In this case, some parents choose to use violence to discipline their children, which seems to be very effective, but can violence really correct their violent behavior? Obviously, this is not the most sensible way of education.
Parents first need to think about why their children have such aggressive behavior.
First of all, when the child is two to three years old, the child's self-awareness has just begun to sprout. Language development has begun to express his individual initiative with "I am coming" and "I will know", and the corresponding behavior development is "I hit you", "I kick you" and "I scratch you" to try to express this self-independence.
However, in the eyes of parents, this kind of performance of children has become like adults, and it is this misunderstanding that makes parents angry about some behaviors of children.
In fact, from the perspective of children's development, children's happiness is actually different from what adults think.
The child's beating and violent behavior you see may not be like this in the eyes of children. They may just think they are playing.
The child suddenly hit someone. From the child's point of view, if others ignore me, I will touch him and I want him to ignore me. This kind of touch, in terms of social morality, is an aggressive behavior.
Therefore, what parents need to know is that the reasons for your child's aggressive behavior may be: self-awareness is budding, and I need you to pay attention to me in the way of "I hit you"; It is also because the child's language level can't express his psychological feelings well, so he uses "body" to express it. Therefore, parents may wish to consider it. If the child takes the mode of beating his parents and catching them, parents need to observe whether the child wants to attract their parents' attention in this way.
Second, children do have violent tendencies. The reason for this tendency may be related to the parenting style of parents. For example, parents spoil their children too much and do not express their intention to beat them, or parents criticize their children mainly by beating and cursing, then the long-term contact of children is to express their dissatisfaction or satisfaction through beating and cursing; It may also be related to parents' own role models. Many children do it themselves, on the other hand, their parents also "do it themselves" to solve problems at home. Furthermore, there may also be the influence of film and television works, and some violent scenes such as cartoons appear repeatedly, which will make children follow suit.
Therefore, if your child is violent, please don't remember to complain about how the child is like this, and don't rush to scold the child. Fighting violence with violence cannot fundamentally solve the problem. Parents can think about when the child started this violent behavior, what happened, and whether there are some reasons explained by the above lemons that led to the child's behavior. Then communicate with the child well, listen to the child's words more, understand his real thoughts, and then go to education to fundamentally correct the problem.