing factors of intelligence

prescribe a diet

Man is created by nature, and food is the material basis of life and brain. Food determines the health of life and brain. A large number of research results show that without certain foods, the brain will be unhealthy or even brainless. Human elites are mainly coincidental scientific dietotherapy. Therefore, if this coincidence is turned into science-personalized scientific diet, people can become smarter.

Genetics and environment

Genetic quality is the biological premise of intellectual development. Good genetic quality is the foundation and natural condition for intellectual development. It is found that the closer the genetic relationship is, the more similar the intelligence of individuals is. However, heredity only provides the possibility of intellectual development. To make the possibility of intellectual development come true, we need the joint efforts of society, family and school education. Among the effects of heredity and environment on intelligence, heredity determines the upper limit of intelligence development, which can only be achieved in an ideal and timely environment; The higher the upper limit of genetic determination, the greater the role of the environment.

Early experience

The speed of people's intellectual development is unbalanced. Research shows that the more experience gained in the early stage, the faster the intellectual development. Many people call preschool a critical period of intellectual development. American Bloom put forward an important hypothesis that the age before the age of 5 is regarded as the period of the fastest intellectual development. If the intelligence level of 17 is 100%, then 50% of intelligence is acquired from birth to 4 years old, the remaining 30% is acquired at 4-7 years old, and the other 20% is acquired at 8- 17 years old.

school education

Intelligence is not innate, and education and teaching play a leading role in the development of intelligence. Education and teaching can not only enable children to acquire the knowledge and experience of predecessors, but also promote the development of children's psychological ability. For example, when teachers use the method of analysis and generalization to teach course content, they not only enable students to acquire relevant knowledge, but also master this method as a means of thinking. This ability will be formed if this external teaching method and learning method are gradually transformed into internal generalized thinking operation.

social practice

Human intelligence is gradually developed in the practice of understanding and transforming the objective world. Social practice is not only an important way to learn knowledge, but also an important foundation for intellectual development. Edison's first teacher was his mother, but experiment was the basis of his invention and an important condition for his intellectual formation.

subjective efforts

The decisive role of environment and education can only affect the development of ability mechanically and passively. Without subjective efforts and personal diligence, it is impossible to achieve career success and ability development. Many outstanding thinkers, scientists and artists in the world, no matter how different their careers are, have one thing in common, that is, they are obsessed with their own careers, persist for a long time, work hard and struggle tenaciously with difficulties. Without these, they can only be mediocre people, and they can't succeed or improve their abilities.