1. Communicate more and give positive feedback. In reality, many parents are not good at parent-child communication. It has become a common phenomenon that children don't like their parents' nagging. Encourage children to express their inner joys and sorrows, and listen patiently to their comments on things around them or what happened. Try not to interrupt them in the process of telling, and don't rush to evaluate them. After the speech, parents will give a brief overview of their words. This not only allows children to gain respect, but also helps them to find out their own ideas in mutual understanding and communication, and enhance their respect and trust for their parents.

2. Improve the art of speaking Many parents often scold their children in a commanding tone, or keep repeating simple language, such as whether they have done their homework or not, and how many points they scored in the exam. This monotonous stimulation and preaching method is easy to cause children's rebellious psychology. They often say "I hope you will/won't …" and "I hope you can/can't …". Although it is important to have more discussion and persuasion in the tone, it is still necessary to get down to business, let the children feel at ease, and put forward specific ideas and requirements for the management, and make a good inspection afterwards.

3. Be brave enough to admit your mistakes to your children. Many parents avoid the contradiction and conflict between parents and children after criticizing/accusing/beating their children with emotion. As a result, the child was hurt. When parents lose their children's trust, children's words gradually lose their authority, and children are no longer willing to listen to their parents' arrangements seriously. Parents should listen to their children's criticisms and suggestions properly, be honest with each other, dare to admit mistakes and reflect, communicate with their children on an equal footing, and make their children's "self-reflection" the best frank demonstration.

4. Teach children to appreciate and accept themselves. In reality, many children care too much about others' negative comments on themselves, and their hearts are fragile and their emotions fluctuate greatly. People are not perfect, nor are they useless. If you oscillate your emotions because of others' praise and criticism, it is easy to fall into an "emotional whirlpool". Sincerely encourage your children to learn emotional independence. Let them dare to show their advantages. Encourage them to communicate with others and believe that they must be a valuable person.

5. Making and abiding by family rules, ignoring making family rules, is very unfavorable for guiding children to abide by family order and cultivating children's good living habits. Without rules, there would be no Fiona Fang. In family education, we must pay attention to the rules and let the children know that the rules are obeyed by everyone, not you alone. After the rules are formulated, they should be strictly implemented and parents should abide by them, otherwise they will leave the impression of "dishonesty" for their children. Children will get used to it when their parents become models of obeying the rules.

6. Help children solve negative emotions. In reality, many children don't know how to solve the emotional depression, or they are annoyed or choose extreme methods. It is necessary to cultivate children's good psychological quality, especially to stand the test of competition and setbacks, and not to get into trouble because of a trivial matter. When a child has a bad mood, help him learn to vent: run in the playground, sing loudly, or talk to someone he trusts. These are all to make children clear that they should choose a suitable environment and a suitable vent object.

7. Seriously cultivate a specialty. Some parents will also arrange several special classes for their children, such as piano, dance and calligraphy. Don't blindly give children all kinds of interests and take long classes, which will only make children gradually lose their curiosity, followed by conflicts and even obliterate their interest in one of them. Parents can pay attention to observation and focus on cultivating a hobby that children love. Free choice may explore their potential more than meaningless compulsory intervention.

8. Don't give up self-growth. Many parents always use their own experiences or opinions to discipline their children, but ignore the progress of the times. New things emerge one after another. If parents fail to keep up with the times, accept new things and update their ideas, there may be a "generation gap" in parent-child communication. The ideal state is: children understand, parents understand; Parents understand what children don't understand, at least parents should have an intersection with children. The kingly way to educate children is for parents to constantly cultivate themselves and let them grow up with their children.