First of all, it will destroy the child's sense of security. Especially for children before the age of 6, their thinking level determines that they can't understand things that are too complicated. When parents quarrel, the first feeling is: "Mom and Dad are angry!" "Some children even feel that they are caused by themselves, so they are afraid and at a loss.
Secondly, it will make children imitate. There is a saying that parents are children's photocopiers and children are parents' photocopiers. Many children imitate their parents' behavior. A pair of parents who are used to arguing in front of their children may gain a child who is used to shouting. Such a child is easy to blame others when he encounters problems, and he is out of control, which may bring him this model in getting along with his peers and solving problems in the future, which is not conducive to his social interaction and personality development.
Finally, parents who often quarrel may neglect to take care of their children and make them feel the warmth of home, which may lead them to seek comfort from the outside world or other things. Some children learn to play truant, smoke, indulge in online games and join bad groups at an early age. Many of them come from families where their parents are not harmonious.
Therefore, parents are advised not to quarrel in front of their children.
If this really happens, I suggest you do this:
Husband and wife can agree in advance: once there is a sign of quarrel, at least one of them should quickly get out of the current environment and try to adjust his mood. Dad can stand quietly on the balcony for a while, and mom can sit quietly in the bedroom, and then communicate and solve the problem when the mood is calm. This reduced the quarrel to a minimum.
If the quarrel has ended in front of the children, then parents should do a good job of "dealing with the aftermath." First of all, no matter what the child's reaction is, parents should go to their children and apologize for their gaffes. Then, explain why you quarrel with your child in a language that your child can understand. Be sure to tell the child clearly that he didn't cause it, and be sure to express that mom and dad love him no matter what happens. Finally, mom and dad should make up in front of the children. This move is very important. In addition to letting children see their parents get back together with their own eyes, they can also help children learn some social skills-they can deal with conflicts in an appropriate way without being afraid of them in future.
In short, parents had better not quarrel in front of their children. If you really can't help quarreling, you should handle it correctly afterwards to minimize the adverse effects on your children.