My daughter's class teacher has repeatedly stressed to parents that children should be "kind and considerate every day, so that children will be considerate of their parents in the future", and parents should supervise their children well.
The tasks assigned by the class teacher to parents have been unanimously responded by parents.
So dad decided to educate his daughter well.
He sternly let his daughter choose the punishment for wasting food:
A.how many grains of rice are left to cook?
B. do housework. If you don't want to be punished, you must finish your meal.
The child looked at the half bowl of rice that he couldn't eat, and chose to learn to do the problem honestly.
By doing a lot of questions, let children reflect on their wrong behavior and realize that it is wrong to eat as much as possible and waste food. If you waste food, you will not only make yourself miserable, but also make your father angry.
Dad agrees with this kind of punishment education, thinking that it can not only correct children's wrong behavior, but also improve children's academic performance by doing problems.
The child's teacher commented that it is more important for children to have a correct outlook on life than good academic performance.
Teacher Sun Xiaoyun, deputy director of China Youth Research Center, once pointed out: "Education without punishment is incomplete education and fragile education."
Children will encounter many difficulties, puzzles and problems in their growth, which need parents and teachers to find and give guidance in time.
When a child makes a mistake, he must not turn a blind eye and let it develop.
There should be correct punishment education, so that children can not only distinguish right from wrong, but also establish a correct three views, and also realize their own mistakes independently, so as to fundamentally prevent the recurrence of mistakes.
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Recently, in Foshan, Guangdong Province, a little girl who was only 12 years old walked someone else's dog to play, but she didn't care much about the dog. When the dog ran away, she tripped over an old woman, who fell face down and died. ?
And the little girl ran away as if she didn't see it.
According to the child's father, the little girl lives in a single-parent family, and her father is busy with work every day and can't be disciplined. Moreover, the child used to steal things, and the father only talked about her verbally, and she only responded verbally.
As a result, the child developed a reckless and reckless attitude towards life, which eventually led to great disaster.
Discipline education has always been valued and recognized.
Even in contemporary times, the laws of many countries have stipulated "punishment education", which is considered necessary.
2065438+July 2009, in the Opinions on Deepening the Reform of Education and Teaching and Improving the Quality of Compulsory Education in an All-round Way, the State Council, the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China clearly put forward the requirement of "formulating detailed rules for implementation and clarifying teachers' educational disciplinary rights".
Good flowers don't bloom without watering, and young trees don't prune. Really good children are disciplined, both in management and teaching. Punishment education is an important part of "management".
Children are born to make mistakes, but if educators see children's wrong behavior and don't ask, it will make matters worse.
When children make mistakes, they are afraid and confused, and they are eager to ask for help from people around them.
If adults find out and give correct guidance and help in time, children will have personal experience and be willing to receive education.
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Although discipline education is very important and necessary, there must be a correct method.
Jane nelsen, a doctor of education, proposed in his book "Positive Discipline" that we should consider the principles of relevance, respect, rationality and helpfulness when formulating punishment measures for children.
Emphasize how to help children solve problems and put an end to mistakes, rather than how to punish children who make mistakes.
Method 1: Improve children's autonomy.
Mark Twain, a famous American short story writer, is not only a master of story writing, but also has his own methods of disciplining children. He has three daughters, who never beat and scold, but never tolerate their mistakes.
One day, the whole family will go to the farm for a holiday, which the children have been waiting for for for a long time. But before we left, our eldest daughter Susie made her sister Clara cry.
Unexpectedly, Susie volunteered. In order to remember her mistake, she decided to stay at home instead of going on holiday as a punishment for beating her sister.
It turns out that Mark Twain's "punishment rule" is to choose punishment: if a child makes a mistake, he will be punished. The content of punishment is put forward by the children themselves and can be implemented with the consent of parents.
Let children actively participate in the process of formulating punishment measures, which can improve their self-awareness and sense of responsibility for mistakes, and they are willing to actively implement their own punishment measures.
Method 2: Let children grow up in labor.
A friend's family has a six-year-old son. Every time she comes home from work, she works hard to clean the house, and her son will soon leave toys all over the floor and throw books everywhere.
Originally, she just yelled at the child angrily and then cleaned it up by herself. The result is still a mess.
Once she couldn't stand it, so she asked her son to clean the room by himself and let her eat after cleaning. The result was very effective, and the son obediently put everything back in its original place and put it neatly.
While eating, a friend patiently discussed with his son: "Mom works hard to make money every day and provide you with a good life. Can't you do something for her, too, just don't mess up her tidy room, will you? " If you mess up the room, your mood will be very messy and annoying, so it is a bad habit to mess up the room. "
The child is very sensible and nods. From then on, the child got used to a clean room and took the initiative to help his mother clean up the other rooms, because he didn't like things lying around.
This is the power of labor punishment, allowing children to participate in life and develop good living habits in labor.
Dewey, an American educator, said that education is life. Education divorced from children's real life is unscientific.
Method 3: Turn the accident into a story.
A successful American entrepreneur friend once fell in love with handcrafting because of his father's "angry punishment".
He and his brother are about ten years old. After watching the woodcarving boat made by my father for several months, they like it very much. They secretly took advantage of their parents' absence and came to the river in a small wooden boat, trying to make a great maiden voyage.
Unexpectedly, as soon as the boat reached the river, it sank to the bottom of the river and disappeared. The two children froze at once, thinking that their father would never let them go.
Indeed, dad was very angry, and asked them to take pocket money to the mall to buy all kinds of materials for making wooden boats, and then asked his son to make a wooden boat himself to compensate dad.
As a result, the children managed to make a decent wooden boat. At the same time, I also know why my father was so angry and why the wooden boat sank to the bottom of the river.
Anthony Mullen won the National Teacher Award in 2009. He once said that a really good teacher can read children's stories, edit children's mistakes and help children reach a perfect ending.
Correct disciplinary education can turn a child's accident into a perfect story.
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Manila, the son of Mahatma Gandhi, refused to go home in Altun's car for five or six hours because of a lying behavior of his 16-year-old son, while his son drove behind his father.
It turned out that a man still went to the movies and delayed the time to pick up his father, but lied to his father that it took a long time to repair the car.
Manila thinks that his son has no courage to tell the truth, but he is not a good father, which makes his son afraid to tell the truth. So I chose to punish myself.
It is the father's fault that his son doesn't teach. As parents, this is the first time in our lives. We are all inexperienced and all make mistakes.
Therefore, we should study and grow together with our children. When we ask our children not to make mistakes and punish them, we should also reflect on ourselves.
Parents should be a mirror for children, so that children can see their own shortcomings and problems through their parents' words and deeds, so that children can take root in the right and wrong of life.
Education itself is an art of turning the stone into gold, and disciplinary education is a two-way education for children and educators. If we do it properly, we can finally turn decay into magic.
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