First, try to make children develop good study habits.
We found that if a child sincerely feels that she needs to learn and wants to learn, then her grades will be great. In order to improve Yi Heng's interest in learning and promote her progress, we must first know who is the top student in her class, and then let her follow their example and try to catch up with or surpass them. At the same time, help her make a study plan, set up ideals and goals for her, paint a bright future, make her realize the importance of learning from the deep heart, and have interest and desire for learning.
Study fatigue is one of the reasons why children are tired of learning. In order to prevent the child from fatigue and promote her all-round development, we arrange time to play with Yi Heng every day, such as playing ball games, playing chess, watching TV and playing the electronic piano. In this way, children will study easily and happily. Study habits are very important to get good grades. In order to cultivate children's good study habits, we ask her to study hard when she is young, have fun while playing, pay attention and invest time. We will give her homework and tell her to play when she is finished, and play early when she is finished. In order to prevent her from being impetuous, sometimes we always ask a question step by step to inspire her to think and form her habit of thinking and asking questions. In this way, she gradually developed the habit of being practical and willing to learn, which helped her to develop good study habits later.
Second, pay attention to all-round development of children's quality.
How to improve children's academic performance is our key work, but not all. We pay more attention to the all-round development of children. Pay great attention to cultivating children's psychology and character. We feel that without healthy psychology and good personality, it will greatly hinder her development. Usually pay special attention to guide children to play with classmates and cultivate their friendship.
Once the school held a parent's day activity, I found that other students were daring to speak in class, but Yi Heng was always hesitant. After returning home, she regretted that she had raised her hand late. In fact, she really wants to talk, just because she is introverted and dare not express it boldly. Such a character is not conducive to future survival and development in society. So we encouraged her to say: You are so excellent. If you speak, it will be wonderful. Seize the opportunity, don't wait and hesitate, or the opportunity will be missed.
We believe that only a broad mind can broaden one's horizons and have lofty ambitions. Once a child was a little unhappy when he saw his mother telling other children about learning methods and lending them books to read. Afterwards, I said to my mother, "They are not your children. Why are you so enthusiastic? . "We said to her," People are mutual. If you are enthusiastic about others, others will be enthusiastic about you. Maybe they have any good ways to tell you! " Besides, a real person should have a broad mind. Do you think Edison invented those things for himself? He is making contributions to all mankind! Don't you want to be a scientist? Then you should have a broad mind and make contributions to society! "Yi Heng nodded in words.
Third, take educating children as a pleasure.
We always see the message in the media that parents in China attach great importance to the education and cultivation of their children. In fact, according to my observation, there are very few parents who are really willing to train and know how to educate and train their children. Most of them stay in empty preaching, muttering to their children that they should study hard and make great achievements, and then take care of themselves. I hope that children have the same goals, reason, self-control and diligence as adults. They lack real enthusiasm and patience for educating children, and it seems that educating children is a necessity and a nuisance. They spend a lot of time watching TV, playing cards and coping with meals, but complain that they have no time and energy to take care of their children. We believe that if we want to train children well, we must first raise parents' awareness and treat educating children as a pleasure. Only in this way can we be enthusiastic, confident and patient, and education will certainly have good results.
1 The most important thing in family education-personality
My daughter's learning level is in the middle now, but I never take it as the standard of her efforts.
My wife and I have diametrically opposed educational ideas. My wife is very angry that my daughter can't get into the top five, but I am just the opposite. I am very happy that my daughter ranks 15. I always say to my daughter, "Look at 40 students in your class, you are 15, and there are 25 people behind." You are amazing! "
The establishment of character comes from the power of example.
Judging from your child's life, there is no essential difference between whether your child's grades are good or bad and whether he enters Peking University or an ordinary university. People who are related to people can really widen the distance between children all their lives, which is a matter of personality.
The establishment of character comes from the power of example, and parents can't escape as role models for their children. What we ask our children to do is invalid because parents don't do it. For example, when parents are playing mahjong, they scold their children to study, but of course they don't want to study. When my father said, "I'm worthless, do you want to be as worthless as me?" Children will think, you say you are worthless, so I think you are happy to play mahjong and you are happy not to go to college. Why do you want me to go to college? Parents are the best role models for children. As long as my daughter studies, I will take a book to read beside her. In this way, there will be discipline in it, and role models play a very important role.
Don't speak ill of others in front of children.
When you do anything, you should think about whether I have hurt others. For example, we adults sometimes like to speak ill of our neighbors and colleagues behind their backs, and we don't shy away from our children. My wife and I had the same situation. We talked about who has a good character, who has a bad character, who is stingy and who is not stingy. As a result, once my daughter came back from school and told me which classmate in her class was good, which classmate was bad, which classmate was stingy and which classmate was snobbish. I told my daughter not to speak ill of her classmates. My classmates are with you every day. If they have any shortcomings you think, you should keep them in mind. More importantly, you should learn their advantages. The daughter immediately asked, "When you were with your mother, didn't you also talk about a lot of uncles and aunts?" Why can't I speak ill of my classmates? "A word made me speechless. Since then, my wife and I have made a rule that we can't talk about other people's shortcomings in front of our children, but we must speak well of others.
2. Cultivate children's love for life-mood education
We will find that in a class, some children are always first or second, and their IQ is really high. And our children, no matter how hard they try, are in the middle, even behind. What should parents do in this case?
Let children feel that living in the world is beautiful.
