1. No matter what happens, please keep calm first. If the child is injured, deal with the child's injury first, comfort the injured child, and never humiliate him. For example, "Look, I told you not to play with people. If you don't listen to me, you will be beaten like this. Really deserved it! " . Often humiliating children like this will seriously hurt their self-esteem, especially when there are other children present, which will lead to children's psychological shadow and even fear of interacting with others, which will lead to their loneliness, and even lead to social phobia or other psychological obstacles in serious cases.
Secondly, first of all, we should pay attention to the children's emotional feelings, not the events themselves. Maybe what really happened is small, but your child came to you crying. At this point, you should first pay attention to the child's feeling and pain of being bullied, instead of reprimanding the child to stop crying immediately, asking him what happened, who bullied him or where he was beaten or what he was robbed, let alone running to beat and scold another child when he saw the child crying. Because doing so, it is easy for children to form the impression that "my feelings are not important" and will gradually close the door for children to communicate with you. Before finding out what really happened, it is easy to teach another child, which will not only hurt the child you have taught, but also probably make the crying child form a dependent psychology and develop a timid character.
3. Pay attention to the emotional feelings of children who come to you for help, and also pay attention to the emotional feelings of children who don't take the initiative to find you. Remember, it takes two hands to clap. In most cases, conflicts between children are caused by both sides. Don't take sides. Even if your children have conflicts with other children, don't indiscriminately think that it is the problem of other children. Children don't need adults to judge right and wrong in conflict. Children fighting is actually a way for them to communicate. As long as they are not injured, parents don't need excessive intervention, just pay attention to their emotional feelings and guide them to learn to express their thoughts and feelings in words. If it is a special case, such as a child really bullying another child, then you need to talk to the parents of that child and teach the child to protect himself and try to avoid the child who always beats others.