At the beginning of the film, Zhiying looks haggard and does housework without saying a word. After busy, she pushed the stroller to the bench on the side of the road to have a coffee break, but was teased by strange men and women:
"Life is good, life is good ... I envy it. I also want to use my husband's money to buy coffee and stroll around ... "
"I feel that it is too difficult to go to work recently, or I will get married."
There is always unknown so's malice and self-righteous justice.
Zhiying's husband gives people a gentle and considerate feeling. Zhiying hurt his wrist because he did too much housework. He would care: "What happened to your wrist? Are you all right? "
Zhiying replied, "There are just too many."
The doctor told Zhiying that the rice was made by an electric cooker and the clothes were washed by a washing machine. Why does it hurt? In the face of doubt, Zhiying felt ridiculous and didn't know how to respond.
No, I didn't, but my wrist hurts. How can others understand it?
The husband said thoughtfully, "Will employees in the company work easily because of electronic products?" He realized Zhi Ying's melancholy, but her husband was also a victim of life and depressed at work.
"Let's travel this holiday. Don't go to my house or your house, but rest at home. I am so tired recently. " Really, both of them are actually exhausted by the pressure of life.
What is Ji-young's reaction at this time? Instead of being unhappy, she was worried that their mother-in-law would gossip when they went out to play, worried about the children left behind and how to arrange housework.
Husband hopes to get a short rest from work and trivial daily life, but Zhiying can't shirk the daily load and is used to being considerate.
In front of in-laws, Zhi Yingde needs to ponder and meet her mother-in-law's expectations. It is normal that Zhiying's husband wants to help his wife clean up.
Intimate behavior during two days, at this time, Zhiying quickly stopped. Seeing this scene, my mother-in-law was not pleased but said, "My daughter-in-law really has a good husband."
This kind of praise for the son and ridicule for the daughter-in-law reflects that the traditional family regards housework as an established prejudice of the wife all year round. Married, is it the kind of free nanny, all year round?
Sometimes it's hard to let go. Why does my daughter-in-law have to suffer what her mother-in-law suffered when she was a child? Can't she be kind?
It is precisely because the mother-in-law is used to the definition of virtuous, so it is normal for the daughter-in-law to pay. I don't feel special, so I am grateful.
The profile shows that at that time, not everyone could understand the contribution of women in the social family. In other words, it is not surprising that everything is taken for granted.
Mother-in-law doesn't understand the daughter-in-law's difficulties, because she is a woman, but sometimes joining a male group to suppress her daughter-in-law through words and deeds is a self-compensation act of exploiting the same kind.
Zhiying took to the streets and watched the young women with heavy makeup and light steps speed up. She wants to keep up with other people's lives, to keep up with the rhythm of others, to be afraid of being left behind, and to keep up with the pace of social progress.
Zhiying showed an obvious desire for promotion in the workplace before marriage. She is ambitious and an excellent employee. The boss recognizes her ability to work, but there is also gender discrimination, fearing that her female identity will prevent her from devoting herself to her work for a long time.
Even though Zhiying made up his mind immediately, the boss gave the job opportunity to a male colleague whose comprehensive ability was worse than Zhiying's. Just because Ji-young is a woman.
The younger brother asked his father what Zhi Ying liked to eat, and his father said red bean bread. After my brother bought a bag of red bean bread for my sister, my sister said, red bean bread? Isn't red bean bread your favorite? What I like is bread and butter. At that time, I was sadder than Jin Zhiying.
When we grow up, we are always forced to understand. Jin Zhiying in the movie reminds me of the virtues in Please Answer 1988. When we collapsed, we cried and asked our parents why it was me every time, why it was not Paula, not back to Yu, but me. Why is my name deshan?
I want eggs, too. I want chicken legs, too. I don't like beans at all! But so what? My neighbor told me when he gave the fried chicken to Deshan that you wanted to eat chicken legs this time.
At home, Deshan distributed fried chicken to his mother, knowing that it was impossible to eat chicken legs, but he still didn't take it away willfully.
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Yes, you can be willful, but you always choose reason. Even the more you know, the less sugar you have.
Movies are fuller than novels. In fact, men and women are trapped in the shackles of traditional prejudice. The film shows the sympathy and understanding of contemporary young men to the plight of women.
Why do women always sacrifice for their families? Why sacrifice something to be loved and valued? Everyone is not born to be a mother, and everyone has his own life plan.
