However, everything is afraid of overcorrection. In the era of "only child", parents and teachers never dared or criticized their children. Excessive praise and poor praise have caused some children to be self-centered, arrogant, emotionally fragile and have poor ability to resist setbacks, leading to more and more extreme events. For example, "a student of 14 spilled pen water on the teacher, and was criticized by the teacher, and immediately jumped off the building to commit suicide", "a girl poisoned instant noodles because her classmates in the dormitory were better than herself" and "a boy cut her grandmother because she didn't let her play video games" and so on. On the one hand, some teachers don't really understand the true meaning of "appreciation education", on the other hand, they can't resist the exaggeration and hype of the media, no longer dare to face up to students' shortcomings and mistakes, and dare not criticize students boldly, but only praise and praise without principles, only encouragement without punishment, which leads to confusion and confusion of some students and affects the formation of correct values.
Parents should encourage or criticize their children's thoughts and behaviors in a timely and correct manner. The praise is praise, the criticism is criticism, and the punishment is punishment, so that children can understand right and wrong, distinguish between black and white, and take responsibility.
Education without punishment is incomplete education. As a way of education and punishment, corporal punishment is feasible and effective when used properly. First, it can stimulate children, make them remember deeply, and more importantly, it shows a deterrent force, so that his mistakes will not be repeated under this deterrent; The second is to let children understand that mistakes come at a price, and everyone is responsible for their own mistakes.
It is true that "appreciation education" and "encouragement education" can help children build up their self-confidence and stimulate their enthusiasm for learning, but encouragement and appreciation are by no means the whole of education. Studies have shown that "excessive rewards are sugar-coated shells that weaken children's willpower" and "inappropriate praise will devour children's self-confidence". Therefore, as makarenko, a Soviet educator, said, "Reasonable punishment is not only reasonable, but also necessary." Only by giving "carrots" and properly matching "sticks" can we achieve the best effect of education.