The most beautiful education is the simplest, simple and simple, and the core is several universal values.
The first thing is to be truly open-minded. Mencius recorded this state: Luz was very happy to hear it, and Dayu admired it after listening to good words. If you are self-centered and instinctively feel that you are right, it is a closed mind. No matter what books you read and theories you listen to, you will only accept what you like to listen to. The Art of Thinking is a good classic to cultivate independent thinking and critical thinking.
Second, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. People who don't do well will do it to themselves. Many negative examples in these books are parents' "strict requirements" for their children in an anti-human way. For example, a child made an unintentional mistake with good intentions, and his mother, his sister-in-law and his elders coerced the child to admit his mistake and apologize. I used to be a good teacher, and I know how much most adults hate hearing things they don't want to hear. Even if you tell them very tactfully, cautiously and privately, 90% of people's reactions are refutation and 9% are fleeing. The book says well that adults can do this because children are too weak and easy to bully. Some parents also want their children to sleep after watching half an episode of cartoons. After the child agrees, he naturally feels that the child "does not agree" when he sees half an episode. How many of the 10,000 adults can watch a series and stop after watching half an episode? If a series can be watched continuously, most people will watch it from the first episode one day. I saw a six-street street more than ten years ago.
The third is that those who don't do what they can do are self-defeating (Mencius Li Lou). It means that when all kinds of people think they have paid, but have no hope for the result, all they have to do is look inward, make a comeback and think about what they did wrong and how to improve. What children do is not what you want. First of all, you should think about whether what you think is good is really good, such as the concepts of "obedient" and "sensible". Secondly, you should never blame your children for being so bad. Parents should blame themselves if something goes wrong with their children. These two months began to follow this principle. I not only turned unpleasant things into raw materials for my own improvement, but also felt much more comfortable, and I would never feel that others were "how so" and consumed themselves again. Lutz was very happy to hear that, and Dayu was also in this state when he heard good words, and he worshipped. The relationship between western countries and China today is also due to this truth. The good days in western countries have lasted too long and there is no motivation. The river is getting worse and worse, so I began to take out the mentality of "someone is going to hurt me" and go outside to find the reason. China has also given up criticism from other countries.
The fourth is to understand the relationship between external changes and internal changes. Demanding and controlling others will not have real influence. It is effective to change yourself. What really affects others is your kind words and other qualities. In order to keep children from losing at the starting line, parents should study more, practice more, think, have good habits and have a happy and peaceful attitude. This is why there is an order of self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, governing the country and leveling the world. Hitler wanted to govern the country when he had a problem in his heart, and the whole of Europe followed him. One of the reasons why I gave up being a good teacher is that I understand that instead of always trying to teach others, it is better to cultivate myself first. Mencius said that "the trouble with others lies in being a good teacher", which may be the same reason.
The most beautiful education is the simplest, which is really difficult to say. To truly understand and achieve the above four items requires some experience, thinking and practice. It is very rare for a newcomer to the society, or with an impetuous or dull mentality, to have a life of reading thousands of books, taking the road of Wan Li, reading countless people and being guided by famous teachers.
Regardless of family background, education system, social history and tradition, our own humanity has been distorted to some extent. Only by constant practice, understanding your own weaknesses and understanding the operation of the world can we break the chain of the reincarnation of the original home. I will forgive myself for my past. Another book says: education is what kind of person this system wants you to be. The core purpose of education in all countries of the world is not to make individuals as civilized and happy as possible. So adults should carry out lifelong self-education. Only in this way can we have the courage and ability not to toss the invisible baton of our next generation (and perhaps the next generation).
Therefore, it is strongly recommended that all parents read or listen to these three books written by Yin Jianli. Try to be calm, that is, don't hold the attitude of proving yourself right, resisting and rejecting different ideas, and don't blame yourself for the mistakes you made in family education. Giving birth to children, whether babies or adults, or even other people who are not involved in the role of parents, will also improve their cognition, consciousness, kindness and empathy.