As a parent, do you always pay attention to the growth of your child, and do you break your heart for your child? Do you agree that education is a complex system?

Education is not simple, it is a complex system.

The knowledge of simple systems is not enough to assemble children into cars; A child is more like a tree. What they need is sunshine and rain, proper fertilizer, companionship and patience.

Parents must grow up with their children. Let children grow sturdily, and parents themselves should have a growing mentality.

Mr. Fan Deng read widely and explained many educational books. This book has 52 sections. The book puts forward three pillars of parenting education:

1, unconditional love.

True love needs no exchange. No demands, no conditions, no intimidation or threats.

Accept a child's imperfections and love him even if he makes mistakes.

Because the process of growing up is the process of making mistakes. If the young tree grows crooked, correct it. .

2. Values.

Adler said that values and belonging are very important for a person.

A sense of belonging makes people feel inclusive and accepted, while a sense of value determines how high a person can fly.

Values make people have self-esteem, motivation and ambition. When a person realizes that his life is valuable, he will not give up easily.

3. Growth mentality.

Growth-oriented thinking, develop a lifelong growth mentality. A person with a lifelong growth mentality will feel that every experience is an opportunity to learn.

Jane nelsen, the author of Positive Discipline, said: "If you feel pain, hardship, disappointment and sadness in the process of educating your children, it must be because the method is wrong."

For adolescent children, it is necessary to realize that rebellion is not the child's fault, but the child's self-protection.

Behind every rebellious child is helplessness. The book tells the reasons of children's addictive behavior, so you can read it yourself.

Be active parents, do more positive things and build love connections.

We can travel together, explore the world together, watch the movies he is interested in, talk about the topics he is interested in and show together. . .

Take the attitude of "waiting for flowers to bloom" and actively and correctly guide, care, understand, interact and travel. . .

In Courage Regardless of Teaching, every child's growth ultimately depends on his consciousness, making him realize that his life depends on his own learning, control and construction.

Parents only believe that their children have their own vitality, allow them to grow in their own way, and accompany them to grow sturdily with their lifelong growth mentality. . .