First, why do children stay in school for a long time and have less influence than their families? In fact, it is not a matter of time in essence. Parents have an irreplaceable influence on children's life-positive or negative. First of all, the influence of heredity is an indisputable fact. Secondly, there is no influence when teaching. Parents' smiles, parents' sitting and walking, parents' subconscious, parents' tone and vocabulary, parents' way of solving problems and parents' way of thinking all affect children. The taste, color, temperature, furniture and decoration of the home are all influential. Third, children's trust and attachment to their parents make them imitate their parents first. Parents are the source of children's existence and the foundation for children to live in the world. Children have been trying to grow up according to their parents' expectations all their lives, hoping that their parents will be satisfied with themselves. This is why family education is more important than school education. However, in real life, various unsatisfactory parent-child relationships lead to the decline of parents' positive influence. Adults are dissatisfied with their children and can't do anything about it, or they are too troublesome, or they spend money on education and think about problems with the mentality of consumers, so they fantasize about solving everything by school education. The second question followed. Since school education is not so important, why choose a school? Your feet are healthy, your shoes are comfortable, and your socks are good, but there is a pebble on the sole of your foot, which does not occupy a large proportion of importance, but it is very harmful. Although the importance of school education is not as great as that of family education, although it only accounts for 1%, if it is a stone on the sole of the foot, it will hurt deeply. So school education is also very important. There is an ideal suggestion that schools and families should take their respective responsibilities. That's true, but it's too general. What are their respective responsibilities? Where is the category? The content of education is the education of being a man and doing things. Both families and schools are responsible for these two items. Respecting your responsibilities does not mean being completely different, but cooperating with each other. Good cooperation and bad cooperation have two principles. One principle is that it can be repeated and there can be no gaps. For example, families don't teach people to be human, schools don't teach people to learn, and families don't teach people to learn, so the gap is terrible. Another principle is that home and school should be consistent. We can't teach 1+ 1=2 at school and 1+ 1=3 at home. We can't teach love and tolerance at home. We can't teach others to climb at school.