1, constantly supplement parenting knowledge
Being a parent for the first time, many parents are at a loss or even at a loss when facing the newborn baby. As the baby grows up day by day, various new problems follow. You can improve your parenting ability and skills by consulting experienced people, reading various parenting books or attending various parent training classes and seminars. This is one of the necessary ways to successfully raise smart babies. It is worth reminding that it is not only the mother's responsibility but also the father's responsibility to supplement parenting knowledge. Therefore, dad should also use various opportunities to improve his parenting skills.
Step 2 learn to listen
Why does the baby do inexplicable things? What the hell were they thinking? Many parents are often distressed because they don't understand their baby's thoughts and can't communicate effectively with their baby. The easiest way to master your baby's temper and improve communication skills is to listen. For example, when babies express strong emotions to you, such as anger and frustration, listening to their true thoughts will help them get rid of the difficulties they face as soon as possible.
3. Fully express your feelings.
Many parents think that when their babies are young, they don't feel anything around them, even if they are told, they don't understand or understand. Therefore, expressing your feelings and thoughts to your baby is similar to casting pearls before swine. Research shows that revealing parents' true feelings in front of the baby can give the baby more emotional experience, and at the same time, it can also encourage him to speak more about his thoughts and enhance communication and understanding between parents and children. Parents are advised to spend some time with their babies every day and talk about their feelings on this day. Whether happy, sad or depressed, the expression of all emotions will have a positive impact on the baby's psychological development.
4. Spend as much time with your baby as possible.
Children's education experts have done a survey, and the survey targets are some preschool babies. When the investigator asked, "What do you like best about mom and dad?" Many babies gave the following answer: "Mom tells me stories." "Dad plays with me." "Mom and Dad took me for a walk with the puppy." "Mom and I draw together." "Take me out to play in the summer vacation." This fully shows that the baby is very willing to be with his parents, and being with his parents is a normal and urgent psychological need for the baby. Research shows that parents can spend as much time with their baby as possible, which can help the baby build up self-confidence and give him enough sense of security.
5, always care about the baby
Regardless of the baby's age, whether it is clever or not, always giving care will make them fully feel the love of their parents and move towards the society more maturely in the future. When getting along with the baby, parents must avoid saying "I don't like you" to the baby. "If this happens again, I won't want you and give you to the police uncle." Although the parents are joking or scaring the baby, it is impossible for the baby to understand the true psychology of the parents. They will take everything their parents say seriously, thus encountering unprecedented psychological pressure.
6. Hug the baby warmly and tenderly
Every day when you leave home from work, when you send your baby to kindergarten, when you go home to see your baby, when you have fun with your baby, when your baby is depressed because of difficulties ... Remember to give your baby a warm and gentle hug.
This will send a message to the baby: how much mom and dad love me! For a baby, nothing can increase the sense of security and self-confidence more than the love of mom and dad.
7. Be the baby's first teacher.
Babies are born with the ability to imitate. They need to observe how their parents handle things to decide how they handle things. Therefore, instead of taking punishment measures such as beating and cursing when the baby makes mistakes to change him, it is better to pay attention to his words and deeds in peacetime, set a good example for the baby and guide him to develop in the right direction. Beating and scolding the baby can only teach him to express his anger through violence, and it will send a message to the baby that it is natural to beat people who are weaker than himself.
8. Give your baby enough autonomy
From what to eat in the morning to what to wear when going out, parents promise their babies to express their ideas and act according to their own wishes. Giving babies some freedom of choice can encourage them to cultivate their own ideas and teach them how to make smarter choices and get the desired results. In addition, by giving the baby the freedom to choose, parents can also avoid some troubles, such as forcing the baby to do something they don't want to do, which will cause the baby to lose his temper. Of course, parents should also explain to their babies that setting some necessary and reasonable restrictions is just to care about their safety and make them live a happier life.
9. Encourage your baby as much as possible.
Wise parents often ignore their baby's shortcomings and try to find as many advantages as possible to encourage him. Because, if parents pay attention to what the baby has done well, and then praise and encourage it, it will promote the baby's development in the direction expected by his parents more than giving them advice when he has done something wrong.
10, dare to admit your mistakes to your baby.
Parents sometimes make mistakes when dealing with their children. For example, when a baby does something he shouldn't do, he may punish the baby excessively or even inappropriately. Afterwards, parents may realize their problems, but they don't want to break their words and take back what they said. In fact, a really good parent will correct his mistakes in time and tell the baby the reason for doing so: "I was too angry at that time and didn't think clearly what to do." Now I know I did something wrong. Well, I'll think of a better way to deal with it. "This practice of parents will not only reduce the prestige of parents in the baby's mind, but will set a good example for the baby to correct mistakes.
1 1. Give the baby a chance to fail.
The baby's growth is ultimately his own business, and only the baby himself is the main body of growth. Give the baby a chance to learn from practice, and he can really grow up.
Learning from practice includes learning from successful experiences, and more from the lessons of failure. Therefore, successful parents don't want their children to "wrestle" all their lives, and they don't want their babies to replace failure as little as possible. Successful parents will give their baby enough help, support and encouragement, and will also give him the necessary protection, but they will never give their baby a greenhouse with good weather. Only by experiencing failure can you cultivate your baby's tenacious perseverance. Only by experiencing failure can you inspire your baby's ambition to overcome difficulties. Only by experiencing failure can we find a shortcut to success. Therefore, only by giving the baby more training in the process of failure can he finally become a brave little soldier who is not afraid of failure.
12, exchange parenting experience with friends.
Many practical parenting problems, even parenting experts, are often helpless. However, some parents' experience can often generalize and solve problems very effectively. Formal or informal parties are a good place for parents to communicate with each other and share their parenting experiences. After having a baby, it is a very effective way to solve the problem of parenting and improve the baby's social ability to attend regular gatherings between friends who are already parents. Everyone has a lot of parenting experience in the process of raising a baby. Solving problems and communicating with each other can often bring many unexpected surprises to parents.
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