Case (1)

Recently, things are always lost in the classroom of Class 9, Grade 4. Either this classmate's pen is missing, or that classmate's extracurricular books can't be found. The students come to report for duty every day, which makes the class teacher Hao very upset. One day, when Wang Xiaogang returned to the classroom after doing morning exercises, he reported that the 10 yuan he had put in his pencil box was missing. Hearing this, Teacher Li was a little annoyed. After confirming that the money was put in the pencil box when Wang Xiaogang was about to leave the classroom for work, Teacher Li initially concluded that a classmate must have taken Wang Xiaogang's money when he left the classroom, so she kept shouting to the students in the classroom: "Whoever took the money, please hand it over, and the teacher promised to let bygones be bygones." But after several calls, no students admitted it. At this time, Miss Li became even more angry and roared, "Don't blame the teacher for being impolite when I give you a chance. There is monitoring in our classroom, and I will soon let the' thief' appear in front of everyone. " Then he left in anger.

Ten minutes later, Miss Li came back from the monitoring room. As the USB flash drive is plugged into the computer, a dynamic picture of a little boy withdrawing money from Wang Xiaogang's pencil box is immediately presented to everyone. Although the image is not very clear, the whole class almost shouted out the name of the classmate-Wu Dawei. With the shouts of everyone, Mr. Li "lifted" Wu Dawei, who is usually naughty, to the podium like an eagle catching a chicken. Wu Dawei bowed his head in shame in the face of ironclad facts and rubbed his skirts with his hands. Then criticism broke out one after another, and the students all took their complaints about losing things out on Wu Dawei. ...

From then on, as long as someone in the class loses something, everyone will ask around Wu Dawei, and Teacher Li will cast a suspicious look at Wu Dawei from time to time. No matter how Wu Dawei argued, no one believed him. Even if something was discovered later, everyone thought it was exposed, and Wu Dawei quietly put it back ... so fewer and fewer students played with Wu Dawei. Without everyone's trust and playmates ... Wu Dawei, who was originally alive and kicking, became more and more silent, his temper became worse and worse, and his study became worse. Teacher Li became more and more critical of him, and slowly Wu Dawei began to play truant and fight ... She refused to go to school before she graduated from primary school.

Case (2)

On Wednesday night, Mr. Hu, the head teacher of Class 38, Grade 8, just walked into the office and wanted to sit down and catch his breath. Suddenly, the door of the office was pushed open, and Bruce Lee, a student of this class, rushed in and said with a straight face, "Teacher, the 200 yuan money I put in the dormitory box is missing." Mr. Hu was very upset when he heard that Bruce Lee's money was gone. Although 200 yuan is a small sum, for Bruce Lee, who was born in the countryside, was a single parent and had a very poor family, 200 yuan was his living expenses for one or two months. This is no joke. Besides, the college entrance examination is coming soon. Once this incident affects the child's mood, the loss will be great. ...

After Mr. Hu settled down, he took out 200 yuan money and gave it to Bruce Lee first, saying that he would investigate the matter slowly. However, Bruce Lee, who has always regarded himself as a director and has strong self-esteem, refused to take anything. He kept saying, "When I left the dormitory for self-study last night, I clearly saw it in the box, but …" There was nothing I could do. After Mr. Hu kept comforting, he had to let Bruce Lee go back to sleep first, and said that he would deal with the matter tomorrow.

After Bruce Lee left, Mr. Hu thought: The money was still there when he left the dormitory, which means that a classmate in the same room must have taken it away after Bruce Lee left. The next morning, Mr. Hu asked some students who stayed in the dormitory after Bruce Lee left last night. Everyone said they didn't take it. ...

