Methods for parents to cultivate their children to form good behavior habits 1. Start with the children's daily life.
Good behavior habits are not innate, but gradually formed in long-term life and run through all aspects of children's lives. Parents should be good at grasping all aspects of life. For example, children's good hygiene habits are gradually developed in activities such as diet and daily life. The habit of being polite is formed in the process of treating people. The habit of loving learning is often formed in games, and the habit of loving labor is formed in the process of self-service and service to others. As the educator Mr. Ye Shengtao said, education is the formation of habits. Of course, parents should be strict with themselves and set an example for their children everywhere. This is bound to benefit children who are good at imitation.
Second, arouse children's enthusiasm and initiative.
To cultivate children's good behavior habits, it is necessary to transform children's unconscious behavior into conscious behavior. This requires parents to observe their children carefully, understand the laws of their physical and mental development, determine the training objectives according to their characteristics, be good at seizing the opportunity of education and mobilize their enthusiasm and initiative. Take the child away as soon as possible? Do you want me to do it? Where to? Should I do it? Transformation. There are the following points that parents should pay attention to:
1. Stick to it, don't give up halfway.
Children's habits are unstable. In order to cultivate good habits, we must persevere until good habits are deeply rooted in children's hearts. My two-and-a-half-year-old son likes to eat with his own spoon. Although he eats slowly, there are often soup and rice grains on the table, floor and clothes, but I never worry. Insist that he eat every meal by himself, and encourage and teach children how to do it. And often praise children? Great? 、? How good? 、? Is there any progress? . Soon, my son not only learned to eat by himself, but also learned to dress and undress by himself. Good habits can only be developed through repeated practice.
2. unify the requirements and don't go it alone.
If the requirements are inconsistent, the children will be at a loss and gradually develop the psychology of taking advantage of the loopholes. Moreover, educational information in different directions interferes with each other, which is easy to form bad personality characteristics such as duality of children. The same information is repeatedly transmitted to the child's brain, which is easy for the child to form a neural connection, and good habits are easy to develop. If parents are strict with their children, grandparents are indulgent, or teachers are strict today and relaxed tomorrow, it is difficult for parents to form good habits in kindergarten.
3. Pay attention to methods, and avoid being simple and rude.
(1) Parents should not always preach, nagging will only make their children disgusted.
(2) Parents should pay attention to their words and deeds. First of all, parents should have good behavior habits to drive their children; Secondly, tell the child what kind of behavior habits to develop in simple and clear language and tell his parents that they want him to have these habits.
(3) Parents should give more examples of how people with good behavior habits have good results in their daily discussions.
Third, to be good at correcting children's existing bad behavior habits, parents can follow the following principles.
Be flexible and avoid sticking to the rules; Put yourself in the other person's shoes and avoid being overbearing and high-handed; Pay equal attention to kindness and prestige, and avoid inconsistency between words and deeds; Behavior guidance, avoid nagging; Give priority to encouragement and avoid negative imposition; Tolerance and mutual infiltration to avoid emotional out of control; Stand firm and avoid concessions; Be specific and clear, and avoid being abstract and vague.
In short, the formation of a good habit can not be separated from family education, and the most important thing in family education is what parents do. Children have strong imitation ability. In the family, the exemplary role of parents is very important. Parents' behavior has a subtle influence on their children. Good habits will accompany a person's life and affect his lifestyle and personal growth path. There is an English proverb: Action forms habit, habit forms character, and character determines fate. Let our children develop good behavior habits!
In fact, in daily life, whether visiting relatives and friends or entertaining relatives and friends at home, this is a good opportunity for children to learn etiquette and improve their communication skills.
In daily life, let children learn the courtesy of hospitality. It is necessary to educate children on etiquette before waiting for guests to visit. Parents tell their children proper manners when meeting guests, such as smiling in front of guests and getting up to say hello; Answer the guest's questions carefully; Children can entertain guests warmly as small hosts and bring tea and water to guests. When parents are talking with guests, tell their children not to play around, not to interrupt and make noise casually, especially not to judge the guests and ask them for gifts. When the guests leave, they still want to send the children to the door and say? Goodbye and come again next time! ? Such a polite expression.
Good behavior of parents is the best example for children to learn social etiquette. Therefore, parents must set an example and give their children a good influence. Usually, parents should give their children more opportunities to practice, encourage their children to participate in various interpersonal activities, affirm and praise their polite behavior in time, and let them experience the pleasure brought by polite behavior, so as to consolidate and repeat this behavior and gradually develop good habits. What parents need to pay attention to is that in front of the guests, never blame the children, which will embarrass the guests and make the children angry. Don't compare your children with others' children in front of guests and children, which will damage children's self-esteem and self-confidence.
In real life, what children see is not a world where everyone is polite. Some parents usually don't pay attention to their words and deeds and educational methods. When children return to the small environment of family, all bad habits will recur under all kinds of love. Therefore, parents should create an environment for their children to constantly use and consolidate good manners and internalize them into lasting behaviors.