Both husband and wife are eager to love their children, and they all want to cultivate promising children, which will add luster to the family and make their parents have more face. Family education is a project that needs to be adhered to for a long time, rather than a lip service. Fang Zhongyong, for example, has been smart and talented since he was a child. His parents should follow the trend, seize the opportunity of training, and love him. But parents float in the praise of relatives and neighbors, and often show their talents with Zhong Yong Jr. instead of studying. As a result, the "prodigy" became mediocre, which made people sigh.

Xiao Qiang was spoiled by her parents since she was a child, and she was almost responsive, with everything from snacks to clothes. Parents asked their two daughters to make way for their younger brother. Later, I found that my son's appetite was getting bigger and bigger, and I couldn't do it anymore. His parents deliberately suppressed his request. As a result, the 5-year-old son refused to forgive others, broke things at home, cried incessantly, and cut his clothes with scissors and tore them into strips. The father hit his son when he saw this, and the father and son didn't talk much for two months.

When Xiao Qiang was 8 years old, he once went shopping with his mother and passed a toy store. He jumped out of the car and went straight to the toy store. He took a fancy to a sports car toy and clamored for his mother to buy it for him. As a result, when he heard that he didn't have enough money, Xiao Qiang was lying on the ground. When he saw his mother leave, he tore her clothes and hair and kicked her. The egg her mother just bought fell and broke all over the floor. As a result, a circle of onlookers talked about it and advised her not to do so. Everyone advised Xiao Qiang not to be impatient and accused passers-by of meddling. This is their family affair, and no outsiders are needed to take care of it.

Xiao Qiang has become what he is now. Maybe we will accuse children of lack of upbringing, but where does upbringing come from? Closely related to family education. If parents don't indulge their children too much, they will give them whatever they want, and everyone will let him, not knowing how to refuse their unreasonable demands, infinitely amplifying their desires, resulting in a self-centered character. If you can't meet the requirements, you will lose your temper and even make a move to hit people and bite your parents. In fact, conniving at children is tantamount to cultivating an enemy for yourself. This also sounded the alarm for parents. What should children do if they want a good future and pay attention to family education?

Anyway; anyway/no matter what/ in any case

1, do things independently.

Pay attention to the cultivation of children's independence from childhood, and don't do everything yourself. For example, children have begun to gradually understand the world and learn a lot of skills from it. Some children could have eaten and dressed by themselves, but they can still get up after falling. Their families are always worried that they can't do well. They become the children's right-hand man, helping to feed, dress and help.

This is tantamount to limiting their opportunities to learn new skills. Children become lazy and unwilling to do it themselves, such as falling to the ground and watching adults cry, but they just can't get up. In fact, children are good at reading words and feelings. If there is no one around, he will get up quietly.

Therefore, family members should not restrict the cultivation of children's independent ability, do what they can, and adults should not interfere easily.

2. The dilemma is tolerable.

Children will encounter all kinds of difficulties in life, and it is beneficial to experience some difficulties properly. Growing up in a comfortable environment makes children vulnerable. When children encounter difficulties, adults can predict the degree of difficulties. If it is within the child's tolerance, you can take advantage of the trend and let the child solve the difficulties independently; Give a helping hand to the greater difficulties, because their abilities cannot be solved smoothly.

Three are not used to it

1, disrespect others

Parents find that children don't respect others. For example, when a castle built by one child with sand was kicked down by another child B, A cried and complained to his mother. As a result, A's mother accused B of kicking someone else's castle. Actually, B wanted to play with A, but was turned down. In a rage, he made it clear that no one wants to play unless you let me.

At this time, B's mother came over and didn't care after understanding the situation. She casually said that they were all children, so she kicked them down and piled them up. As a result, two adults quarreled.

It can be seen that children's disrespect for others can be seen from their parents' upbringing. Some parents will guide them in time and teach them the correct way of communication. For example, they tell their children that if they want to play with them, they have to get permission from others. If the child refuses to play with you, you can also refuse.

Some parents will take it seriously, thinking that children are like this and let them solve it themselves. Instead of apologizing to others, taking responsibility and correcting mistakes. In fact, parents did not seize the opportunity of education in time, which became a kind of connivance and lack.

2, unprincipled bottom line

As the saying goes, Fiona Fang can't be made without rules. Freedom that children can't have must be based on rules. Parents and children should agree on the rules in advance, and if they violate them, they should be punished in strict accordance with the rules, instead of turning a blind eye and treating the rules as a dead letter, otherwise the children will become unprincipled and bottomless.

3. Lack of sense of responsibility

Everyone should have a sense of responsibility. With a sense of responsibility, parents can assume the responsibility of the family, provide for the aged and raise their children. Children's sense of responsibility is an important quality to society. When you make a mistake, you will take the initiative to take responsibility, not pass the buck.

Discussion topic: How do you think parents need to train their children to succeed?