Soon in the evening, after the bell rang, Mr. Hu came into the classroom, explained the situation to all the students, and emphasized the importance of 200 yuan money to Bruce Lee. At the same time, he repeatedly stressed that the students who took the money must have been confused for a while. Then Mr. Hu gave everyone an envelope and said, I believe that students who took the money will take the initiative to return it. Now I turn on the light. If I am embarrassed to return it in person, I will put the money in the envelope ... Two minutes later, Mr. Hu turned on the light, and the monitor put all the envelopes away and handed them to Mr. Hu. Teacher Hu said: I'm sure I can find Bruce Lee's money from these envelopes, because the students in our class are all good children. Teacher Hu immediately picked up the envelope and fell down. The students craned their necks to watch carefully, hoping to use up Bruce Lee's money from the inside. However, seeing that the envelope is about to pour out, there is still no money falling out. Teacher Hu is a little disappointed, and so are the students. However, just when everyone was frustrated, a miracle appeared and I saw two hundred-dollar bills floating in an envelope. The students can't help but be ecstatic. Bruce Lee also happily took the money he recovered from Mr. Hu and thanked the younger brothers and sisters who took the initiative to admit their mistakes. After scanning a circle, Mr Hu left the classroom silently.

In a blink of an eye, four years passed. One day, Mr. Hu is correcting homework in the office. The office door was pushed open with a bang. A tall boy came in and plopped down in front of Mr. Hu. Teacher Hu was startled and looked intently at Liang Gan, who graduated from Bruce Lee class four years ago. Mr. Hu was about to ask why, when Liang Gan cried and said, "Thank you, teacher ... Remember the 200 yuan that Bruce Lee lost four years ago? I took the money ... when you sent me the envelope and put out the light bulb, I really wanted to put the money in the envelope, but by then I had spent almost all the money ... when I saw 200 yuan flying out of the envelope, I knew it was your money. At that time, I was ashamed and didn't dare to admit my mistake to you ... I haven't forgotten that scene for four years and kept reminding myself to be honest.

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Second, analysis and reflection:

In the above two cases, the teacher dealt with the same thing-there were "thieves" in the class. It's just that it's handled differently:

In the first case, I believe that Mr. Hao's original intention is good, not only to find the lost things of students, but also to make an example of them. Through this incident, he shocked Dashan and warned other students not to take other people's things easily. But she made several very serious mistakes in dealing with this matter. You shouldn't make a decision when you are angry. Because people are often not calm and impulsive when they are angry, and dealing with problems with anger often makes things worse. Teacher Hao was angry, so he turned a small matter into a big one. (2) The fact that Wu Dawei "stole" things should not be displayed naked in front of all the students. Because doing so has seriously hurt his self-esteem, caused irreparable trauma to his body and mind, and even left a lifelong shadow; (3) Don't treat Wu Dawei with stereotype effect. As far as this "stealing" money incident is concerned, there is "conclusive" evidence that Wu Dawei took Wang Xiaogang's money, but it cannot be proved that Wu Dawei took what the students lost before and later. Seeing Wu Dawei with colored glasses not only hurts Wu Dawei, but also virtually condones other "thieves" in the class.

Compared with Mr. Hao, Mr. Hu's method of dealing with the problem in the second case is much more brilliant. (1) Not only saved the face of Liang Gan, a "money thief", but also deeply shocked his mind with the coup, leaving enough room for him to recognize and correct his mistakes in the future. Facts have also proved that it is precisely because of the strong shock to the soul and deep guilt and anxiety that Liang Gancai stopped reflecting on himself and improving himself all the time in four years. (2) He skillfully gave his love (200 yuan money) to Bruce Lee. Bruce Lee is a man with strong self-esteem. Although he was short of money, he resolutely refused Mr. Hu's gift. How can Bruce Lee accept his own donation and maintain his self-esteem? It is precisely because of this good intention that the purpose of Mr. Hu Sang's play has of course been realized.

Third, sum up and improve:

In school life, students lose money and things from time to time. For teachers who have been class teachers for many years, I believe everyone has dealt with many cases of "stealing" students' property. Perhaps we have also made the mistake of teacher Hao-provoking the masses and "searching the whole class", which has hurt many children's young hearts. How can we avoid repeating the same mistakes in future education and teaching life, be as silent as Mr. Hu, and skillfully save those children who are hovering on the edge of "good and evil"? I think the following methods are debatable.

