1, the sooner you start, the better.
Parents should not always expect to wait until the time is ripe to talk about "sex" with their children. They should seize the opportunity at any time and consciously talk to their children from their various problems.
Education can be carried out at any time in life.
Parents can talk about sex from the big and small things in life, and they don't necessarily need to make deliberate arrangements. For example, when the baby is taking a bath or reporting sexual problems in the news, you can discuss it with the baby.
Don't be afraid to answer questions, and don't force experts.
Parents should not pretend to be experts when they encounter questions that they can't answer. They should let their children know that parents are not omnipotent. If you don't understand the problem, you can look up the information and discuss it together.
If you are fully prepared, the problem will not be a problem.
If you are afraid to talk about sex with your baby because you don't have enough sexual knowledge, then the best way is to read more books on it. Parents should think about how to express their views before thinking about how to answer some sexual questions of their babies.
How to educate children about sex?
1, parents should establish a correct concept and don't lead their children into misunderstanding.
When the baby grows up, he will ask all kinds of questions about the difference between male and female organs, and parents are naturally the first objects to be asked. Parents don't have to answer irrelevant questions, or hide them, or regard them as dirty and dirty, and severely scold them. This will make children mistake the reproductive organs for a symbol of filth and shame, and regard all activities related to them as ugly.
Some children even have rebellious mentality. They are determined to find out, or play with their sexual organs more frequently to satisfy their curiosity, or spy on their parents' sexual life, forming a sense of mystery and even committing crimes when they grow up. In short, this will seriously hinder the healthy development of children's psychology.
2. In daily life, children should be taught to gradually understand various parts of the body and their simple functions, including sexual organs.
Parents should be realistic and easy to understand, which can not only dispel children's doubts, gain their trust, but also communicate the feelings between parents and children. For example, when you help your child take a bath, you can teach him to know his body, point out his reproductive organs and teach him the correct name, so that the child will look at the sexual organs as naturally as his hair.
Parents sharing the same bed with their children should not make out in front of their children.
Children should not be given the opportunity to witness and peep, because this will lead to children's paranoia, emotional tension and mental tension, and hinder their psychological development.
4. Pay attention to children's mental health education and health knowledge education.
Parents must be duty-bound to take on the responsibility of "preaching and dispelling doubts". Don't simply reprimand children for playing with their sexual organs, but tell them that it is a place to urinate, and touching children's sexual organs will make them sick.
How old is the best age to receive sex education?
1, appropriate age
Theoretically speaking, it is no problem to answer the gender differences, especially the primary sexual characteristics, before the child's youth development. As far as the current social and cultural situation is concerned, it is best to answer the difference of primary sexual characteristics between men and women before the age of 5. Although sex education is advanced, it cannot be separated from children's understanding ability. Parents try to answer their children's questions in plain language.
2. Appropriate methods
Before the child is 5 years old, you can speak with your parents' bodies and explain it to your child. But after 5 years old, it is more appropriate to use books, audio-visual materials and other methods.
3. Appropriate content
Children's sex education, the content of each age group should be focused. Simple problems such as gender knowledge should be solved before the age of 5. Before puberty, sexual physiology education should be carried out; When teenagers develop, it is necessary to carry out sexual psychology and sexual morality education.
The focus of children's sex education in different periods.
1, sex education in infancy
The main content of sex education in infancy is to raise and feed children through mothers. The contact between mother and child can increase the sensitivity of children's nervous system and promote the differentiation and development of children's brain. Children who have insufficient physical contact with their parents will be damaged in intelligence and sexual sensitivity to varying degrees.
2. Early childhood sex education
Start to let children know their gender and initially enter the gender role. For example, encourage boys to be brave and strong, encourage girls to be gentle and sweet, love cleaning and so on. Boys should wear boys' clothes and girls should have girls' clothes.
At this time, it is necessary to instill initial sexual morality, such as making boys love and respect women. Learn basic sexual hygiene knowledge, such as washing hands before urinating, and don't put sticks and other things in the pores of urine.
3. Sex education in childhood
Sex education in childhood lasts from six to ten years old. At this time, children have entered the school, and their social knowledge and activities have been further expanded. At this time, the child's sexual awareness is further enhanced, and he is unwilling to sit at the same table and go the same way with the opposite sex, and is proud of his gender. At this time, this psychological phenomenon of children should not be rudely interfered, but should be affirmed. If children are found to hate their gender roles, they should be corrected in time to prevent gender roles from being reversed in the future. At this time, children should be taught the basic knowledge of sexual hygiene and learn to keep their sexual organs clean. At the same time, we should teach children how to protect themselves, encourage children to be independent, ask children to be different from men and women, and especially teach children to respect women. Teach children the general moral principles of male-female communication and ask them to respect and love themselves.
4. Sex education in adolescence
Sex education in adolescence is of special significance. Because during this period, most children have entered adolescence, girls have menstrual cramps, and boys have nocturnal emission for the first time. They have begun to pay attention to the opposite sex, have a hazy sexual consciousness, and have begun to have curiosity and communication requirements for the opposite sex. At this time, the contents of sex education mainly include: adolescent physical health knowledge, menstrual health knowledge, principles and precautions of communication between men and women, how girls protect themselves, preliminary moral principles of marriage and love, clear legal and moral requirements for sexual relations, prevention of crimes, and understanding and accepting themselves at the same time. This period is from 10 to 20 years old.
What sex education picture books are suitable for children?
1, Sandy craven, Don't Touch Me.
This book has three volumes. Learn to love yourself: don't touch me casually+don't kiss me casually+don't walk with strangers casually (three volumes in total). It won the Benjamin Franklin Parenting Award, which is a textbook widely promoted to children in many families and schools in the United States.
This paper carries out self-protection education in the form of mother telling stories. Through child abuse cases, teach children which hidden parts of the body are not allowed to be touched at will, and how to deal with sexual assault.
2. China writer Wang Zao "Why am I a girl?"
This book is suitable for children aged 3 ~ 6 to read sex education books. Through the normal dialogue between the two children and the fairytale education, it answers the question of the source of life that the children are most concerned about. Answered the child's doubts about his gender; Help children understand the relationship between their parents and themselves, and let them learn to love and respect their parents.
In the book, sex education is not only understood as reproductive and physiological knowledge education, but also combined with life education, emotional education and fairy tale color, and integrated into a higher level of personality, sentiment and sense of responsibility, thus promoting the healthy development of children's body and mind.
Especially through a simple comparison, let the children know the difference between the sexes, the difference between girls and boys, and why girls can't pee standing up. The elf inside told the little girl the difference between boys and girls' reproductive organs in detail, and the private parts can't be shown to people unless the doctor checks the body.
3. The Story of the Rooster by Japanese writer Naoko Yamamoto.
I believe that many boys raised by their parents are more or less interested in their penises and always feel it involuntarily. I really don't know what to do about such a bad habit. Most parents just scold or reason slowly, saying that this will not work.
But some are often a bit counterproductive. Boys keep their bad habits as always. However, this book gives good advice to children. It tells children that defecation is private and cannot be seen by others. Wash your underwear yourself, and learn the good habit of taking care of yourself from an early age. This cleaning reduces the existence of diseases.
4. The Story of Breast by Japanese writer Tsuya Bai Weiling.
When children grow up, they will find that their breasts are different from their mothers', and they will definitely ask their mothers all kinds of questions. After all, children who have eaten breast milk will still have some memories of the feeling of breastfeeding in their mother's arms. This picture book helps mothers and babies to know their bodies and correctly guides children to understand their body structure, which is also a subtle sex education.