Children should be allowed to choose according to their own interests, such as learning ballet or practicing aerobics, so that free choice can allow her to participate more in what she likes.
2. accept him as he is
Children's growth has certain rules. If you always like to compare your children with other people's children, you will give your children the illusion that you are a loser.
3, find hidden difficulties
If you suddenly find that your child is unwilling to participate in group activities and do homework. You should be patient and ask the reason, maybe it is bullied by other children, maybe the teacher doesn't like this course, and so on.
4. convince people by reasoning
If the child wants to give up practicing the piano, then don't yell at the child. You can tell him the reason why you want him to continue practicing. Even if he didn't change his mind, he gave the child a chance to speak freely.
Step 5 praise and appreciate
Give praise and appreciation in time when a child has just finished something, but it is not enough to do so for a long time. You can say "your scale is smooth" or "your article is thought-provoking" and so on. In this way, he will get a different feeling and will work harder to win your approval next time.
6. Wise rewards
There is no need to give children a big prize, just give them a small gift to encourage them when they do well. In this way, they won't be particularly disappointed if they don't reach the predetermined goal.
Giving children a happy tutor is to hope that children can face learning with a happy mood, so that they will learn more, their parents' goals will be achieved and their mood will be satisfied.
7. explain your reasons
If you don't want your child to give up piano education because you are sure it will be good for him, what will you do? Whatever you want to do, don't yell at the child and scold him at the top of your lungs. After shouting for a few minutes, he stopped listening to what you were saying. On the contrary, if you are willing to explain to him why you think it is important to continue practicing, he may agree with you instead. Even if he still disagrees, it doesn't matter. He probably has his own opinion. Parents should also listen to their children's opinions and tell them that whatever they do, what they have learned will remain in their experience and will never be wasted.
8. Let them do something they like from time to time.
If children can get enough encouragement from their parents, they will thrive. Often yell at the children: "What are you doing there again?" Parents seem to have stabbed their children in the heart, which will do great psychological harm to them. Each of us needs time to relax, listen to music, or do nothing but stare blankly. Then, when our "battery" is fully charged again, we will be full of energy and ready for the next challenge. So are children.
How to effectively carry out family education
1. Educate children to choose the best time.
Farmers should seize the farming season, seize the fighters in the war, and educate their children well. They must choose the best opportunity. The same education, if the timing is different, its effect will be very different. For example, Li Xiuzhi, the owner of the movie Shepherd, paid a large salary when her lover carried out the policy. Their naive son said, "Ah, with so much money, I will become a rightist when I grow up!" " The hero of the film seized this opportunity and educated his son, saying, "Money must be earned by your own hands. Flowers are interesting, not earned by you! " Although the number of words is small, it reflects the noble quality of professional women's self-improvement and hard work, and also grasps the best "temperature" for educating children. This kind of "temperature" can be found in our real life at any time, so we must seize this best opportunity to educate our children.
2. Educating children must pay attention to the combination of "wit" and art.
When the requirements of children and parents are "top-notch", we must take a roundabout way. Divert your attention and handle it skillfully, so that you can educate your child when his mood is stable. For example, if you take your child to the children's toy store in a department store, you would like to broaden his horizons, but he wants to buy a children's car with 100 yuan. There are two reasons not to buy it for him. One is an old man at home, and the other is that he doesn't have so much money with him today, but he is crying and there are many people watching. You are disturbed by him. When you can't leave the department store, you suddenly thought of a way to divert your attention and said, "Yesterday, I heard your teacher say that the small building you built with building blocks in kindergarten was beautiful and built quickly and well." Come, let's see if these building blocks are the same as those in your kindergarten. " As soon as he listens, he will definitely fix his eyes on the building blocks, and then stop crying. He will accompany you to the front of the building blocks and choose a new set of building blocks. He will go home with you happily, too. This educational method is a combination of "wit" and "art", which requires parents to be good at adopting effective educational methods according to specific conditions.
Parents should learn to treat their children coldly when they are provoked.
When children have arguments and fights, their emotions are very unstable. How patient parents should be! Calm down, calm down, calm down again! For example, if two people quarrel and let you judge, you can see that they are both angry. You should put down what you are doing calmly and say with a smile, "You two have a problem, and you have a problem with me?" This sudden question made both of them stunned, and they all said "no" in unison. Then you say, "well, eat this apple first and then judge you." No one is allowed to talk while eating. It is unsanitary to eat and talk. " After eating the apple, the anger is almost gone. At this time, you don't have to ask them about their quarrel in a hurry. It's time to ask them if the apples are delicious. They will definitely say "delicious". You take the opportunity to say, "You can't just eat apples. You have to help me take out the garbage. " When they finish taking out the garbage. Say again, "Did you just fight?" In this case, we will not blame each other, but only admit that we are "wrong". But I still have to ask about the situation. On the premise of understanding the situation, you can criticize a few words appropriately and explain to him that friendship is justified. They will firmly apologize to each other. At this time, you can say, "Let's play together again." If you ask them who is right and who is wrong from the beginning, no one will admit it. And some parents have poor self-cultivation, only seeing their children well, fearing that their children will suffer. This is a very bad family style. This kind of treatment is called "cold treatment", and the ways to turn anger into joy are "attracting people with knowledge", "educating people with emotion", "educating people with meaning" and "educating people with deeds", which not only educates your own children, but also educates others' children, so that you will have prestige in the hearts of children. On the contrary, the parents of both children are arguing for their children. What can they win? The result of the struggle is that children are spoiled, children don't realize what is wrong, and parents' prestige is lost. There are many such examples in real life.
4. Be strict with children and moderate with love.
Many parents don't have a proper grasp of strictness and love, and mistakenly regard obedience as love. Some think that strict discipline is love, and some think that children can't make a difference without playing. In fact, these are all one-sided and wrong understandings.
To truly "love" children, it is necessary to comprehensively analyze their characteristics, advantages and disadvantages. Guide them correctly what to do and what not to do, so that they can truly realize what is good, what is beautiful, what is true, what is false, what is evil and what is ugly. It is necessary to point out their possible shortcomings as soon as possible and adopt concrete praise and abstract comments. Love is not doting, discipline is not coercion, letting go is not laissez-faire, and strictness is not beating and cursing. What is truly reflected in children is: "there is a degree of strictness, a combination of strictness and love, and a degree of love."