First, sex education is not done well, which may affect children's self-confidence, affect the establishment of intimate relationships when children grow up, and of course there may be other influences. For example, some people have a normal exploration of sexual feelings when they were young, but they were scolded by their parents, or because they didn't understand, they labeled themselves as doing something wrong, and even thought they were dirty and sinful, so they lived in fear and self-blame for many years; For another example, some people have been rejected by their families because of their gender since childhood, and they have been burdened with heavy pressure and burden in order to gain recognition for many years; Others don't know what happened when they entered adolescence, can't accept their own development, and feel inferior more and more. ...

Second, parents are ashamed to talk about sex, and children will get information through other channels and may go astray. When children grow up, there will be many puzzles and problems related to sex. When you refuse to answer their questions about sex or even avoid talking about sex, children will think that sex is bad, taboo and impossible to talk about. But they will not give up the exploration of sex, because it is an inevitable experience when they grow up, so they will turn to explore it in a more secret way, such as searching for relevant information on the Internet or discussing it with their peers. The information children get from these channels is likely to be wrong and even dangerous.

Third, parents avoid talking about sexual problems, which will make children feel that they have sexual problems. I can't ask my parents for help. place

So when they encounter difficulties, they have to solve them themselves; They won't tell their parents when they are hurt. At this time, even if parents want to influence their children, they won't listen, because we haven't heard the children before and haven't answered their confusion. Why can we suddenly influence them?

1. The traditional morality of China people is very taboo to talk about sex in a positive way. Whether it's true abstinence or just being embarrassed to talk about it, parents and teachers always talk about transsexuality from childhood, and they don't talk about it directly. When the child asks how it was born, the parents will say, "I found it in the garbage and it was sent on the phone." And never mention anything about sex, thinking that this will affect children and not pay attention to their physical development. However, there is a forbidden fruit effect. The more you avoid it, the more curious your children will be, to explore and taste the forbidden fruit. Because of ignorance of sexual knowledge, I don't know what kind of sexual behavior is normal, and I really don't have the consciousness to protect myself, which has caused many tragedies. Among them, girls were the most injured, and many girls had abortions.

There is no sex education at school or at home, so the channel to get the most sexual knowledge is to communicate with others through the internet. Without scientific and healthy guidance and research, the sexual knowledge they obtained in this way can not only help children understand adolescent sexual knowledge, but also mislead them, just as many vulgar videos and pornographic industrial novels distort children's correct sexual concepts, and many videos contain distorted practices such as sexual violence, sexual abuse and rape. No one told them whether it was correct and scientific, which led to cognitive bias. They imitate these videos to explore and experience sex by themselves, but they can't treat sex correctly. When they were young, the environment never mentioned the curiosity driven by abstinence and the false knowledge they accepted. In addition, with the development of the Internet, many people now vent their sexual desire through "sex dating", which has caused many diseases and even many shocking cases.

The most chilling thing is that many children don't know how to protect themselves from childhood because of lack of sexual knowledge, and even cause lifelong harm to some children. If they know this knowledge, they will know that it is to protect themselves and prevent so many tragedies from happening in the future.

In short, I hope that through these things now, everyone can understand that parents should know that there is nothing to be embarrassed about talking about sex. It is very important for children to receive scientific and correct sex education and understand what sex is. If you encounter these. How to protect yourself, I hope that when children ask how to come in the future, parents will not just avoid the question, but will be able to give their children popular science. You are a fertilized egg formed by the combination of an egg cell and sperm, and you were born in your mother's belly. Children don't have to explore this knowledge by themselves, but they can get scientific sex education from the front and grow up better.