Children whose parents have headaches don't know the rules.

Everything starts with cultivating children's self-control, which can control their emotions well. It is a compulsory course for both children and adults.

First of all, as parents, find out the reasons why children make mistakes and lose their temper:

When children make impulsive mistakes, such as hitting people, we often teach them, "If you have something to say, don't do it." But the next time the same question, the child is still very impulsive.

We often ignore that children's language ability is limited, and they don't know how to use language to guide themselves. Moreover, listening to stories often helps children learn to listen. In kindergartens and schools, they are more willing to listen to their teachers and obey the rules. When we encounter problems, we adults will use language to explain, analyze and solve them, but children still don't understand. At this time, we must find ways to improve our children's language ability.

The better the children's language ability, the more they can understand our requirements. Remembering our requirements is more conducive to his self-guidance in language and less impulsive at key times.

Improve children's language ability and let them express their ideas!

After understanding the situation, explain the reasons and jurisprudence to the children.

Parents should tell their children why such things can't be done before making rules for them, and let them know why they can't be done, otherwise they will be confused. Parents should tell their children what the consequences are, and children will naturally abide by the rules if they know the consequences and why their parents don't let them do that.

Praise children's good behavior.

It is very important for children to establish rules and cultivate good habits before they are six years old. Children are flexible before the age of six. You can educate them by doing what you want with the right methods and examples, but it is relatively difficult after the age of six. Xiong Haizi is used to it, so it is very necessary to establish a sense of rules for children as soon as possible. Secondly, the rules not only emphasize that children should be good treasures, but can distinguish right from wrong and good from evil. So how can children develop a sense of rules?

1. Rules should be simple and easy to understand. To set rules for children, we must first respect them. If children don't understand, we should explain the reasons for doing so or the consequences of not doing so, or use empathy to make children understand the truth of this rule and avoid orders and fierce yelling.

2. When children do well, they should be praised in time, where is the praise, and what are the benefits, so that children can understand this law more deeply.

When the child is crying, don't feel sorry for the child and indulge him, let him vent his emotions and then reason with him.

4. Encourage children in the form of rewards and punishments, step by step.

The most important thing is that setting an example is more than teaching by example, so parents should set an example in front of their children.

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The child is five years old and should go to kindergarten. Before school starts, parents can actually arrange some tasks for their children, such as drawing or coloring in the morning or doing manual work, and taking their children out to play football or ride a scooter in the afternoon. Reasonable time arrangement, parents almost remind you, take your time.

My baby draws pictures and plays with toys every day, and makes an appointment with friends to play games downstairs in the afternoon. Watch TV as long as you want, and turn it off when it's time, usually for half an hour.

I broke my word this time and won't allow it next time. After the child knows that there is a punishment, he will slowly follow the requirements. This process is also gradual, and there is no hurry.

I hope the answer helps.

0~3 years old is the stage of children's family rearing. At this time, there is no need to set too many rules for children, just tell them the rules, but at the stage of 3~6 years old, it is a stage of saying no to children. It must be clear what can and cannot be done. There is an old saying in China that there is no Fiona Fang without rules, which shows the importance of setting rules for children. After the age of 6, children's self-awareness will be greatly strengthened. At this time, if you discipline him too much, he may be more resistant. Therefore, a process of establishing rules in the early stage showed his benefits at this time.

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The question you asked is actually asked by many parents. During the epidemic, the child was at home, and the originally well-behaved child suddenly seemed to be a different person. He has become so thin that he has no sense of time. He has to rush everything, and learning is a headache for you! I saw him in three words: annoying! Angry! Angry!

In fact, it is not because children are scattered at home and have no rules. It is very likely that he has no rules at home from beginning to end, but he is not at home at ordinary times, so all the problems are not exposed. Then there is another problem. What are children like at school? In fact, in most cases, when you communicate with the teacher, the teacher will say that the child is doing well in school. There won't be problems like home. He abides by rules and regulations at school, respects teachers and gets along well with his classmates. It's nothing like the man you saw. Do you even wonder if the teacher is lying?

Actually, not at all. Then why can children behave in school and have no rules at home?

This is because the school is a place with established rules. When children are at school, they will get used to it for a while and find that the school has such and such regulations. For example, we should have lunch in several classes in the morning, go to bed after lunch, and do outdoor activities after getting up. The school itself has a regular schedule, and the school teachers treat all students equally and ask everyone to abide by the rules. In this environment, children naturally understand the school rules. At the same time, I can abide by the rules and regulations of the school.

