It is said that "words must be done", and the way a child speaks hides his education and quality.

-Mama Deer

I went to a relative's house for dinner the other day.

On the occasion of family reunion, children get together to play games, and adults talk about everything. The atmosphere is harmonious and beautiful.

Only my little nephew, because "outspoken", can always attract the attention of others.

Other children are quietly playing with toys and discussing games. Only he "speaks amazingly" and keeps swearing.

Because I am a little fat, and my husband is the kind of figure that "doesn't eat much meat", our body problems have become his laughing stock when eating.

We two adults, both embarrassed by what he said, could only smile silently because of face, and ate the feeling of "blocking the heart".

In addition to attacking us during the dinner, my nephew will laugh at the woman who wears makeup and say, "Will it scare you if you take off your makeup?" Laugh at relatives who use low-end mobile phones. "The mobile phones I eliminated are more advanced than yours."

His parents always look at him kindly and proudly say that children now know so much.

From the day I met my little nephew, what he said was almost sarcastic.

It is said that children talk nonsense, but the harm and embarrassment of language to people will not be reduced because the speaker is young.

A child who can't talk loses when he opens his mouth.

Others don't even have to listen carefully to their content, just know their hard-to-hide malice through their tone and posture.

Speaking appropriately and being polite to people reflects a child's emotional intelligence and also shows his cultivation.

Talking well is a compulsory course for children all their lives.

There is also a greedy boy in Metamorphosis. He is the son of Ji.

Because his mother was busy with her work, Zhao Chu Chang grew up with her grandmother.

Grandma's doting turned him into a child who talks no big or little.

When playing iPad, he would lie in bed in one position for three hours.

Grandma came in to call him, and he kicked her out with a "you don't understand people's words".

After the renovation began, he went to the countryside with several other guests and children.

Several people went up the mountain to cut firewood together, and he directed others to work like a bully.

"I want to go home, you chop, chop!"

I was so angry that someone hit him with an axe and let him cut it himself.

In fact, this boy may not really be so "annoying", he also has his own bright spots.

However, behind his sharp mouth, many advantages are eclipsed.

Language is the window for others to know you, and the content and tone of your speech are your business cards.

During the epidemic, I saw a video "Four dishes that Hubei people never want to see", which impressed me deeply.

A little girl kept vomiting with all kinds of plates:

This video caused a heated discussion among netizens, and many people said:

A kind word is warm in three winters, and a child who speaks politely and appropriately must be very popular.

Bad words hurt people in June, and dirty children will be disliked wherever they go.

Talking well is a compulsory course in children's life and a way of interpersonal communication.

Children's "childlike innocence" contains family education.

I have seen such a video online.

A little boy said in an interview that I want to be an astronaut and take my grandmother to travel in space.

This is like a joke, but it also reveals the most heartfelt truth of education.

The child speaks like you. There is a kind of family education hidden in the child's words.

Educator Kimura said a long time ago:

"Parents with children should not use rude language, even for domestic animals."?

Parents' words and deeds will accumulate aggression in children's minds, and they will also let children follow suit and learn to hurt others with words.

In the TV series "Tiger Mom and Cat Dad", the little girl Cece is also a sharp-tongued child.

Behind her, there is a person who is more bitter than her, and that is her grandmother who grew up with her.

The family went to visit grandma's friends in the country. When a friend showed off her granddaughter's award for a wall, grandma not only didn't praise it, but also said, "This can't be eaten."

How does Cece treat children?

The children went to the fields to pick melons for Hong Chen. Hong Chen said proudly, there are bacteria on it, and there are bacteria in your mouth.

Say that finish, also take disinfection paper towel into the girl's mouth.

People who can't talk have many "wild animals" waiting to be released.

If a child's parents are never good at talking, then there will be more and more "beasts" in the child's heart, which will become more and more fierce.

So as soon as they talk, the "beast" will run out and hurt people.

Educator Suhomlinski said:

"Every moment, when you see a child, you see yourself."

The way a child speaks is a reflection of his parents' daily education.

Those gentle, modest, reasonable and restrained children must have parents who know how to tolerate and patiently teach behind them;

And behind those rude children, there must be those rude and cynical parents.

The most successful education

Is to raise a talking child.

There is a term in psychology called "kimchi effect", which means:

Soak the same vegetable in different water for a while and then cook it separately.

In this way, we will find that the cooked food tastes different.

The same is true of educating children. The same children, different education methods, different family atmosphere, different children.

If you want to raise a talking child, parents should work hard in these aspects:

1, have a good talk with children

The Korean variety "Superman is Back" can be described as a clown that everyone loves. No matter what happens, she can be gentle and friendly, and her language is gentle.

Nain accidentally spilled the drink because it was too heavy when he went to the restaurant to eat.

She didn't cry or pass the buck, but went to the waiter for help. "Sister, I'm sorry, I spilled it outside. Please give me a tissue."

When cleaning up with the waiter, Nain said that my father told me to do something wrong or bring trouble to others, to be brave in taking responsibility, never to escape and never to lie.

How did Nunn's father raise such a warm little girl?

In fact, it is very simple, that is, talk to children well, don't be emotional, and don't communicate violently.

Nain is in charge of taking care of his brother when his father sleeps. In order to "cook" for her brother, she poured a big bag of cereal on the ground and wanted her father to "share" with her.

When I saw all this, my father almost collapsed inside.

If you are an ordinary parent, you will blurt out things like "You just know how to make trouble" and "Why can't you do this well".

However, Nunn's father didn't accuse her of beating and cursing, but asked Nunn softly, are you going to cook for your brother?

After getting a positive answer, dad Quana nan did a good job.

Nain also realized his mistake and quickly said to his father, "I'll help him clean up."

We always envy other people's children, don't lose our temper, speak modestly and politely, but always forget to observe how other people's parents communicate with their children.

2. Use more polite expressions.

I often hear a mother in the community complain:

"You said that my children are all well, with good grades and good looks. Why can't they talk properly?

Talking makes people choke, and teachers and classmates don't like her very much. Taking care of children is really helpless. "

Once, I happened to meet her and her children in a restaurant.

There are many people on weekends, and the food is inevitably a bit slow. She called the waiter and scolded him:

"Can't you see that we have been sitting here for so long?"

The napkin on the table is missing. She is telling the waiter what to do:

"How do you work as a waiter?"

......

I finally understand that it is not her daughter who can't talk well, but herself.

If parents don't even have basic manners to treat people, how can they ask their children to talk well?

Whether parents whisper or swear to others will flow into their children's ears intact and eventually become their language.

Behind a family where words like "please", "trouble" and "thank you" often appear, a child who speaks well can be raised.

3. When the child says something wrong, guide him in time.

The best way to prevent children's words from becoming "uneducated" is for parents to correct and guide them in time.

I remember when my daughter was a child, she saw a chubby little girl and pointed and shouted, "Mom, look at her."

At that time, I seriously told her:

"Everyone wants to be beautiful, and babies like to listen to others praise themselves, right? Just like others say you are black, you will be sad. She will be very sad if you say she is fat. "

Later, when I met children, I always laughed at others with runny noses.

The daughter took her and told the child seriously: "Mom said it was impolite. Don't say to his face that he has a runny nose, or he will be very unhappy. "

If a child says something wrong, or says something ugly, parents must never use "being a child" as a cover.

Tell your child what not to say and what is impolite in time, and teach your child to apologize if necessary.

A person's mouth is a person's feng shui.

A modest and polite little lady is always more worthy of respect than a bully.

A child who knows how to speak well and can express himself in just the right language can get applause wherever he goes.

Cultivating a child who speaks well is the most successful education for a family.