The reason is actually very simple. No one wants to be a man's second mother and compete with his own mother.
Xiao Wang, a 25-year-old office worker, has an object, Xiao Fang, who is in love 1 year.
Although he has been in love for just one year, he thinks Xiao Fang is his ideal marriage partner. Just like his mother, she can bring him a warm feeling of love.
So, Xiao Wang planned to propose to his girlfriend on Qixi, and they entered the marriage hall together.
But Xiao Fang doesn't think so about Xiao Wang. In the year of falling in love with Xiao Wang, Xiao Fang deeply realized that her boyfriend was a baby boy.
It turns out that in the process of falling in love, no matter what decision Xiao Wang makes, she must first ask her mother's opinion. After her mother agrees, she will move on to the next step.
From moving to looking for a job to what to eat at night, Xiao Wang almost always asks his mother. Moreover, when dating myself, I often use "what my mother said …" as the opening remarks, and point out the direction of my life and choice.
If it weren't for Xiao Wang's face, Xiao Fang would have wanted to break up.
The most wonderful thing is that Xiao Wang pays most of his monthly salary to his mother. He also gently asks her to help save money for his wife, but when dating, Xiao Fang pays most of the expenses himself.
Once Xiao Fang went to the rental house near Xiao Wang's work and found the house in a mess. She really can't help cleaning up. Xiao Wang also praised her and said, "You are as virtuous as my mother, and my mother will help me clean the house."
This sentence makes Xiao Fang feel very uncomfortable. She can't imagine that a 25-year-old man has hands and feet, and his place can be so messy, waiting for his mother to clean it up.
Therefore, on the Chinese Valentine's Day, although Xiao Wang carefully prepared the proposal scene, Xiao Fang refused his proposal mercilessly and offered to break up with him.
Because Xiao Fang thinks that Xiao Wang is not looking for a girlfriend, but another "mother's" nanny.
Xiao Wang didn't expect his proposal to be rejected and broke up. He was so sad that he called his mother and cried. Mother came out from home directly without saying anything, found her son and comforted him: "My son is so good that your object will refuse you only if he is blind!" " Nothing, I have my mother with you, and we will find something better in the future! "
After his mother's comfort, Xiao Wang's mood finally eased.
Xiao Wang is a typical mother-in-law in today's society. He grew up with his mother's love, so that he didn't know how to tidy up his home at the age of 25.
Moreover, in the process of love, Xiao Wang did not exert his subjective initiative. Even on a date, he will talk about his mother and make his girlfriend conform to his mother's idea.
If Xiao Fang and Xiao Wang intend to get married, then the scene of the daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law competing for favor after marriage is definitely indispensable. Fortunately, Xiao Fang woke up in time and refused the proposal of "Ma Baonan". Otherwise, this marriage is absolutely nothing.
Mother's endless doting.
There is a mother who dotes on her children endlessly, and the children will trouble her in everything, which will certainly cultivate a "mother baby boy".
A boy who grew up under his mother's doting is surrounded by his mother's suffocating maternal love in all aspects of his life, which leads to his lack of independent opinion and ability. When he grows up, he can't escape the bad influence brought by this environment, forming an inertial behavior of "calling mom when he is in trouble".
(2) The mother is in a dominant position in the family.
Some boys grow up in a family where their mothers are dominant, and they usually "say whatever they want", even if they refuse to resist.
If a boy grows up in such an environment, he may also become a "baby boy", because during his growth, everything is decided by his mother, and he is just a puppet who obeys his mother's decision.
(3) Parents are not in harmony.
In some families where parents are at odds, fierce quarrels often break out, and sometimes there are violent situations of fighting.
If a boy sees his mother being bullied, his heart will be more inclined to his mother, so he will listen to her more, which may also lead to his child becoming a "mother-in-law".
(1) and the child's father to raise children.
If the mother can't join hands with the father of the child to raise the child, but does everything for the child alone, then there is a great possibility of raising a "baby boy" with psychological defects.
Therefore, mothers must let their children's mothers participate in parenting.
(2) doting on children to a certain extent.
Some mothers spoil their children unconditionally when raising them, which will make them lack certain independence and even cultivate bad personality.
Therefore, when raising a boy, the mother should have a certain degree of love for the child, so that the child will neither feel neglected nor live in a doting environment.
③ Cultivate children's independent ability.
As a mother, when raising boys, we should pay attention to cultivating children's independent ability and not let them develop the bad habit of relying on their mothers. Only in this way can we avoid raising a "mother baby boy".
Mothers can't accompany their children to death, so it is not good for children's lives to cultivate them into "Mambo men" who only call their mothers.
Today's topic: Do you have Ma Baonan around you?
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