But what's it like to have children at home? He may have breakfast at seven, eight or nine. The time in the morning is not fixed. Mom will say, let me take you out to buy food today; The next day, mom said, it's time for you to study; On the third day, my mother will say, let's go to the wild together today, or go for a walk in the suburbs; On the fourth day, my mother said that you should study by yourself and I will watch TV for a while. You will find that our schedule and rules are not so strong at home. In this way, children can't master when to do things at home, and naturally they won't do things according to your ideas.

Some parents said that I gave him the prescribed time. Why didn't he do as I said?

Very simply, a child will tentatively try to break the rules of this environment at any time, including when he first goes to kindergarten, so as to show his existence.

Do you remember when your child first went to kindergarten, he often cried? He won't go to anything the teacher tells him to do. But when he really waited for a month or so and got used to it, he fully understood the rules. Therefore, whenever our children cry at home because they don't obey the rules, we either go on the rampage or compromise. How do children know if this is a family rule or if parents clap their heads and say it?

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As the saying goes, "Without rules, there is no Fiona Fang." During the epidemic period, children's holidays are constantly extended, and many parents will feel the good habits they have developed for their children during this long holiday and give them back to us. In fact, no one wants to cultivate "Little God Beast" into "Xiong Haizi", so it is necessary to establish a sense of rules for children, but how to make the sense of rules into the brain is what parents are worried about. Then what should I do? Let's take a look together!

1. Different age stages

Do you know you are 1-2 years old?

The child's self-awareness has not been fully formed before the age of three, so even if the rules are made for the child at this stage, he does not understand. So what children need to know at this stage is to protect themselves and feel safe, for example, don't touch the power supply, don't play with fire, and don't go near places with plenty of water.

I learned manners at the age of three.

Children should know basic manners at the age of 3. At this time, children have a basic sense of self and know their gender and some basic common interpersonal relationships. At this time, children should be taught to learn to say hello, thank you, goodbye and other basic polite expressions.

4-5 years old, distinguish right from wrong.

At this age, it is necessary to teach children to distinguish between right and wrong, cultivate children's view of right and wrong from an early age, and cultivate their habit of helping others.

At the age of six, mistakes must be corrected.

Children have a basic concept of right and wrong at this age. At this time, parents can educate their children and make rules. If the child does something wrong, he should be reminded in time and can be given appropriate small punishment, such as verbal warning and cold treatment.

2. Growth safety guide

Therefore, setting rules for children is to give them a sense of growth security and let them know that many things in life have a sense of boundaries, and some boundaries cannot be crossed. If you love children, you must give them love with boundaries.

1. Kind and firm attitude

When parents communicate with their children, they should first mediate their children's emotions, not only considering their own ideas, but also thinking from the children's perspective. While making rules for children, children should also feel the love of their parents. Once the rules are established and formulated, they cannot be changed at will or compromised easily. For example, a child climbs a bay window, accidentally falls from the bay window to the bed, and his head is smashed. At this time, the mother can tell the child that the mother just heard the sound. Did the baby fall from the windowsill? Do you feel pain now? Come and give your mother a hug and rub it for you. Because climbing the windowsill is very dangerous, the mother will be very worried, and it will hurt when the baby falls off his head, so let's make a small signal together, such as a little gesture to remind you. Do you think it's okay? (Remember that when the rules are made, the children will try, stick to the principles and don't compromise easily. )

lead by example

If you want your child to be disciplined, you must first become a disciplined parent. Because in the process of accompanying children to grow up, our influence on children is subtle, so when we set an example, we will be more convincing when we set rules for children.

3. Appropriate decentralization

The process of raising children is also the process of parents' self-growth, so when we get along with children, although we set rules for them, we don't want to limit them. Therefore, children can be given some choices to learn to be responsible for themselves, and at the same time, their sense of responsibility and judgment can be enhanced.

I also hope that every parent can raise their children scientifically, guide them with wisdom and give them love with boundaries.

Influenced by novel coronavirus, kindergarten children are playing crazy at home, and their attention is not focused, which is a problem faced by many parents. At this time, it is very important to set rules for children. As the saying goes, "No rules can make Fiona Fang", parents should use their status as parents to guide their children to learn and obey the rules.

What rules should children learn before they are 6 years old?

1. Teach children manners.

2. Cultivate children to establish personal character rules.

3. Develop good regular living habits.

4. Cultivate the rules of children's study habits.

5. Be aware of safety and pay attention to safety rules.

5-year-old children's consciousness is still in the primary stage, which is the best time to help children learn various rules. After knowing what rules to make, parents must reduce their love for their children and help them gradually make various rules to help them grow up.

My 6-year-old baby is also very naughty. Every time I come home from work, I play with my mobile phone whenever I have the chance. Her grandmother was in charge when I was away. Every meal requires 20 minutes to finish and 30 minutes to watch cartoons, and then I study this homework for the rest of the time. Then I finished my homework and went out for a walk with my grandmother.