You must have heard the song "Listen to Mom", right? "Why are others reading comics, I am learning to draw, I am leaning against the wall and backing ABC…… ... others are playing games ... why should I listen to my mother? When I grow up, I begin to understand why I run faster and fly higher than others. In the future, people will watch all the cartoons I drew and sing all the songs I wrote ... "You see, other singers' mothers trained him since childhood! In my opinion, cultivating children's specialties from an early age is the embodiment of parents' sense of responsibility.

Three parents educate their children.

Mr. Zhou: "If you don't force him, you can't learn anything."

Before the child grows up, he doesn't know much about anything, and he is unlikely to understand what he is interested in. At this time, parents need to come over and make a plan for him to help him discover his own specialties and interests. So, he enrolled his children in English classes, art classes and dance classes, and took his daughter to work hard everywhere. Teacher Zhou said: "Now the pressure of social competition is so great that children are lazy. If they are not forced to learn nothing at all, they will suffer when they grow up. "

Liu Yun's mother: "What a nuisance! Let it go!"

I have been studying the piano hard with my daughter, but just before the exam, my daughter said she didn't want to go. Li Yun's mother's daughter Xinxin is 6 years old, but she has been studying piano for more than two years. But in fact, Xinxin is lively and active, and she can't sit still on the piano stool. After working so hard for so long, Liu Yun's mother also felt pity, but after consulting some experts, Liu Yun's mother has come to her senses now. She said: "Children's childhood life is really precious. If you want to force her to learn something she doesn't like, you might as well let her have more fun and let nature take its course! "

Ms. Fang: "If children are interested, let them learn."

Last year's dance forest conference program almost became an essential family topic for Ms. Fang's family. Every time I come back, the whole family get together to comment on the dancing of the stars, and occasionally stand up and dance, including Ms. Fang's daughter Xiao Nan. My baby is five years old this year. Every time the music is played, the little guy can perform a few tricks properly, which makes the whole family laugh. At the beginning of this year, Miss Fang went to the gym and signed up for a dance class, so she filled out a form for her daughter. At first, she just thought it was fun and didn't want to use it as a means to cultivate her daughter's specialty. But after a while, Miss Fang found that her daughter did have some talents in dancing, so she simply let her continue to learn. "I haven't felt compelled to learn to dance until now. Now children are still interested and willing to learn. If one day she gets bored and doesn't want to learn, then I will make her back down and stop learning. After all, for such a young child, it is most important for her to enjoy her childhood happily. "

Expert opinion:

Cultivating children should be loose and moderate.

Experts believe that coercion and laissez-faire are not good methods. In modern society, it is the choice of many parents to cultivate children's interests and specialties from an early age, but there are also many problems in the process of cultivating children. Some children become willful because of their parents' connivance, and some children are forced by their parents to plant the seeds of depression in their hearts. In fact, "coercion and laissez-faire are both wrong."

If you obey your child's "nature" too much, your child will lose many valuable educational opportunities because of his lazy nature, which is also very unfavorable to the standardization of your child's personality. However, if children are forced to learn this and that, it is easy for them to feel afraid of difficulties and fatigue in their studies, which is too great for their tolerance. Therefore, the best way is to find children's interests in life and cultivate them in time to make them children's hobbies and specialties.

Help the child arouse his interest.

First of all, we should accept children, respect them and observe them. On the basis of children's interest, helping children broaden their horizons and increase the "depth of the game" can guide children's interest. Let children experience the joy of success as much as possible, which is the way to consolidate interest. In fact, if a child can devote himself to one thing for a long time, it is his chance to fully develop his mind. The resulting concentration is an important foundation for future success.