Japanese manners are improved according to Japanese mood and upbringing. The characteristics of Japanese etiquette are: paying attention to the beauty of action and artistic conception. Communicate sincerity, friendship, respect for others, care and understanding to each other through your own actions.
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The Japanese believe that greetings should be based on action greetings. When greeting, the most taboo is to squint or look at each other. It is also considered impolite to stare at people with your eyes as if you want to see through them. So, what is the correct position? In the past, there was a saying in Japan that eyes were flat, chest was flat and shoulders were flat. At present, the most standard practice is to ask people to form four angles from the angles of flat eyes, flat shoulders and flat chest, and choose the middle position as the best visual part. The so-called best position refers to the posture in which the greeting person expresses his willingness to listen to the other person.
The standard secondary visual position is that the part about one inch away from the flat shoulder forms four angles with the flat forehead and navel. Select a part in the four corners. If you look outside this range, it will make the other person feel squint.
Even in a very relaxed conversation between the two sides, if one of them looks away from the secondary visual part, it will make the other side feel rude. If you find that your friends are far away in crowded places, you can gently raise your hand and wave to each other. If the other party finds out, look at your friend from a distance and say some greetings.
When acquaintances meet, the importance of etiquette goes far beyond giving a speech. The most common thing is to bow and scrape. If the relationship between the two sides is very close, you can also shake hands or pat on the shoulder. In short, you must consider the relationship between the other party and yourself before giving gifts. As far as shaking hands is concerned, when men and women shake hands, the woman should reach out first. Between elders and juniors, juniors should reach out first. Thank you, goodbye, yes, good morning, good night, excuse me and please are common polite expressions in Japan.
Few people speak Japanese. The words "he" and "she" only appeared in recent years. Generally speaking, honorifics completely replace the person. Therefore, it is very important for Japanese to use honorifics correctly. In principle, you should use self-deprecating words when talking about yourself or someone close to you. Use honorifics when talking about people close to each other and their predecessors. Those who use honorifics respectfully and casually will be regarded as uneducated by others even when they mention their own affairs. It can be said that the correct use of language in Japan is often an important basis for judging whether a person is educated or not. It is impolite to have a long talk with acquaintances in the middle of the road or at the ticket gate of the station, and to let others give their seats to acquaintances on the tram. In public, the Japanese emphasize that "don't bother others" must be considered first. Therefore, when people make long-distance calls, they often look for roadside or places that do not affect others' walking. In addition, you can't just focus on yourself and ignore each other and talk endlessly. The Japanese think this is a sign of disrespect for others.
When you meet an elder or boss in the street, you don't have to take off your coat, but you must take off your hat and gloves that are easy to take off and then salute. Considering the traffic problem, it is necessary to give elders and superiors a place to take shelter from the wind. Greeting each other should be fully considered, but it must be simple and to the point.
The correct use of language is an art, and the voice, tone, speed and pronunciation of speech directly affect the conversation effect. Generally speaking, it is better to make the conversation easy to understand and give the other person a pleasant feeling. Too humble or too high-profile will hinder your personal image. In particular, when greeting each other, try not to use abstruse words related to your major and position, so as not to confuse the other party. Tell some profound truth at this time, and others won't think the speaker is great. Religious and political topics often involve personal positions, so this kind of conversation is as few as possible, just talk about the events that happened that day easily. Generally speaking, there are fewer obstacles to talking about literature, art and sports, but it is strictly forbidden to express your erudition to each other. Besides, it is impolite to talk in foreign languages too much. The standard practice is to put forward corresponding topics according to the other person's situation (age, gender) and talk easily in educated language. The Japanese believe that no matter how great a person has achieved in his studies, if he doesn't know a wide range of social knowledge and is ignorant of the world, he will have no education.
Talking about work and business should be concise, orderly and focused, and talk as little as possible about topics. Too many details and irrelevant words are not transactional language. It is a good conversation to attract obedient people to this topic. The Japanese farewell ceremony is a means to express sincerity to each other. In Japan, the farewell ceremony is mainly a bow ceremony. In addition to expressing special affection, we should shake hands and say goodbye, but we must pay attention to turning from the purpose to the present, and the woman will reach out to the man first. Bending down is called bow ceremony, which is actually a misunderstanding. Quti Li pays the most attention to the eyes, and conveys his sincerity to the other party through his eyes.
The so-called nine-crystal ceremony (head-first ceremony, finger-building ceremony, claw nail ceremony, hand-folding ceremony, hand-waving ceremony, hand-closing ceremony) is a kind of ceremony that can be chosen according to the situation of the other party.
The Japanese emphasize that form is the expression of the heart. There are certain rules in the process of shaping, which is the most correct way for Japanese people to communicate for many years and cannot be changed casually.
The basis of correct action is correct posture. So it is very important to master the correct posture. You can't convey your feelings to each other if you are not careful when you bow your head. It's not enough just to bow your head and say goodbye. The correct bending ceremony pays attention to the straight neck, so that the other person can't see his chin and his spine is straight when he bows his head. At the same time, you must be grateful to each other. Although it goes without saying goodbye, goodbye and thank you, this artistic conception is being conveyed to each other through our own actions.
Quti ceremony can be divided into standing ceremony and bow ceremony.
It is impolite to keep your arms upright naturally, your fingers apart and your mouth open. Fingers are vertical and close together, and naturally droop with the body when bending. The highest standard of farewell ceremony is to bend your body until your fingers touch your knees. The minimum standard farewell ceremony only requires the body to straighten forward from the waist. The Japanese say that the principle of salute is three tones: bend over when inhaling, stop when exhaling, and recover when inhaling again.
Kneeling is a unique habit of Japanese people. Therefore, the bow-down ceremony has become a unique etiquette of the Japanese. In recent years, it has become out of fashion to live on your knees in Japan. Some Japanese experts believe that the kneeling lifestyle damages the active parts of Japanese people, such as cervical vertebrae and lumbar vertebrae, making them clumsy; Few people lean forward with their heads and necks flat-chested and hunched.
However, Japanese brain physiologists point out that the correct sitting posture should be conducive to head rotation, and the Japanese kneeling posture is the most conducive to head rotation.
The farewell ceremony is based on correct kneeling posture and correct bending. According to the bending of the body, the placement of the arm is decided, and in this process, any one of the nine gifts is decided. In today's Japan, as long as you remember the finger-making ceremony, the hand-folding ceremony, the hand-closing ceremony and the hand-closing ceremony, it is enough to cope with all kinds of scenes.
The finger-building ceremony requires the performer to kneel on the mat, first bend the body straight to about 5 degrees, and the arms on both sides are naturally vertical. When saluting, he bent down until his fingers touched his knees. The hand folding ceremony requires the giver to kneel on the table and bend down until the palm is flat on his knee. Bend at an angle of 45 degrees. If you bend your body at a 50-degree angle, when your palm reaches your knees, it is called the reaching ceremony. Hand-reaching ceremony is a farewell ceremony for peers to leave. Like the stand-at-attention ceremony, the bow-down ceremony is also very particular about three tones, that is, the most suitable process of giving gifts is sucking, shouting and sucking.