What if the child is used to everything? Get the upper hand? If you don't give in and be humble in large and small contradictions, there will probably be conflicts. This phenomenon is actually a manifestation of children's lack of tolerance.
We know that tolerance is a virtue of human beings, and it is also a way and realm of being a man. In life, tolerant people are relatively kind and rarely have unnecessary conflicts with others. Therefore, they can adapt well to various different environments and deal with various complicated interpersonal relationships.
Four ways to make children have a tolerant heart. Parents should teach their children tolerance in daily life. Because a child has a tolerant heart, he can not only handle the relationship with his friends well, but also help his success and happiness when he grows up.
First, parents should teach their children to learn empathy.
Nowadays, most children only think from their own point of view and are not used to thinking from others' point of view. The best way for parents to eliminate this phenomenon is to teach their children to study? Empathy? .
What do you mean? Empathy? ? That is, when a child conflicts with other children, he can think from the other's point of view. For example, children will think, why would the other party say such things and do such things? What would you do if you were in the other person's position?
If the child can learn these things, then he can understand each other's practices and will not be angry with each other. This can reduce many unnecessary contradictions.
Second, parents should teach their children to understand and be considerate of others.
As the saying goes? Gold is not enough, and no one is perfect? Everyone will have their own shortcomings and deficiencies. Therefore, parents can teach their children to learn to seek common ground while reserving differences when getting along with classmates and friends, and there is no need to care too much about what friends inadvertently say or do wrong. After all, each of us may make mistakes and need others to understand.
In the process of children's communication with peers, parents should guide their children to learn to understand and tolerate peers, no matter whether they are better than themselves or better than themselves. Poor? Even if the other party is one of our own? Competitors? We should get along well with them.
Parents should educate their children not to be jealous of their better companions, but to learn from them; Not just for yourself? Poor? Do not laugh at your partner, but help him; Don't deliberately embarrass your competitors, but cooperate with them.
Third, parents should let their children communicate with their peers more.
Children's tolerance is gradually cultivated in the interaction with others. Because children only learn to associate with others, they will understand that everyone has shortcomings of one kind or another and will make all kinds of mistakes.
Only when children learn to tolerate the shortcomings and mistakes of others can they have normal communication, peaceful coexistence and friendship with others, and can they realize the meaning and happiness of tolerance.
Parents can teach their children some communication skills, for example, let them learn to praise the advantages of others, celebrate their own success, help children in trouble, and accept reasonable suggestions from others.
Fourth, parents should take their children to participate in outdoor activities.
Parents usually take their children to outdoor activities, such as weekends or holidays, and take them to the suburbs to make them closer to nature; If possible, parents can take their children out to travel more, let them see the great rivers and mountains of the motherland, the vast sea and the beautiful lakes and mountains, cultivate their temperament and broaden their horizons and minds.
Flowers, trees, landscapes, insects and fish in nature all contain infinite mysteries for children and are very vivid textbooks. Making children closer to nature will play a positive role in cultivating children's tolerance.
Conclusion: Parents should tell their children that tolerance is not timidity, cowardice and conformity, but understanding and concession to relatives, friends and classmates after distinguishing right from wrong, not compromise to bad people. There is no need to be tolerant of those who push their luck and bad people.