1. It is hard to be confused.

The so-called muddleheaded is that the class teacher needs to turn a blind eye when dealing with the theft of students' small wealth and small things. It is normal for primary school children to take their classmates' erasers, pencils, toys and other things they like once, because they are still young and have limited ability to distinguish right from wrong. They don't realize that taking them away is stealing. Maybe he will return it tomorrow after taking it today, so there is no need to make a fuss about some trivial things.

2. traveling incognito

When students' relatively valuable things are "stolen" or their belongings are lost one after another in class, the class teacher should attach great importance to them, but they should not be too secretive. The best way is to visit anonymously and privately. This has many advantages: (1) it does not disturb the "thief" and can provide convenience for yourself to obtain strong evidence; (2) Don't disturb the classroom order and avoid making the classroom atmosphere messy because of this incident; (3) Without hurting the thief's self-esteem, it can lay a foundation for guiding students to "take the right path" in future education.

attack by innuendo

This method is suitable for students who don't know who is a "thief" after losing something. Because it is not easy to catch a "thief" without monitoring in the classroom, some children are really sophisticated and do things without leaving any clues. At this time, beating around the bush is the best policy. Teachers can constantly warn "thieves" with fictional plots and facts. Students' psychology is relatively simple. Besides, after all, it is guilty to take something from others. Under strong psychological pressure, thieves often take the initiative to admit their mistakes.

Leave room

There is no one who doesn't make mistakes. Everyone will make such mistakes in his life. Therefore, as teachers, we should treat the children who "steal" things in the class with an inclusive attitude, leaving them enough time and space for them to correct themselves and creating conditions for them to correct themselves. For example, if a classmate loses something, we can ask the classmate who stole it to help the classmate who lost it get it back. Students who make mistakes will certainly understand the teacher's intentions, and with gratitude for the teacher's tolerance, they will not only repay, but also constantly reflect on and correct their behavior. ?

5. well-founded

Anyone who is wronged is an angry and unacceptable thing. Therefore, in dealing with the theft of class students' property, teachers must be calm, and they can't label their children as "thieves" just by subjective assumptions and listening to rumors, so that they can bear heavy psychological pressure. The most effective way is to find conclusive evidence through investigation, stalking and monitoring, and then handle it skillfully according to the specific situation.

narrow the scope (of)

Children are children after all, and it is easy to make mistakes and correct them. For most students with petty theft, teachers' hints and reminders can guide them to the right path. However, for some students who have "helped" for a long time and still do not "repent" and commit crimes again, the class teacher can no longer take "package" measures and must publicly correct them. However, the ways and means of publicity must be in place: try to narrow the scope, try to reduce the insiders, and give priority to taking care of children's self-esteem at all times. ?

7. Settle accounts after autumn

From the perspective of promoting the growth of students who have made mistakes, the dust settles does not mean the end, but actually the beginning of ideological education for them. Therefore, teachers must have enough patience and enthusiasm to treat these children with "criminal record" in the class, and choose appropriate opportunities and occasions from time to time to "beat" these children ... inspire and educate them with vivid examples, guide them to constantly reflect on their behavior, review their behavior, correct their behavior, and make unremitting efforts to make these children catch up with other children, even better than them.

8. Home-school cooperation

Family and school are the two main environments for children to grow up. Together, families and schools can often get twice the result with half the effort in children's education. Therefore, in the process of educating children who have the habit of "stealing" for a long time and still refuse to change after repeated inspiration, guidance and criticism, the class teacher must communicate with parents in time, reach a consensus and form a joint force. As the saying goes, "two people are smarter than one." I believe that with the joint efforts of parents and Qi Xin, many problems will be solved.

As the saying goes: attack the city for the next, attack the heart for the top. When dealing with the theft of class students' property, the head teacher can only touch these "thieves" with clever methods and touch their hearts with true feelings based on the bodhisattva's heart of "treating diseases and saving lives", so as to treat both the symptoms and root causes and introduce the lost lamb on the road of growth into the smooth road.

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