Please remember, kindness is not a simpleton, nor is it a blind concession. You should strive for your own interests, whether it is money, study or morality. You should take yourself as the center and improve yourself. Don't let your children become bystanders and talk about other people's children.
This will only make children feel unfair, so try to compare their children with others as little as possible, find out their advantages and encourage them, set an example for them and let them see their good deeds.
Your own behavior affects your children all the time, so pay attention to setting a good example for your children.