Xiao Li's son, who is only three years old, can already count. For ordinary children, he looks very clever. Moreover, the mother is not satisfied with this, and she wants to go ahead with education and use Chinese characters directly, hoping that her children can learn. However, after teaching for a month, the children always don't understand. Xiaoli began to be anxious. She took out a small stick and knocked it on the ground, scaring her son and severely criticizing her. The child was scared to cry by his mother many times, but he still cried in his mouth after a while. Mommy hug? Let Xiaoli see that she can't bear it and can only hold it. In my opinion, she is also a cruel mother, and her children are so strict.
Many educators believe that this is a common baby? What's wrong with you? Some of my mother's practices have made them feel a great sense of dependence. In the long run, it will affect your life. The child will grow up to be a. Ma Baonan? There is not much insistence on any idea. Living in the shadow of parents all my life. So why do children have this kind of psychology? Mainly related to three reasons.
After reading several reasons, are parents still willing? Criticism? Children?
The child knows that this is wrong.
After being criticized, the child knows that he is wrong and can't go on like this. If they can't learn, they are wrong. They also want to work hard to achieve their goals, but they are limited by their intelligence and body, so they owe their mothers some money. At this time, the child is helpless, so after being criticized, I hope my mother can forgive him and can only extend her hands to express her feelings. Moreover, when children are two or three years old, their expressive ability is not very clear, and the way is naturally single.
Feel the mother's emotions
Children are the easiest to perceive emotions. Have parents found that a child crying in kindergarten will cause a group of children to cry? When children perceive their mother's anger and helplessness, they will express it by crying. When the mother's anger disappears, the child will stop crying. At this time, the mother must be very distressed by the child and want to hug. The child is naturally willing to give it a hug.
Worried about being abandoned
An American research institute shows that 87% of children will have fear when they are scolded by their parents, especially young children, who are afraid that their parents will not want them. Only by hugging can you feel your mother's heart. If you can appease the children and let them feel their feelings at this time, it will be easy for them to understand.
Be confused about the future
Of course, some parents will joke and often say that you came as a gift, so this kind of child is most afraid of his parents' anger, and will also form inferiority complex after a long time. Secondly, parents who criticize their children too much will also make them feel insecure and can only seek comfort through their parents. We try to give our children some patience. Even if he doesn't do well and does it wrong, everything will become easier with the growth of age, but the child is not mature enough.
Message: We should tolerate a child, especially in education. A good education is indeed a good start, but it must not be ahead of education. Why school-age children can go to school is to let them keep up with the progress of school. In fact, children's brain development is complete at about one year old, but after two years old, they can actually get in touch with some knowledge, but it must not be too difficult. Excessive use of the brain will only consume the child's potential and cause an irreparable situation.