Life is so precious and the world is so colorful, but many people spend their lives in boredom and never want to change. Why?

First, the story of the cowboy boy

My friend Li Yao runs an auto repair company at home, with many branches, and also cooperates with a local secondary school. She is often invited to give lectures to students.

One is to talk about professional courses, some basic knowledge about auto repair, and the other is to talk about Chinese studies, so that students can understand the truth of being a man and doing things.

The students who learn this technology are basically boys and teenagers, who are in adolescence. Although the original intention of studying in this technical college is to learn technology, how many people actually study? They are confused and anxious in adolescence, but only those who have not settled down to study hard.

Li Yao is very worried about these children. At the end of the course, he led his classmates to discuss a topic: how will you be a boss in ten years? The classroom, which has always been quiet, suddenly became quiet. Li Yao asked the students to think for five minutes before answering.

Five minutes later, a boy who looked small and thin raised his hand. Li Yao asked him to stand up and talk about his thoughts. She thought that the child had a clear plan in mind and would enthusiastically tell everyone how he would become a boss in ten years, but the result was beyond his expectation.

The boy said, "teacher, no one has been a boss in my ancestors for eighteen generations." How can I be a boss? " Eyes full of doubts.

Li Yao said that she was a little confused at that time, but she returned to normal after a while. She wanted to sum up several basic elements of being a boss for her classmates through discussion and encourage them to study hard, but she killed a journey halfway. It seems really necessary to discuss this topic for these children, but it's time for class to end, so she has to wait until the next class.

Listen to Li Yao at this point, I remembered the story of the cowherd:

In a remote place in the northwest, one day a reporter met a shepherd boy.

The reporter asked the shepherd: What are you doing? Shepherd: herding sheep

Q: Why are you herding sheep? A: herding sheep makes money.

Q: Why make money? A: Make money to build a house.

Q: Why build a house? A: Build a house and marry a wife.

Q: Why do you want to marry a wife? A: Marry a wife and have children.

Q: Why do you want to have a baby? A: Give birth to a baby and herd sheep.

The life track of "herding cattle, making money, building a house, marrying a daughter-in-law, giving birth to a baby, herding cattle" has been repeated from generation to generation, and their thinking has solidified, as if they were born to herd cattle, which cannot be changed.

This story has always been used as a negative teaching material to educate children to study hard, not to fall into this cycle, and to have the courage to break through this cycle and live a different life they want.

Today, this story happened not only in remote villages, but also in rapidly developing cities.

"Why do you want to go to college?" "In order to find a good job."

"Why do you want to find a good job?" "Make money."

"What do you do to make money?" "Get married."

"What did you get married for?" "Have a baby."

"What do you want children for?" "Go to college."

From the formal point of view, there is no essential difference between "Cowherd Baby in the Country" and "University Baby in the City".

Second, why do people have thinking inertia?

The development of the thinking world, in a sense, is to constantly get rid of surprises. -Einstein

Thinking inertia: Thinking inertia, also known as mindset and habitual thinking, refers to people's tendency to think and analyze with fixed patterns or ideas when considering research problems, so as to solve problems.

A famous experiment: put six bees and as many flies into a glass bottle, then lay the bottle flat with the bottom facing the window. And the result? Bees keep trying to find an exit at the bottom of the bottle until they are exhausted or starve to death; The fly will escape from the bottleneck at the other end in less than two minutes.

Because bees naturally set the orientation of the exit based on the way of thinking of the exit in the light, and kept repeating this logical action. It can be said that it is precisely because of this mentality that they failed to "walk out of the cell." And those flies, ignoring the so-called logic, have no formula for light at all, just go around and fly out at last.

Psychology believes that the formation of mindset generally has the following factors:

1. The perceptual experience that happened not long ago.

A 0, if it is followed by a number, you will not hesitate to think it is a number; If it is followed by a set of English letters, you will also think it is the letter O.

2. Long-term habit or consciousness

When people know people or things, they always judge them according to past experience, knowledge and understanding, and they have certain stereotypes subjectively. Whether it is the habitual thinking formed from childhood or the mindset formed by career, the past experience will more or less hinder the diffusion of thinking.

3. The maturity of thinking varies from person to person

Different people, because of their different ages, minds, education levels and experiences, will have different ways of thinking and feelings about the same problem and make different behavioral reactions, which is purely normal.

Third, how to break the inertia of thinking?

Once the inertia of thinking is formed, it is difficult to break, but you can also try the following three methods:

1, empathy;

2. Think from different angles;

3. Divergent reverse thinking method (from one point to many points, from point to surface, from here to there);

When educating children, teachers and parents should pay attention to cultivating children's strong thirst for knowledge and don't suppress their curiosity.

Children should learn to think more, think more, reflect more, learn more, and break the inertia of thinking.

If parents, as their children's first teachers, are trapped in the inertia of thinking, how can children break through?

In order to discuss with the children how to become a boss in ten years, Li Yao made careful preparations after returning to China. The next time she came into the classroom to discuss this issue with the children, under her guidance, she found the light in many children's eyes, silently praying that it was not just a small flickering flame, but a strong light that lit up the direction of children's knowledge.

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