But in fact, I learned later that these friends had secretly envied their only child classmates and wanted to experience how happy they were to have all the love of their parents.
However, although today's young people can choose whether to have a second child, many people who have already given birth have begun to hesitate whether they are ready to have a second child.
Even some parents whose first child is a daughter are more cautious about having a second child, because the word "sister" will be a "sweet burden" for the child's life.
Linlin's daughter has just entered primary school, so it's time for her parents to help her. But her mother-in-law thinks that her granddaughter has grown up, so she keeps urging Linlin to have a second child, saying that it will be too late to wait until she is older.
But Linlin knows that her mother-in-law has always disliked her daughter and that she gave birth to a girl, so since the birth of the child, the old man has been lukewarm to himself, and now he can have a second child. Her mother-in-law obviously wants a grandson.
After consulting with her husband, Linlin decided not to have a second child for the time being. Therefore, the husband and wife found a suitable opportunity and firmly expressed the idea of not having a second child for the time being, but in order to appease their mother-in-law, they only said that they would consider it later.
In fact, Linlin and his wife have two concerns. First, when the daughter needs to devote energy, having a second child will definitely distract her attention and ignore the care for her daughter; Second, my mother-in-law has some preference for sons over daughters. The two worried that if they gave birth to a son, their baby daughter would definitely face more unfair treatment, so they gave up giving birth to a second child.
From this perspective, the reasons given by Mr. and Mrs. Linlin are still very real.
The first child is a boy's family, so it is obviously much easier to decide whether to have a second child, but if the first child is a daughter, many factors must be considered.
I'm worried that the name sister will make my daughter feel wronged.
For a long time, the eldest of children seems to be born with the heavy responsibility of the family, not only the name of the elder sister, but also the elder brother is often the suffering party in a family.
Girls themselves are not as resistant to stress as boys, and their personalities are more sensitive. Therefore, if a family whose first child is a daughter wants to have another child, the eldest sister's daughter will definitely experience many struggles and bear some grievances.
I am afraid that the arrival of the second child will affect my daughter's education.
In addition, boys, girls and families have made great efforts for children's education. If we have another child, the resources and energy allocated to Dabao will be reduced, and the quality of education will also be affected.
Considering that some old people prefer boys to girls.
Although the concept of son preference has been greatly improved, in the hearts of some old people with more traditional concepts, grandchildren are more expensive than granddaughters, and only grandchildren can inherit the family blood.
Therefore, the first child is the daughter's home. If you meet an old man who prefers boys to girls, no matter whether the second child is male or female, Dabao's situation will not be good.
To tell the truth, there are actually many themes about son preference in film and television works. For example, Su Mingyu's family in Everything is Fine has aroused a lot of people's heated discussion, and in the movie My Sister, everyone's discussion on her sister's practice also shows from the side that this kind of "son preference" does exist.
Although this idea is rare among young parents, in order to avoid irreconcilable conflicts between brothers and sisters, parents should fully communicate with their daughters when deciding whether to have two treasures, and do their daughter's psychological work well before preparing for pregnancy, so as not to inadvertently become the one who hurts their children.
In short, both boys and girls are the hearts of parents, and they all want to give their children the best educational resources and quality of life within their power. Therefore, the concept of raising a second child is different from before.
Especially in families where the first child is a daughter, there are many factors to consider. However, as long as you can communicate with your daughter in advance, help your child build a good heart and give your child a companion.
Daily question: Does your Dabao like his brother and sister?