China and the United States are two representatives of Chinese and Western cultures. The differences in social system, historical background and national conditions make Chinese and American family education present different characteristics. Different viewpoints and ways of family education lead to different educational effects between China and the United States. Family education in China is influenced by thousands of years of feudal tradition, and Confucianism is deeply rooted. However, with the intensification of international competition and the change of social structure, the original family education ideas and methods have been unable to adapt to the family education in contemporary China. However, China still follows the exam-oriented education, persecuting generations of children, while quality education always stays in the slogan stage. Therefore, it is necessary for China to carry forward the fine tradition and splendid civilization of the Chinese nation, learn from the democratic and scientific educational view of western family education, improve outdated and backward educational methods, develop family education with China characteristics, and fundamentally realize the transformation from exam-oriented education to quality education. Among them, parents who play a role in fueling the flames must first eradicate the law that "scores" determine everything and guide their children to develop in a correct and healthy direction.