"Schools have school rules and families have family style" is a common saying, but when asked, "What is family style? What is your family style? " Many people will be dumbfounded by these questions. I think family style is family rules, and it is the ethos of a family. Once this family style is corrupted, the family's ideology and morality will be bad, and it will be difficult for this family to cultivate excellent offspring. The bad reputation spread among the neighbors at once, and soon no one wanted to associate with this family. It's too late to change it at this time. It can be said that family style is very important Although it is only an intangible concept, it can make the descendants of this family last longer and let them go further!

Family style can also represent the ethos of a country. The country is inhabited by the people, and this style is more important. Relying on the people's hard work, law-abiding, mutual assistance and mutual assistance, a country's prosperity is not just material wealth. In my opinion, what is more important is its atmosphere. The ethos of a country and a dynasty determines its decline and victory. Only a country with a good social atmosphere can make the country rich and powerful, and can it really be called a powerful country.

The words "family discipline and family style" give people a serious and solemn feeling. Growing up, I haven't seen a written Family Training Family Style at home. Perhaps, at that time, "the golden hoop makes a good man" was one of the default "family styles" of most families, and I also participated in its practice: I was beaten with a stick for being naughty or failing to meet the academic standards. These experiences may not be the reason why we become "good people", but at least let us know in childhood which behaviors are acceptable and which behaviors are to be criticized.

Times have changed, and the concept of "golden hoops make good people" should not be the only magic weapon for most families to educate their children today. At present, all kinds of parenting theories are varied and have their own doorways, so it is difficult to define a general family rule that most families can practice.

On the other hand, although my family has no written family instructions and family style, I have the following ideas about children's education:

First of all, children should be healthy

This requires children to absorb adequate and balanced nutrition from food, enough exercise and enough sleep. This, if we insist on making it a family rule, is to ask children not to be picky about food, exercise more and get up on time;

Secondly, we should abide by the rules and keep our promises.

When to do homework and study and when it is suitable for playing, you must reach an agreement with your parents and abide by it (for example, you can only play computer for no more than 2 hours on weekends in a week, and so on). ); If you promise others (even small partners who play together), you must do it-it is very important to keep your word;

Third, take the initiative and be confident.

Don't cry when you encounter difficulties, try your best to find a way and have the courage to try. The concept is: try and you will have a 50% success rate; If you don't try, the chance of success is zero. Take the initiative to establish, self-confidence will come;

Fourth, I am willing to gamble and lose.

In daily games/chess/competitive activities, let children enjoy winning and bear losing. Extending to school exams, only children are required to play a good level, and generally no scores are required;

Fifth, be brave/responsible.

(1) Be brave in doing things, whether right or wrong;

(2) In this "law of the jungle" world, although you don't bully the "weak", don't take the initiative to be the "weak";

Sixth, learn to take care of yourself.

Ask yourself to tidy up your schoolbag/desk, carry your schoolbag, take a shower, etc. In addition, it is also important to protect your own safety-don't talk to strangers, observe the road conditions when crossing the road, and stay where you are if you get lost with your parents in a crowded environment.

Seventh, we should respect teachers and be generous to others.

As parents of the post-80s generation, we are struggling with how to do this, and we also need to concentrate our efforts. This is not so much for children as for parents-we should be filial to parents, be kind to relatives and friends, and set an example for children; Parents should not spoil their children, but try to make them suffer consciously. Speaking of this, in fact, all the points are not only for children unilaterally, but also for us as parents.

Finally, "read thousands of books, walk Wan Li Road" and never go out-this is not a family tradition, but an effective means to help children grow up.