1, "complain" becomes "direct description"
Case: The child came out of the toilet, left the light on, and went directly to the living room to continue playing games.
Wrong teaching: "How many times have I told you to turn off the lights after going to the toilet!" " ! Do you know how much the electricity bill is for one month? You can't remember long! "
God replied, "son, the toilet light is on." Go and turn it off. "
Children don't know that rice and oil are expensive, and they don't pay much attention to some details of life. When parents complain about their children over and over again, they may clearly remember them, but they still have to sing against you. At this point, it is better to summarize such things and describe them directly.
2. "Threats" into "suggestions"
Case: The child began to doodle on the snow-white wall again.
Wrong education: "Don't you dare to doodle on the wall again, be careful of your legs!" " I threw away all your brushes! "
God replied, "here is paper, son." Draw on it. We must keep the city walls clean and tidy. "
In the eyes of children, their very normal behavior may be a great thing in the eyes of parents, and it is easy to "intimidate" children. Children are intimidated without knowing that this is a mistake, which will make them timid. At this time, parents can communicate perfectly as long as they give their children a solution.
3, "blame" into "expressing emotions"
Case: The child went straight into his parents' bedroom without pushing the door.
Wrong education: "Knock before you come in, didn't I tell you?" This is very rude behavior! "
God replied, "I'm a little unhappy that you barged in like this suddenly!" " "
For politeness and so on, in order to let children have these, parents should not only tell their children what kind of behavior is polite, but also tell their children what kind of feelings such behavior will bring to others when their children make mistakes. Only by letting children learn to empathize and feel others can they really learn to be polite.
4, "strong" into "weak"
Case: The child is yelling at home, and the mother needs a quiet environment to work.
Wrong education: "Can you stop arguing!" You are so annoying! "
God replied, "honey, mom has some very important work to finish." She needs to be quiet. Can you cooperate with your mother? "
Parents' strong demands on their children will only make them rebellious and even run counter to their parents. Parents occasionally show weakness in front of their children, which will make them feel "responsible" and feel that they can take good care of their families.
5, "help" into "provide methods"
Case: the child wants to drink water, but he can't unscrew it and asks his parents for help.
Wrong education: "Come, mom will open it for you."
God replied, "honey, there is a rubber glove over there." Take it with you and try to open the bottle cap. May be useful. "
Children can't depend on their parents all their lives. More often, when children encounter problems, parents' first reaction should change from helping children solve them to providing methods. In this way, children will find a solution to the problem as soon as possible, which can exercise their independence very much.
6. "Threat" becomes "choice"
Case: The children are running around the mall without following their families.
Wrong education: "if you run around again, I will never bring you here again!" " "
God replied, "come here, either hold your mother's hand or your mother will hug you." Look at you. "
In the view of pistachio mother, the stupidest education for parents is to threaten their children. It may be a threat for a while. Once the child's wings are hard, how can parents threaten? At this time, it is better to give the child a choice and let the child make a decision willingly.
7. "Plain" becomes "Humor"
Case: The child doesn't want to take medicine or eat vegetables.
Wrong education: "Open your mouth to eat!"
God replied, "where is our big tiger's mouth!" " Come on, open it! The food will be eaten by the big tiger! "
There are many things that children are unwilling to accept, but if parents change their humorous ways, children may accept them quickly. In fact, this is "interest" education. Children are interested in their parents' education, and children will also cooperate with their parents.
Message from pistachio mother:
There are many ways to educate children. As parents, we don't have to choose the way to "fight to the end" with our children. Pistachio mom still suggests that as parents, using these gods to reply in another way can make children obedient and sensible in an instant. Why not?