Why do women always give in, and mothers always do housework and take care of children? Even if I am willing to give in, can you understand?
Women retire to their families, are abandoned by society, are harassed by their parents' trivial lives day and night, and have nothing to say with their husbands. In the end, only the wife is at a disadvantage, because she has no material basis to support dignity.
When you have your period and ask your husband for money to buy sanitary napkins, you will understand what embarrassment is. You are also highly educated. You could have lived a good life by yourself, hiking, reading many books on philosophy, literature and movies.
Now, your closest friend can be a middle-aged housewife next door like you.
Without material support for your dignity, children will think that their father is an important pillar of the family, while you are noisy and ignorant. Because I have no money, I am ignorant and have no opinion. In the end, no matter what happens, my father will make the final decision. It's no use telling you.
What can people do in middle age? You can only go on like this, quietly paying for your family, you are no longer the protagonist and you can't go back to your girlhood.
This film is rich in female characters, which makes me project ordinary women in reality for the first time. It can be seen that everyone has it in their hearts, but everyone doesn't write it.
This film points out that exploitation is a family-based reality, and only those closest to you can hurt you the most. As Zhi Ying's sister said, only her family can hurt her now.
Older unmarried sister, luck and misfortune. There is no turning back in life. AB can only choose a "tea" like Rainie Yang. Whichever you choose, you will have a different life and you can't go back.
In real life, female bosses may not necessarily agree with female subordinates more, and may be more likely to kill people. Because you are colleagues, you all look at the value of work and will not be different because of the same sex.
Jin Zhiying is shocking and heartbreaking, because she is really ordinary and really beside us. You've met her, and I've met her. She is not a common heroine in horror movies, but Zhiying is a familiar friend around us.
Her husband works hard, her boss appreciates her ability to work, her colleagues and friends encourage her, her sister sets an example, and her mother cares and loves her.
So lucky Zhiying, staying at home to look after the children is enough to destroy her spirit. Imagine a housewife who doesn't have the above conditions in real life.
If Jin Zhiying vented her dissatisfaction with life on her husband and daughter, and giving birth and working hard for her family became emotional blackmail chips, do you think the plot is more familiar?
Compared with Jin Zhiying, the husband is more "isolated" and unable to open his heart to his mother. Facing the pressure of work, I can't solve it, I have no friends, I don't agree with the values of my male colleagues around me, but I don't argue.
My husband has tried his best for this family, but he is still very tired and can't help Zhiying fundamentally. He is also very heartbroken. It is not only Zhi Ying who is persecuted by the society, but also the people on his deathbed. Supporting the family and taking care of his wife's psychological changes have drained the heart of this good man.
However, the husband chose help and support and never gave up.
Although he complied with the "pressure" on the issue of having children, he showed courage and uncompromising tenacity in saving his wife from illness.
Many characters in the movie make you feel a lot. If you meet Zhi Ying, I hope you can be the one who handed Jin Zhiying the tissue in the coffee shop.
There are two scenes in the movie that I like very much. First, when my father was angry and said, "You just wait to get married," my mother lost her temper and retorted, choking my father. The whole family laughed and vomited, and then Zhiying received an admission call, which made the whole family proud.
Just like a joke, girls must work hard and study hard, or they will be caught getting married.
The tearful family atmosphere, even the protagonist who grew up in the shadow of patriarchy, will feel the love of his family. Every character contains feelings for the heroine, and your family loves you, but more or less.
Everyone loves each other at every level.
The greatness of the film is not because how many men can wake up and become considerate of women, but because it can make more women pull away from the physiological definition and re-examine the world you live in, yourself, what you are experiencing and what you have experienced.
Also, as a woman, have you neglected yourself? In addition to the physiological significance of women, you are a person first. A man of value and dignity.
It does not deny what men do for their families. At the same time, it also implies the crisis of women in the family.
At this point, I want to say thank you to the filmmakers, who told this story very well.
On the other hand, movies also show that society is unfriendly to women. As a professional mother, team leader Jin can work, but he was told by his superiors in a joking tone: "Grandma and mother are different, so the children must stay with their mothers, otherwise they will definitely go the wrong way in the end."
It seems that men are not responsible for the quality of their children, just hang their names.
