How to educate children and how to educate them well is the responsibility of parents. Different educational methods eventually lead to the development direction of children. After all, children can't live under the protection of their parents forever, and they must grow up. Let's analyze how to cultivate and educate children.
How to train and educate children 1 first, don't spoil children. Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "a loving mother often bears a child." Most of today's families are only children, and parents' requirements for their children are as satisfying as possible. If you don't get what they want, I'll give you a hard time. The emergence of this situation is mostly caused by parents doting on their children since childhood. Be strict when it is time to be strict. Of course, this does not mean to punish children. These are two different things.
Second, the exemplary role of parents. Children's first educational environment is family. Parents' behavior and habits will be imitated by children. Therefore, when parents are around their children, try not to have bad habits and behaviors. For example, if you throw cigarette butts and litter, children will still think it is allowed. In the future, he will learn to throw, so that children will have bad habits. Therefore, in front of children, parents should try their best to give them correct guidance.
Third, enlarge children's interest. Every child will have his own prejudices and specialties, which can be cultivated from wine. For example, some children like to build blocks from an early age. You can choose to let him start with something simple, and then make it more difficult for him when he is proficient. Finally, you can give him some templates of the house and let him explore slowly. Maybe he will be interested in engineering construction in the future, and maybe he will become a professional in this field.
Fourth, cultivate children's study habits from an early age, so that children can treat their study as if they were working. As long as you get home, the first thing to do is to do your homework, and then you can do something else. Stick to it for a long time, and gradually he will know that he will do his homework as soon as he gets home. In the long run, he will gradually become interested in learning. You don't have to tell him when he is completely interested. He will ask you for any information he needs. At this time, you can try to satisfy him.
Fifth, don't punish children as soon as they make mistakes. As long as children make mistakes, the most common way for many parents is to beat and scold their children. Imagine who didn't make mistakes when he was a child. The correct way is to help him realize his mistakes and let him make up for them himself.
Sixth, keep your word in front of children, and don't make impossible promises to children easily. Children have a good memory. Making promises they can't keep will make them lose confidence in you and it will be difficult to educate them in the future. Because he can take your previous promise as an example.
How to cultivate and educate children II. First, teach children to love and learn to be human.
First of all, we should pay attention to the cultivation of children's character, be atmospheric, don't care too much about interests, be kind to others, be kind to others, and be a person with rich emotional intelligence; Don't be proud of your achievements, don't be discouraged when you encounter difficulties, and establish a personality of being kind to others, winning with sincerity and being optimistic.
Second, start with small things and cultivate good habits.
Having a good living habit will benefit you for life. If you think it's good, others like it. Therefore, I have trained my children to learn to do what they can from an early age, and at the same time pay attention to cultivating their interpersonal skills and hygiene habits.
Third, provide opportunities for exercise and enhance self-confidence.
Don't always think that the child is still young, too many things can't be done well, or don't trust him to do it. When encountering difficulties, children can be prompted to use their brains or encouraged to practice. Through exercise, children can gain self-confidence and enhance their willpower to overcome difficulties.
Fourth, set an example and seize the opportunity.
In the process of children's growth, many words and deeds are actually imitated by parents, so parents should pay attention to their words and deeds in front of their children. Always encourage and help children, affirm progress, give guidance when encountering setbacks, help them analyze the truth and find out the problems, thus exercising their psychological endurance and psychological balance, as well as their strong will and character in the face of difficulties.
How to Cultivate Children's Correct Three Views
Reward and punish children clearly, encourage praise when doing well, and criticize education when doing badly, but parents should not be too tough and extreme. Children themselves have no judgment. It is important to teach children to judge in an event.
Teach children to treat others equally, and let them realize the important concept of equality for all, especially as parents, who can't let themselves have the privilege to do whatever they want, so that children will question their parents' discipline because they feel unfairly treated.
Get along with children like friends, let children feel that they are the objects to talk to, and let parents know their innermost thoughts for the first time.
How to Cultivate and Educate Children 3 Parents should make up their minds to correct their own problems:
Parents are the children's first teachers and the teachers who have the greatest influence on their children. If you want to cultivate excellent children, you must first make yourself excellent. For example, parents with bad temper should make up their minds to correct their bad temper and learn to adjust their mentality; For example, parents who like to sleep late should resolutely get rid of the habit of sleeping late. How can we ask our children to get up early when we sleep late?
Suppression is not as good as persuasion;
Education for children, rather than guidance, is better to suppress, which is suitable for children's development and will not make children rebellious. Problem children is actually a very clever boy with a strong thirst for knowledge. If we just tell them not to do this or that, they will either be afraid to do anything or become disobedient. I remember a friend who taught his children this way. His children like to doodle on the wall.
No matter what his parents do, it is difficult to control his behavior. Later, his parents simply left him a wall. When the child 12 years old, his child won the first prize of the provincial painting art competition. This tells us that educating children focuses on persuasion rather than repression.
Don't neglect the children around you;
Although the child is small, the heart is not small. Remember the way the children whispered to us? Children know to whisper, but parents don't? Parents should remember that when children are around, we should pay attention to our words and deeds. For example, some parents like to talk about their children's grievances and face imbalance in front of their children, blindly mocking other people's children and threatening what to do.
When children hear this, they will feel that they are not at fault, that they have a backer, and that they will become competitive and unassuming when they get along with others in the future. The correct way is to help children analyze problems objectively and teach them how to be polite even if they are not at fault.
Don't make fun of children at will;
Parents or friends sometimes make their children unhappy in order to make them happy. For example, deliberately hiding children's toys, or when children are alone, friends say that parents don't want them, which often scares children and makes them feel insecure. If you joke with children often, children will become fond of joking with others, but children are not measured and prone to accidents.
Understand the child's mind:
There is a divorced single father with two children. His sister is 5 years old and his brother is 4 years old. His father teaches his children to learn English words. Every morning, he must read the words he taught accurately before he can go to school. My brother read ten smoothly from one, two and three ... My sister finished eight, paused and jumped directly to ten, that is, she didn't read nine. After many times, my father was furious and repeatedly taught my sister to read. My sister cried and read it again and again, but she always skipped nine pages.
My sister was late for school, and the class teacher (female teacher) asked why. It turns out that my sister knows the pronunciation of nine, but she thinks the pronunciation of nine is the same as the pronunciation of "milk" in Chinese, so she is embarrassed to speak. After the father knew this reason, he never forced his daughter to read this word again.