First of all, my daughter is lucky to grow up in a better family, and there is no ideological atmosphere of son preference. From the time she was born, basically everything was in her father's charge. My views are basically the same as those of my family. Of course, my educational philosophy is based on the right foundation. My daughter's name is "Xiangyi", which means "Yi", which is the name of a beautiful woman. From the beginning, I wanted my daughter to be an aura girl! Secondly, her five elements are short of water, so her name is short of water. My role has changed since she was born. How to realize successful family education is a subject before me. Shortly after her birth (at the end of 2002), I moved in August 2003. Not as great as Meng Mu's Three Movements, just for a better living environment. The environment has changed, but the income has not changed much. Still hovering on the edge of food and clothing. During the two years in my new house, I gave my daughter more enlightenment education. Even in financial difficulties, I will provide my daughter with the toys I should have. Because of the lack of material, the nutritional value of my daughter in the past two years is only above average, not bad. This was found in her physical examination. I remember that year, in order to buy her a dining table, I scrimped and saved for a while to buy it. As my daughter grew up, I realized that my environment was difficult to adapt to her growth needs. In addition, my mother said it was not suitable for living in a five-story commercial house, and she often had minor health problems. On second thought, I decided to make a bold decision, sell my house and move back to my hometown. The difference in the appreciation of the house is just used to decorate the original tile house. In August 2005, I moved back to the original tile house. I use the money from selling my house to invest in small businesses. After a year of preparation, my daughter and mother worked as salesgirls in Taikang drugstore for three months, and accumulated some experience. I also found an investment project that suits me. In August 2006, I started another way of life. At this time, my daughter also began to go to kindergarten. The living conditions at home have gradually improved.
Secondly, my daughter has a happy childhood. Since 2006, my daughter has basically begun to understand. Living in her old new house, she has almost no memory. Because it is convenient to do business, I often contact booksellers. Therefore, children's enlightenment education series can be obtained at a batch price. Before my daughter went to bed, I told her to read one book at a time. I told her vividly with my old professional skills, so that her daughter could fall asleep laughing every night. Every time my daughter comes back from school, she will tell what she saw and heard at school. I am her best listener. I also asked her to say it in front of her family, and I photographed it with my mobile phone. Unfortunately, due to the poor performance of the mobile phone at that time, the photo effect was not very good, but this did not affect her daughter's desire for expression and language training ability. This also makes her happy to go to school every day. Every semester, she has special schoolbags and stationery that are not available locally; It's cold, she has a beautiful scarf and hat; In summer, she owns an artificial swimming pool (I bought her a swimming ring the size of a bed), plays with her neighbors, her cousins and even myself, and Lang Lang's laughter spreads all over the yard. The only regret is that my mother always complains that the water fee is too high. My daughter never worries about her academic performance. Even if she doesn't do well in the exam, she won't worry about being scolded by her parents. As long as she does a little better in the exam, she can always be praised. In addition to praising her face to face, I also mobilized my relatives and friends to praise her. If she gets excellent grades, she can call her uncle in Panyu to report the good news. When she comes back for the Spring Festival, her uncle will buy her new clothes. From the first grade, I will register her scores in every exam and let her set her own goals. Most of the time, she can accomplish her learning goals. Unfortunately, due to computer failure, all her records before the fifth grade were deleted. Fortunately, her student handbook can still retrieve the remaining memories. Many times, I always ask my daughter, "Xiangyi, what's bothering you?" My daughter replied, "My only problem is that you always ask me what's bothering me! Are you bored? ! "I told my daughter that childhood ended in the sixth grade. So, she wrote an article "Farewell to Childhood" and began her dream-chasing era!
