Popular people are always good at grasping the opportunity to speak: learn to communicate, starting with learning to listen; Learn to speak, starting with empathy.
Therefore, in the training of listening, speaking, reading and writing, listening ranks first, first listen and then speak, and then listen clearly; Hearsay can only be hearsay, and partial listening will only be nonsense.
Therefore, we often say that the reason why people have two ears and one mouth is to let us listen more and talk less; Another wise man said that it takes three years to learn to speak and decades to learn to shut up.
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All these experiences are summed up because of the living environment of China people: in the context of official position, people would rather not say or say less, which is not so much a knowledge of survival as a helplessness of self-protection.
But it's always good to talk less and do more! If speaking is a kind of ability, it certainly needs to be exercised. If speaking is an art, it needs to be studied even more.
Therefore, in the speech class, I tell my children the skills of quality communication, that is, we should grasp several principles when communicating.
First, respect is the premise of effective communication: pay attention to the object of speech, pay attention to the occasion of speech, use more honorifics, and respect all those who communicate with themselves.
Second, understanding is a bridge for effective communication: learn to put yourself in the other person's position; Know how to do what you like and talk about topics of mutual interest. Many times, talking about topics that you are good at will give people the suspicion of showing off and showing off. Being able to talk about topics of interest to each other requires broadness and self-restraint.
Euphemism is the basis of effective communication: try to be concise and elegant. Ask for opinions with interrogative sentences, and seldom use imperative sentences to express orders; Be good at using stories to express your thoughts-everyone is happy when the other party understands the meaning; If the other party doesn't understand or pretend to be confused, it won't hurt face. The purpose of communication is to get through, but it is useless to get through.
Humor is the magic weapon of effective communication: humorous people are mostly open-minded people. Only a broad-minded and determined person can not complain, abandon or give up, and can still smile under pressure and maintain humor in difficulties. Proper exaggeration is the main additive of humor. Whether teasing or self-deprecating, appropriate and slightly exaggerated language can always make people feel happy.
As the saying goes, "It's better to fight with the able than talk with fools", which shows how important it is to be able to speak in real communication. In fact, learning to communicate and follow through is to infect others with sincerity and kindness, enrich yourself with cultural heritage, tolerate society with generosity and humility, and decorate the world with dreams. This is the highest level of communication!
Be good at communication and win success
Hu Shuncai is a person with educational dreams and feelings, a teacher who likes reading, a spiritual traveler who is keen on writing records in his spare time, and a mortal who loves life and speech. Normal students in 1980s, 27 years of basic education career, 16 years of experience in running private schools, founded Zaoyang Sunshine Middle School and managed Xiangyang Chucai High School, and now she is the principal of Yicheng Zhida School. Always adhere to the tenet of "running a school with conscience and speaking with quality", pay attention to the construction of characteristics and culture, and build a brand and civilized school. He is the "President of Chu" in Yicheng City and the executive vice president of Xiangyang Private Education Society. For more than ten years, I have entertained myself and created more than one million words in my spare time.