We should face up to the fact that today's children have lived in the Internet age since childhood, and information technology has penetrated into their lives. Therefore, it is not feasible to strictly prohibit, disconnect and confiscate mobile phones and Ipad, which will cause fierce resistance from children who are already a little anxious and irritable, and worsen the family atmosphere and parent-child relationship.
So how can we prevent children from indulging in the internet? Blindly blocking is not enough. The best policy is to change blocking into sparse and strengthen guidance. The following 6 tricks, parents may wish to try.
Let the children know more.
Tool function of electronic products
During the epidemic, children need to use their mobile phones for online classes, and some children also want to watch and play on their mobile phones when they are not studying. It is also impossible to completely prevent children from touching mobile phones. Let children know more about the instrumental role of electronic products.
For example, children can be guided to use mobile phone maps to inquire about travel modes, and children can be guided to inquire about nearby scenic spots and food through mobile phone software, so that children can connect the information in electronic products with real life.
In addition to these functions, children can also learn practical functions closely related to life, such as taking pictures, video recording, weather forecasting and so on.
Increase children's outdoor activities
In the case of ensuring safety, parents can take their children step by step into safe places such as community squares and parks to experience this beautiful spring.
You can also take your children to do some outdoor activities, such as playing ball and skipping rope. In short, let them move and divert their excessive attention to electronic products.
Use electronic products with children.
Some studies have pointed out that when using electronic products, parents' high-quality companionship and communication, coupled with appropriate time management, can effectively avoid children's addiction to electronic products.
Therefore, we should play our role and choose those videos and programs with beautiful picture quality and healthy plot for our children, preferably including life or scientific knowledge.
Watch and discuss with children to guide them to divergent thinking. What would you do if it were you? This experiment is really interesting. We will try it later. ?
Divert attention with more interesting activities
During this special time, parents can do or guide their children to do many interesting and meaningful things at home.
1. Do housework together
Let children cook with their parents and do what they can, such as choosing vegetables and washing vegetables, or just tasting salty water, which can make children feel more involved and responsible in the family. Other housework such as washing clothes and sweeping the floor can be helped by children.
2. Write articles, diaries and letters
Parents can advise their children to write a letter to their teachers, good friends and caring people, send a WeChat, send an email, or hand over their personal letters when they meet again, so that their feelings can be conveyed in expression.
3. Parents and children read together and enjoy excellent film and television works.
Family members can read a book together or their own favorite books. They can watch an excellent movie together, and then share the communication together, which not only increases their knowledge, but also helps to create a warm family atmosphere.
4. Explore children's interests
At home, parents can arrange rich entertainment activities and try to explore their children's hobbies. For example, learning to draw and play chess can not only find children's interests, but also cultivate their concentration and patience.
Three chapters agreed with children
Practice has proved that prior agreement is more effective and easier to implement than punishment afterwards. However, many parents said: We have made three chapters with our children, why is it still invalid?
Dear parents and friends, have you overlooked the following points?
1. Clearly point out the behaviors that children need to improve.
For example, you can't play mobile phone more than 1 hour every day, and you must play mobile phone after finishing your homework. Goals should be specific, clear and easy to measure. It is necessary to clearly explain what the child can get by completing the agreement and what he will lose if he does not complete the agreement.
Should we talk less in this process? No? One more word? what's up . For example:? If you fulfill the agreement, you can go to the movies? And don't say? You can't go to the movies if you don't keep your promise? . Although these two statements have the same meaning, if a child works hard in a positive direction, he is more likely to achieve his goal.
2. Write the agreement and post it in a conspicuous place at home.
When the child completes the agreement, even if it is a phased agreement, parents should give encouragement in time. When the child fails to complete the agreement, the liability for breach of contract must also be absolutely borne. If the liability for breach of contract is not investigated, the agreement is completely non-binding.
3. attention? About what? word
In the process of reaching an agreement, we should try our best to absorb the opinions of children. Never let go? An agreement? Become a one-way parent? Order? .
At any time, if family education wants to achieve real success, it must be based on unconditional love, respect and trust for children.
Parents should set an example.
Some parents will say that I have tried to make an agreement with my children about the use of electronic products, but it is useless. That's because children think this code is only unfair to themselves.
Then, parents can do this: if there are two children at home, please treat them equally; During the period when children are forbidden to play electronic products, please ask parents to accompany their children! In other words, parents should set an example!
According to the data of a survey report, children spend less than three hours surfing the Internet with their mobile phones or tablets every day, while 7.6% of parents spend more than six hours surfing the Internet with their mobile phones or tablets every day.
As parents, we must set an example and set a good example for our children.
How should children of all ages use electronic products?
In fact, to teach children to use electronic products reasonably, children of different ages should take different intervention measures.
1-3 years old: Try not to let children touch mobile phones.
Why can't you touch your mobile phone in childhood? First of all, children's retinas will not be fully developed until 12 years old. Until then, they should try to avoid contact with mobile phone electronic products.
Secondly, some experts say that the more children who are exposed to electronic products at the age of two or three, the greater the possibility of attention disorder at the age of seven or eight.
So, what should parents do if they have children aged 1-3 at home?
1. Parents should try not to play mobile phones in front of their children. Interact with children and actively update their toys.
2. Don't download games from parents' mobile phones to prevent children from asking to play on their mobile phones because of game addiction.
3. If children are curious about mobile phones, they can demonstrate making phone calls, making voice calls and taking photos. Establish children's correct understanding of the use of mobile phones.
3-6 years old: Try not to let children touch mobile games.
Many parents occasionally leave their children to mobile games to be quiet for a while? Looking after? . But children aged 3-6 are still young and lack self-control. Once they come into contact with games, they will be extremely addicted.
If there are children aged 3-6 at home, the correct way is this:
1. Parents and family members should try to delete games, music, videos and other apps that will attract children. Even if children want to play with mobile phones, they will not find it interesting except flipping through photo albums and taking photos. Naturally, they won't keep pestering their parents to play mobile phones.
2. Actively cultivate children's reading habits. Read children's books with children more often.
3. Enrich children's life experiences. Take children out to experience nature and encourage them to make more friends.
7- 12 years old: the mobile phone problem should not be suppressed.
Many children of this age have begun to enter the rebellious period. Children in the rebellious period have a strong sense of self and independence, and they will become stubborn and grumpy.
For children at this stage, parents can do this:
1. Negotiate the length and frequency of playing mobile phones with children. As a rule that must be observed, if it is violated, you can take on housework as a means of punishment.
Parents should be clear about their emotions and motives. What's the goal? Children don't play mobile games? , not? Will children stop playing mobile games? . Allow children to talk back, cry, etc.
Parents should try to understand their children's feelings and positions. If parents want their children to finish their homework before playing with their mobile phones, don't say? Do your homework now? But to say? I know this game is interesting, but you must finish your homework first. I'll watch you finish this game, and then you can do your homework, ok? ?
12- 18 years old: properly intervene to guide children to use mobile phones rationally.
Children of this age are in the prelude to adolescence, with a high level of ideological cognition, and have already possessed certain self-control and self-management ability. Parents should insist on proper intervention and rational utilization.
1. Pay more attention to children's psychological and behavioral changes and give them some personal space.
2. After communicating and trusting, negotiate with your child to formulate rules for playing mobile phones, such as when you can play mobile phones, how long you can play them at a time, and what kind of punishment will be imposed if you overtime.
3. Correctly treat children's use of mobile phones and guide them to make rational use of their mobile phones. For example, it is more convenient to read e-books on mobile phones, and mobile phones search for learning information. ?