Thirdly, my daughter has received a pragmatic way of education. What qualities should a person cultivate before primary school? These qualities will lay the foundation for her later life! What is the most pragmatic quality? Filial piety, wisdom, courage and love; Polite and honest; Perseverance and concentration; Have dreams and innovations; I have a sense of responsibility and can do things. These qualities have always been rooted in my heart, and I believe this is right, so I have been committed to the cultivation and education of these qualities for my daughter. Let the daughter develop the quality of filial piety, without which, the power of example. To this end, I have "Three Chapters of the Constitution" at home: 1. The younger generation must not be rude to the elders; 2. The younger generation should try their best to finish what the elders ordered, and can't delay; Try not to do things that elders don't like. I use this to ask my daughter, and at the same time let her monitor whether I follow suit. In the past, to be honest, I couldn't do these three things myself, and sometimes I lost my temper with my mother. What my mother tells me often goes in one ear and out the other. My mother's nagging is very annoying. Under the urging of my daughter, I gradually achieved the above three points, and found that my mother often praised me in front of relatives, and my daughter dared not surpass me in front of her grandmother. In my family, you can't see the contradiction between the younger generation and the older generation. My wife never dares to contradict her in front of my mother. I care about her without him. I am as filial to her parents as my own. In this regard, I seldom preach in front of my daughter, but try my best.
Since 2008, I have consciously brought my daughter to purchase goods together. First, it can increase her knowledge, second, it can show her parents' hardships, and third, it can educate her from practice. Enter the large-scale mass market, first show your daughter the map and exercise her sense of direction; When I ordered the goods, the merchant submitted a quotation for approval. I asked my daughter to write down the price as much as possible and repeat it to * * * mom when she got back. I can do it, and I believe my daughter can do it, too. As for the new products, I let my daughter judge for herself whether they sell well or not, whether she should buy more goods, and cultivate her judgment and decision-making ability. Even if all the products are postponed, she won't regret it. Practice has proved true knowledge. As far as I can remember, my daughter was stuck in the van with me several times in the car, which coincided with the summer vacation. It was so hot that she survived without carsickness. Sometimes I need to spend the night in Guangzhou. I have taken her to her uncle's house in Panyu, taken her to the subway several times and been to Guangzhou Zoo. I asked her to remember the names of the subway stations along the way, and she could remember them. You can often see the situation of giving up your seat in the subway. In her composition, she often writes about giving up her seat. I remember the first time I took her to eat western food (also the first time). I whispered to her, "Try not to make any noise, just follow your cousin." Results 10 minutes later, she learned well and didn't make a fool of herself. I have brought my daughter to the stock many times, and many of my suppliers know my daughter. My daughter also has a general impression of Guangzhou and Huizhou. 20 12 bought goods in Huizhou, missed the bus very late, and also brought six boxes of goods. It's past 5 o'clock, and a bus is coming. It's a pity that we can't hold so many goods, so we can only load them in two trips. The bus is waiting at the station for only a few minutes. I asked my daughter, "Aunt Xiang, you take three boxes of goods to Longmen first, and I will get off next to you.". When you get to the station, wait for * * * to meet you at the station. If someone tells you, you can't get off. Do you dare to go? " "Dare!" Daughter said, immediately get on the bus, without any unnecessary hesitation. I immediately loaded the goods, greeted the driver, paid the money, remembered the car number and drove away. I immediately called my daughter's mother, told her to wait at the station and told her the car number. Half an hour later, I got on the next bus back to Longmen. I found the number of the conductor of the previous car through the driver and the number of the first car, called her and asked her to give it to my daughter. After the phone was connected, I knew my daughter was safe and praised her a few words. My heart has settled down. This is a dangerous training. At that time, my daughter was only 10 years old, and she successfully passed my test! Over time, the responsibility is great! Think about it, many contemporary college students will be picked up by their parents as soon as they enter the university gate, and their clothes will be sent home for washing. As you can imagine, when my daughter 18 years old, these are not problems. Later, my wife criticized me for being too cruel. I asked my daughter, "Were you scared?" The daughter replied, "No, I know you are in the back."
