The debate about the quality of education has never stopped. Some parents' education succeeded, and some parents' education failed and gained a lot of experience. Regardless of strict religion or Buddhism, those successful examples of education still have a lot in common.
1. In the process of children's growth, parents are never absent.
We often hear that "companionship is the best education", and the role of companionship is self-evident.
Buddhist education is also obvious. Parents will encourage their children, pay attention to their situation and accompany them to solve various problems. A good education means that parents are always by their children's side, and the children's hearts are always warm and they will never feel lonely.
2. Lead by example and guide children to be positive.
The implicit education of "imperceptibly following the trend" has been ignored by many parents. Parents usually find that it is not easy for children to learn well, but it is very simple to learn "bad". Without teaching, they got into a bad habit. Why? On the one hand, people in our nature will change with the environment, on the other hand, we learn from our parents' usual thoughts and practices.
From birth, children are exposed to their parents' behavior. If parents want their children to be positive, they should start from themselves.
3, step by step, perseverance.
Education is a protracted war, and parents should be psychologically prepared. Children grow up in stages, infants, children, adolescence and so on. Parents' educational strategies are different at different stages. Care for children, respect for teenagers, and more consultation in high school.
Parents should influence their children step by step. For example, when they are 3-6 years old, they can be properly given two hands. When you reach puberty, you should let go more, cultivate your independent ability and make good reserves for your growth. In high school, parents should weaken their influence and let their children gradually become the main body, with their own opinions and ability to handle things.
Education is a ring, and it is easy to give up halfway without lasting. It takes three generations to make a gentleman.
4. Cultivate children's independent motivation and learn self-discipline.
On the way to study, autonomy and self-discipline are indispensable. This is an internal driving force. Children can do things spontaneously and learn spontaneously, which is much better than the role of external forces. Those so-called "other people's children" basically have good habits of autonomy or self-discipline.
In this respect, parents should cultivate early and benefit early. For example, which is faster, a child who urges to do homework or a child who goes home and starts doing homework without asking himself? Which is more worry-free, the answer must be the latter. Because children have self-discipline.