Ceng Laoshi said that it is the most normal family structure to run in the family. We blindly learn from the United States, and the life of the elderly in the United States is very bleak.
Why does this run in the family? Children can directly see how their parents treat their grandparents. Filial piety goes without saying. How you treat your parents, your children will treat you in the future.
It runs in a family composed of the old, the middle-aged and the young, which is also the basic social structure. Children who grow up here can naturally enhance their social adaptability.
In China, the smallest unit is not an individual, but a family, which distinguishes us from other cultures. It is not appropriate to blindly learn foreign lifestyles.
I have always envied those families who take care of their children by themselves and have little contact with their parents. I think grandparents always want to intervene and always spoil them.
In fact, as long as everyone knows their own boundaries, especially parents get our respect and care, these contradictions can be alleviated.
Of course, it doesn't necessarily live under the same roof when it runs in a family, but it can live very close. In Ceng Laoshi's words, the key is that you have parents in your heart.
In this class, Ceng Laoshi also said that the most fundamental thing in family education is to teach children to cherish their own blessings.
Middle-aged people benefit from hard work. The more they benefit, the more they enjoy in their later years. Both children and the elderly are enjoying the blessings, but children must know how to cherish the blessings, otherwise their parents' family property will be ruined sooner or later.
Regarding work, Ceng Laoshi said, don't always think about how difficult the work is, and don't feel antagonistic, but deal with it easily.
Work is for the benefit, for the benefit of others, for the benefit of society, for the benefit of oneself. Benefit more when you are young and enjoy happiness in your later years.
Now that living conditions are good, it is easy for children not to cherish them. At that time, in order to buy a writing desk for children, I took a fancy to thousands of functional ones, and my father was less than 200 practical ones, which didn't take up much space at home.
Just when I hesitated, I learned from Zheng's book Family Education that the primary school he chose for his daughter was in the suburbs, and the conditions were very poor, which abandoned all the good schools at home. He said that his daughter knows how to cherish and know what good conditions are.
Because of the problem of food in suburban schools, his daughter finally transferred to an international school and always praised the good conditions of the school.
Finally, I agree with my father that educating children is not as expensive as possible.
Now that the material conditions are so good, as long as children are involved, people choose the most expensive food and clothing, regardless of the cost.
Choose the most expensive one, and you will feel at ease in the face of children. Instead of this, it is better to know more about family education and learn how to educate and guide children and better accompany them. This is also a kind of peace of mind.
I choose to read more books, give some money and material input appropriately, and make progress with my children.