The cultivation of empathy is the premise of good communication between teachers and students. This is determined by the characteristics of teacher-student relationship-the occurrence of educational efficiency is based on a good teacher-student relationship, that is, on the acceptance of teachers by students after teachers pass on their empathy to students. When a teacher is unable or unwilling to do so, communication with students will inevitably be blocked, resulting in the following consequences.

1. When students feel that the teacher doesn't understand themselves, they will feel that the teacher doesn't care about themselves, and then they will feel disappointed and depressed, and their trust in the teacher will decrease, and their desire to open their hearts to the teacher will soon disappear and end.

2. Teachers have no empathy for students, so they can't really accept students, and it is very easy to make useless accusations and criticisms on students. This expression of "I want information" out of teachers' subjective consciousness will make students feel disgusted and hurt, and the communication with teachers will also be antagonistic.

3. When a teacher can't really empathize with the students, he can't respond to the students correctly and actively, and he can't constructively help the students where they need to be guided and corrected in their inner world.

Generally speaking, it is teachers' subjective judgment that makes teachers unable to empathize with students. Judging students by subjective values and lack of understanding will also give them inappropriate educational influence and even mislead them. Therefore, in education, teachers' empathy for students is the key to open students' inner world and the premise of educational effectiveness.

Empathy is the most important condition for establishing good interpersonal relationship and the first condition for establishing good communication between teachers and students. In interpersonal relationships, if the two communicating parties can feel each other's feelings, beliefs and attitudes from the perspective of empathy, and effectively convey these feelings to each other, the other party will feel understood and respected, thus generating a sense of warmth and comfortable satisfaction.

The concept of empathy:

Empathy is not equal to understanding. Understanding is our subjective understanding of things, and we look at things with personal subjective reference standards; Empathy means that the communicator temporarily gives up his subjective reference standard and tries to put himself in the other person's reference standard, so that we can observe his thoughts and behaviors from the other person's situation and understand his unique feelings.

Empathy does not mean recognition, let alone recognition and approval of each other's behavior and views. Identification and approval include communicating the consistency of views and values of both parties on certain issues and bringing them into their respective subjective reference evaluation systems. Empathy is to have a close understanding of each other and feel each other's inner world like yourself, so as to resonate.

In interpersonal relationships, if the two communicating parties can feel each other's feelings, beliefs and attitudes from the perspective of empathy, and effectively convey these feelings to each other, the other party will feel understood and respected, thus generating a sense of warmth and comfortable satisfaction. This feeling can induce a communication atmosphere full of mutual understanding and concern.