As my daughter grew up, I began to instill honesty and ideal education in her. First of all, I will try my best to finish everything I promised my daughter. Never break the contract and accept her supervision. For example, what kind of reward she can get for doing housework and what kind of reward she can get for taking the exam, I can cash it. My daughter makes her own study plan, when to do her homework and when to go to bed, and she also accepts my supervision. Most of the time, I don't need to rush, I'm just responsible for reminding her of the time. I don't need to wake her up every morning, but she often wakes me up. There is one thing I don't lack at home, and that is the clock. There are basically clocks in the living room and every room. She can know the exact time anytime, anywhere. After the third grade, I basically stopped asking about her homework and just looked at it occasionally. If there is no problem, she will find Baidu herself, and of course she can find me. All I can mention is that the living room (note: at the end of 20 12, I have moved into a two-story building with 6 rooms and 2 halls) should have a computer and a special computer room. The computer room can only be opened on weekends, and the computer in the living room can only be used to find information. It is impossible to play games from Monday to Thursday, because the living room computer can only listen to songs and find information under the supervision of her grandmother. There is no computer in her room for the time being, because she has to knock at the door when entering her room. What if there is a computer? My daughter sometimes asks me, "Dad, what's college like?" "I want to go to Xishuangbanna, Yunnan." "I want to go to the Great Wall of Beijing", "I want to fly" and so on. I immediately realized that it was time to receive an ideal education. Many parents often ignore this point and always perfunctory. "Do you want to go to Xishuangbanna? Dream on, I've never been there either. If you want to go to the Great Wall, the ticket is very expensive and there is no money. " My approach is to go online with my daughter immediately, find out all these places, the way to go and how much it will cost, write them down, and promise her to take her when I earn the money I need, or she can go by herself, and I will provide sponsorship. After a while, she asked again, "What do people on the grassland say? Do they welcome us to go? Where are you staying at night? Are Inner Mongolia and Outer Mongolia the same country? Is it far from us? " I answered patiently one by one and took the opportunity to guide: "Xiang Yi, as long as you have the opportunity to study abroad in the future, all this can be realized. I'll give you 1 0,000 yuan a month for meals, and you can take a summer job yourself. If you earn money, you can go wherever you want. " "What if the money is not enough?" She said, I said, "At that time, as long as you can often video with me, I will remit money to you privately, which is silly!" "Oh, yes, mom won't." What is the ideal? Ideal is what children want to do when they are young. She will naturally study hard for what she wants to do.
My daughter lacks housework. This may be related to her having a hardworking grandmother and a lazy father. I have never had a chance to do housework since I was a child. My mother is always busy. My mother is still doing housework. My daughter can only fry poached eggs, and my wife will make her a New Year's Eve dinner. It's not my father's turn to go into the kitchen. After moving to a new house, the situation has improved. We clean the second floor every day, and my mother only cleans the first floor. On the second floor, my daughter and I take turns cleaning. But at the critical moment, the daughter can also come in handy. In April this year, I was hospitalized in Huizhou due to illness (see My Days in ICU Ward for details), and my wife had to accompany me. Because the stall could not be closed for long, my wife called her daughter and ordered her to open a shop on Saturday and Sunday. After my niece opens the door in the morning, my daughter will watch the shop for two days. It doesn't matter how much you sell. The key compartment door should be opened. As a result, my daughter successfully completed the task, which made me feel very gratified in the hospital bed of Dongping Hospital in Huizhou. When I was just sick and had a drainage tube, I went to Huizhou to approve the first batch of market acquisitions. Back home, everything is as usual, but I feel that my daughter is more sensible and knows how to comfort my grandmother when I am away. The formation of children's sense of responsibility requires parents' letting go and trust.
My daughter is about to spend her childhood and begin to enter her girlhood. At this time, perseverance exercise is particularly important. I promised my daughter to run with her for seven years until she graduated from high school. This not only tests my daughter, but also tests my perseverance. I made an appointment with my daughter to run for a month in a row and let her buy a dress from Taobao. Run for three years in a row and equip her with the latest laptop and mobile phone. My daughter and I often say: "The revolution has not yet succeeded, comrades still have to work hard!"
Finally, I think my daughter's greatest luck is to have a father who keeps pace with the times and knows some educational concepts!