There are differences between children, but as long as your children don't reach the level of idiots, they can do important things as long as they can walk into the classroom normally. Hu Xueyan, for example, only went to school for two months, but in the end he became the most powerful businessman and ambitious. This is a good example. Our parents must be able to urge their children to make progress, and under no circumstances should their self-esteem be harmed. You should make sure that your children are happy to win the first and last place, and make them feel that living in the world is beautiful. Cultivating their love for life is one of the most important tasks for parents.
Teach children that true happiness is earned by themselves.
Nowadays, parents are very fond of their children and give them whatever they want. For example, if a child has a crush on a toy, his parents will not leave until they buy it. In the end, parents had no choice but to buy it. Therefore, children have this kind of psychology. As long as he insists, parents will give in.
Before buying something for my child, I will analyze whether what he wants is reasonable or not. If it is unreasonable, I will not buy it. If it is reasonable, I won't buy it for him easily. I must let my child finish a task first, and then buy it for him.
For example, when my daughter was studying abroad, everyone in the class had a laptop. Although my family has a desktop computer, it is more convenient to use a laptop, and there is no shortage of money at home. It is wrong not to buy it for her. I told her that dad would definitely buy it for you, but you know, there is nothing in this world for nothing. You are a big boy now, you need to work hard to get what you want. If she can recite 30 English inspirational articles of New Oriental, buy them for her. In less than two weeks, she knew it by heart, so I bought her a laptop. This kind of education makes children understand the truth that you can only get it by paying, and also turns the way that children like into the motivation for her to do another thing.
3 give appropriate encouragement to stimulate unlimited potential-encourage education.
Teachers' educational methods are very important, but parents' educational methods are more important, because children pay more attention to their parents' words and deeds.
There is nothing to be ashamed of when you win the first place.
People's growth is a lifelong matter, and it is definitely not determined by your grades in primary school or university. Grades are very important for children, but you can't think that children are worthless just because their grades are low. Ask parents to change the criteria for judging success.
For children, high score is one of the criteria for success, but it should never be regarded as the only criterion. Otherwise, your child will be hurt countless times, because there is only one first place in any exam. So I have a self-deprecating remark: in fact, the first is not easy, because he walked very hard. Looking ahead, no one chased him. Looking back, the whole class is chasing themselves, chasing themselves half dead, and there is nothing to fight for the first place. How happy you are to be the last one. Looking ahead, they are all half-dead people who are chasing themselves. When you look back, no one is chasing you. How chic do you think this life is!
Parents can't go back on their word.
Of course, this view can't be told to children. You must learn how to encourage children. This exam is the last time, and I will encourage him to take it for the second time next time. He got 20 points this time, and I will encourage him to get 30 points next time. Don't talk about your children. He got 60 points this time. You tell him not to go into the house unless he gets 90 points next time. If you say so, of course, some children will study hard, but some children will not get 90 points even if they work hard. what should he do ？ Did you really let him in? You must let him in. If you let him into the house, it means that you have broken your promise. The children will know later. My parents don't keep their promises, and I won't care anymore. Anyway, he won't stop me from entering the house, so my parents were stabbed by the children.
While encouraging, we should also set rules for our children.
Parents should set rules for their children while encouraging them. My son likes ice cream very much. My wife makes him eat a lot and eat his teeth every day. I don't think this will work, so I stipulate that he can only eat one ice cream a day, and he must eat it half an hour after meals. My son just turned 4, and I don't know what half an hour is. I told him that Long Needle would go anywhere for half an hour. My son watched it for a while, and he watched 100 many times in half an hour. I finally stayed up for half an hour and couldn't wait to eat ice cream. The next day, it became a dozen times. It became two or three times on the third day. On the fourth day, he knew that he couldn't eat for a while anyway, so he went to play. By the time he remembered to eat, it had been half an hour.
As long as it is the right thing, parents should encourage their children and make rules for them. After the rules are made, parents must not change them casually, and problems will arise if they change them.
Don't let vanity work, let the children grow up slowly.
Finally, I want to talk about another problem that a parent-teacher association makes, which is called "talent syndrome". Parents especially want to turn their children into little geniuses. In fact, this is the vanity of parents. China's parents will make two mistakes. First, let your children learn everything they can't, and hope that their children will achieve something in a certain field. So many parents force their children to learn that from primary school, which makes no sense. The most important thing for a child is to let him grow up slowly.
My daughter likes playing the piano very much. She started playing at the age of five, and it became sour when she played. After passing the exam level by level, her interest in playing the piano was completely stifled. My daughter didn't want to learn, but my wife forced her to learn. I asked my wife, your child 10 is over 10 piano. /kloc-will she learn to play the piano after 0/0? If you don't want to train your child to be a great pianist, it's meaningless for you to let your child pass the Grade 10 exam at the age of 10. Second, you let your child learn too much and make her lose interest in the piano. She doesn't like playing piano at all. I told my daughter that dad won't force you to study and won't let you pass the exam. My father's greatest regret in this life is that he can't play musical instruments. Playing musical instruments can relieve depression. In principle, learning piano is not to let you pass the exam, but to help you find a channel to express your feelings. You will definitely enter the social circle in the future. If you can accompany your friends on the piano when they sing, you will be respected by others. If you don't want to learn, can you keep the current level. My daughter actually likes the piano very much. When she is tired of her homework, she will play the piano for half an hour. After that, she learned from the teacher once a week, and her interest in learning piano became stronger and stronger.