Recently, in Xi 'an, Shaanxi, a mother pretended to evade the bill, and her 5-year-old son insisted on going back to pay. Mom, Ms. Li, said that after dinner downstairs, the child said that he wanted to drink water and asked him to go to the convenience store next door to get a bottle. At that time, he had no money in his hand, so he took credit at the convenience store. Because the child likes cards very much at ordinary times, she wants to try him with this thing to see if he can choose cards. Finally, he chose to pay the boss, and he was quite happy at that time.
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Faced with the mother's complacency, some netizens expressed different opinions: Why should we take an examination of a simple child? If you do it right, you will naturally become a role model for children. Some netizens commented that it is too bad to accept the test of human nature from an early age.
Mother's starting point is good, but we should also pay attention to the boundaries in reverse education. If you know that your mother is testing him, will you feel used and cheated by your mother and boss, or you should consider your child's careful thoughts. Let's suppose that if the result of the test is that the child chooses the card instead of giving the boss water and money? "Reverse education" is not to make children afraid to take risks, but to let them know the risks.
"Reverse education" advocates that when children insist on doing unreasonable things, they should be allowed to do them, not to scold them, not to make trouble unreasonably, not to stop them, and let them experience the feeling of bearing the consequences personally, and then naturally do the right thing. This kind of education is conducive to cultivating children's concept and consciousness of independent learning and independent growth, and making children more independent. Parents should remember to pay attention to ways and means while educating their children. Children are still young, so it is really inappropriate to test them.
Although many parents say that "reverse education" is sometimes effective, it is not a panacea. There are individual differences among children. This way of education does not mean that it is suitable for any child. Parents should make appropriate adjustments according to their children's specific conditions, make specific analysis, and correctly guide and accompany their children in order to give them a better future.