Cheng Yi in Song Dynasty said: Those who touch people with sincerity should respond with sincerity; People who control people with skills, people also treat people with skills. Teachers' sincerity to students is an educational force, and students are willing to accept teachers only if they feel trusted. How high the students' trust and acceptance of the teacher is, how high the acceptance of the educational influence conveyed by the teacher is. Acceptance and respect is a psychological quality: teachers believe that students are a valuable person and try their best to convince students that they are a valuable person; And help students believe that even if his teacher doesn't agree with some of his behaviors and ideas, he is still a potential and valuable person in the eyes of his teacher. Even though I have shortcomings and deficiencies, the teacher still likes me and still accepts me. In fact, many students often say when they grow up that it was the unconditional acceptance of the teacher at the beginning that gave them the motivation and motivation to change themselves. It is with this positive attitude that they have made real progress. In fact, between teachers and students, just like between mountains, you ask me to respect and trust you to the opposite mountain, then the echo of the opposite valley will be that I respect and trust you.

Second, the clever use of language art

Humorous language is the embodiment of wisdom, education and moral superiority. People like humorous talkers and listen to humorous words. When a teacher with a sense of humor walks into students, students feel happy and like to talk with humorous teachers. Using euphemistic skills when expressing some negative opinions to students will make it easier for students to accept them happily. In addition to humorous language, you can also use implicit means that only need to understand and don't need to say; Or keeping silent consciously and sending information with different eyes can also play a positive role.

Third, communicate with heartfelt actions and expressions.

A man named Pygmalion carefully carved a statue of Goddess. He was fascinated by the statue he carved and worshipped her all day. Finally, the statue was moved by his piety and finally became a beautiful girl. This is the famous pygmalion effect. The educational message it conveys to us is to treat students with the eyes of appreciators and produce positive effects. When students are frustrated, cast an encouraging look; When students get good grades, they will give an appreciative smile. For underachievers, give more kind and friendly praise and caring eyes.

Fourth, timely expression and appropriate criticism

Teachers should be good at grasping the bright spots on students and praising them in time. But praise should not be too cheap or too excessive, which will make students feel that the teacher's praise is not sincere, but a common means. Teachers' praise should be fair and just, and should not be influenced by personal emotions and different students. Praise is a positive reinforcement, which can enhance students' confidence, courage, sense of responsibility and sense of honor. Maybe a smile and encouragement from a teacher will change a student's life. Appreciation educator Isabella Chow put it well: it is not a good boy who is appreciated, but appreciation that makes children better and better; It is not bad children who are complained, but complaints that make children worse and worse.

Criticism is important, but the way of criticism is more important. Criticism should focus on future improvements, not past mistakes. When students make mistakes, some teachers blindly scold and blame them, which can not only solve the problem, but also make students feel disgusted with the teachers. When teachers criticize, they can gently point out students' mistakes and dig up students' bad behavior from the side with implicit words, but it won't hurt their face too much.

Fifth, communicate more after school to enhance the feelings between teachers and students.

Teachers find opportunities to communicate with students and participate in their activities in their spare time, which makes students feel that teachers are easy to get close to, thus winning students' goodwill. Some teachers have a serious expression in class, and it is often difficult to see a smile after class. Students feel that this teacher is really terrible, and they dare not approach, let alone communicate. Every teacher should be both a strict father and a loving mother. After studying, talk to students about life, their hobbies, their joys and sorrows, care about their growth, walk into their inner world and put themselves in their shoes to understand their feelings. Teachers also let students know about their life and work, and try to answer their questions and curiosity.

Sixth, use words to express feelings and narrow the distance.

There is another way for teachers to communicate with students, that is, by language. I used to exchange diaries with students in my class. Everything in the diary made me understand the students' mood and what happened around them. Sincere words have brought us closer and enhanced our feelings. Every student hopes to get the teacher's care and attention, and hopes that the teacher can look at himself more, and some even attract the teacher's attention by making trouble. As teachers, we require ourselves to have a keen sense of touch, attach importance to communication with students, treat students equally, have no prejudice, accept all students equally as far as possible, and have no partiality in mind.

In fact, we can't do anything perfectly. As long as we try our best to establish good interpersonal relationships with students and let them study easily and happily, our education will be successful.