"If a successful career? If the child destroys everything, it will be over. " A woman's occupation seems irrelevant. After having children, the husband's career is a big deal.
Male colleagues are not shy about gender discrimination, as if taking care of children is a natural thing for women and has nothing to do with men.
Zhi Ying's female colleague: Under the same excellent job, the promotion is slower than that of male colleagues who join the job at the same time, and the space is small, just because they are women.
The unfairness of society to women, the conflict between family and women, all things come together, and the strong light makes Zhi Ying delirious, sometimes treating herself as a mother and sometimes as a grandmother.
Zhiying is too tired to be herself. Maybe she'll feel better if she thinks of herself differently. Losing yourself will make Ji-young easier.
Zhiying's husband told her mother-in-law that Zhiying was ill and hoped that her mother would be more considerate of her wife. My mother-in-law called and told Zhiying to have a good meal and take care of the scene. It doesn't matter.
Fortunately, Zhiying's husband has been guarding her and discovered her illness, so he didn't abandon her, and actively communicated with psychologists to try to cure Zhiying's mental illness.
Zhiying's mother also loved her daughter from beginning to end. Zhiying didn't lose the last straw. She seized the help of the people who loved her and began to face the problems and express her unfair feelings about the society.
At the end of the movie, Zhiying and her psychiatrist had such a conversation.
Zhiying finally told the doctor, I think it's not bad to live like this. As someone else's mother and wife, I occasionally feel quite happy. But sometimes, I feel imprisoned somewhere. I always thought I could find an exit by crossing this wall, but I still hit a wall.
Even if we found another way out, we hit a wall. Sometimes I wonder if there is no exit in the first place, and I will be angry about it.
But then I realized that it was all my fault, and others should find their own way out. I just fell behind because of incompetence.
Doctor: It's not your fault.
It's not your fault that society is unfair to women;
It's not your fault that your family is against women.
You are born equal, and you don't need to pay more because of your gender to qualify for happiness.
If you feel offended, say it. Sorry, this is not the life I want. I want to be loved, and I want to live in this world as an equal.
In fact, all stories are the most common stories, but because of this, people feel powerless and desperate.
How can I not be depressed? Everything is taken for granted. Obviously, you have given up your work and freedom and are tired of taking care of the baby's housework, but you can't get anyone's respect.
Really, when the sun goes down, my heart is empty.
Obviously, it only tells the daily chores of an ordinary housewife, but it really condenses the living conditions of thousands of stay-at-home mothers.
Although Jin Zhiying's mother has tried her best to protect her daughter, it is far from enough, because on the way of her daughter's growth, her mother still conveys the concept of "sacrifice and dedication" to her daughter. In a family where men are superior to women, she is unable to stop her husband from favoring her son.
Jin Zhiying's mother, daughter and grandmother lived a similar life for three generations: they gave their youth, labor and money to their brothers at home, and even sacrificed their most important learning opportunities.
However, such slander and insult not only exists between the workplace and strangers, but also exists in the family. Just like Jin Zhiying's father, he is obviously the person who should protect his daughter the most, and he cut the most painful knife in her uneasy and fearful heart.
However, this distorted concept has been "rationalized" by society and life. Therefore, women naturally become fertility tools and nannies, while men do not agree with their selfless dedication while enjoying their achievements, and even treat them with suspicion.
People in Jin Zhiying just silently clean up when their husbands are at work, watching TV and sleeping.
Jin Zhiying only drinks a cup of coffee from 9 yuan in a moment's leisure, and she will be despised and criticized by strangers. She became more and more depressed in an environment full of prejudice and discrimination, lost her career, dreams and self, and still lives on an isolated island.
Because of this, she suffers from mental illness with split personality and can only express her feelings through other female roles. Under the camera, she didn't scream or shout, just looked pale and empty, and hit the softest pain in women's hearts with plain narration.
When Ji-young was a grandmother, that conversation was the most painful. Her tone was plain and natural, but she stabbed her heart like a knife and couldn't help crying.
Generations of "Jin Zhiying" have lived this life and tried to keep their descendants away from change, but in the end they all failed.
If there is a next life, don't be a woman or a man. Be a whale, lonely but free, and live in the endless sea forever.
Thank you, Jin Zhiying.
Being born a man is bitter, but being born a woman is even more sad. The orientation, requirements and harshness of society for women have made every woman suffer countless injustices and prejudices in her life.