0 1 pressurization taboo
Forbidden words 1: Come on! Wish you success!
Comments: Children want to get good grades, but the college entrance examination is an ability test. This motivational language may increase the pressure on children, and the result is counterproductive.
Forbidden word 2: success or failure is at stake!
Comments: This sentence may make candidates feel that they are wearing an invisible "hooping spell", which will cause great psychological pressure, resulting in tension, anxiety, boredom, fear, anxiety and other emotions.
Forbidden word 3: As a person, I don't believe that you are worse than others.
Comments: At the critical moment of the exam, comparing children with others will cause unnecessary psychological pressure to children.
Taboo 4: It's time to test you.
Comments: Today's children all know the importance of the college entrance examination. If parents say this, it is likely to make the child's already fluctuating emotions more difficult to calm down.
Taboo 5: I let out all my big words. If you can't get into a key university, I'll walk backwards to show it to my colleagues.
Comments: Talking about the expectation of children's test scores will bring extra psychological burden to candidates, which will affect their mood.
02. Bustling taboo words
Taboo 6: It doesn't matter if you don't do well in the exam.
Comments: Many parents hope to use such words to decompress their children and help them relax. In fact, most candidates are disgusted with this sentence. They think that saying these things before the exam is a denial of parents' ability.
Taboo 7: Look at the question carefully and answer it seriously. Don't make big omissions, and get as many points as possible.
Comments: The teacher has repeatedly urged candidates to master some examination skills, and if they can get one more point, they will get one more point. At this time, parents should not say anything more. Because no candidate is willing to lose points on the knowledge points he has mastered.
Taboo 8: Don't worry about anything, just take the exam.
Comments: Some parents interfere with their children's affairs too much before the exam, which makes them rebellious. Therefore, parents must control excessive attention to their children. Parents should not underestimate their children's self-care and self-reliance ability.
Forbidden word 9: Go to sleep quickly and have a good rest in order to have a good exam.
Comments: Parents can tell you during the exam, but don't make the child feel suddenly like a different person, which will make the child feel bored. Body language such as parents smiling and patting shoulders is often more convincing than "nagging".
Taboo 10: Finish the exam well and you and your parents will be liberated.
Comments: When children hear this, they will feel that they are a burden to their parents. It seems that their parents are all of their own making. If you meet those stubborn and willful children, they may contradict each other, hurt their feelings, and directly affect the stability of children's test emotions.
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It is better to pay attention to safety than to wish success.
Instead of wishing success, it is better to change it into words that care about the safety of candidates, such as "pay attention to safety" and "be careful all the way", because the message conveyed by such a sentence is "Mom and Dad care about me, not just my grades". Experts all said that during the preparation period, parents should be particularly good at communicating with their children. Parents can be appropriate, but don't nag. Experts suggest that you should not tell your child any expectations, exaggerate the difficulty of the exam, and take the initiative to ask about the exam. Parents should avoid talking about the topic of children's learning, because this topic will involve the comparison between children, which will affect the mood of parents more or less, and then affect the mood of candidates. In addition, the tone of speech should be full of love. Kindness is the gentlest and calmest way of communication. No matter whether there is a quarrel or conflict, as long as the other party is moved, communication can be realized in the end.