First, the current situation of sex education in China and its harm to children
China has always lacked sex education for children, from childhood to adulthood. The reason is nothing more than that parents deliberately avoided or ignored their children's curiosity and doubts about sex when they were very young. Three attitudes of parents towards children s sex education in China;
1. This is natural. It's too early to educate such a young child about sex. When children grow up, they will naturally understand. We had no education in this field, but we got married and had children safely.
2. Blind suppression. "Mom, where am I from?" I picked it up by the side of the road. I believe that when the child first asked the parents this question, the parents frowned, and then used this absurd answer to prevaricate, without responding positively to the child's curiosity. If children are found to have watched novels or TV dramas with certain plots, they will take a tougher attitude to stop them.
3. Shut up. Most parents think that it is not good for children to know too much about sex, which will stimulate their children and make them have sex prematurely, so they have never had a positive exchange with their children on sex education in their daily lives.
Parents' avoidance or even forced avoidance will only make children feel that sex is a bad thing that cannot be mentioned, let alone self-protection.
Because of this, the evil devil wears Prada, which is morally corrupt, has an opportunity.
According to the statistics of relevant United Nations departments, about 10% of girls in the world have been sexually assaulted to varying degrees, and the proportion of boys who have been sexually assaulted is lower than that of girls, but it has reached nearly 1%. In other words, in a medium-sized kindergarten, it is possible that 1 or two babies have been sexually assaulted.
This shocking tragedy has sounded the alarm in every parent's heart. It is time for us to educate our children about sex, and it is urgent.
But for parents, I always feel that too young children don't know how to speak, and adolescent children don't know how to speak. Then let's learn how to educate children about sex correctly.
Second, how to conduct sex education.
1. Let children form gender cognition from an early age.
When children are young, parents can let their children have a preliminary understanding of their gender through different clothes, such as wearing beautiful and bright skirts for girls and choosing some relatively dim colors for boys. Let children know the difference between men and women from an early age.
It is also best to be accompanied by same-sex elders when taking a shower. When a child is old enough to take a bath by himself, he should be allowed to take a bath by himself.
2. Satisfy children's curiosity.
Just like the child mentioned above asked his mother, "Where am I from?" If you only deceive children with perfunctory answers, it will only suppress their curiosity about sex, and at the same time produce a blind mystery about sex, and children can't fully understand the complicated answers.
I remember Yin Jianli, a famous child-rearing expert, once gave a perfect answer to this question: "When mom and dad got married, they wanted a baby, so they pinched something from mom and dad and put it together in mom's stomach, so that the baby would grow up in mom's stomach, so that you would look like mom and dad."
3. Guide the normal communication between children and the opposite sex.
Parents should tell their children clearly when they are young, which parts of the body should not be touched by others. If someone touches his body, be sure to tell his mother.
I remember there was a plot in the reality show "Where is Dad?". Chun Wu's daughter Nene wore a coat with sequins on her chest. If she rubs it repeatedly from navel to chest, the pattern will change color. The little mangosteen felt curious and touched it. As a result, the pattern really changed color.
Wu Xinyi's brother saw it and wanted to give it a try, but Nie Nie said, "You can't be a boy, but Xiao Mangosteen can." I have to admire the success of Chun Wu's concept of children's sex education.
4. Sex education in adolescence.
Compared with sex education in childhood, we are more cautious about sex education for adolescent children. At this time, in addition to making adolescent children aware of their physical changes, they should also cultivate their various hobbies to enrich their lives, so as to release their energy to work or sports activities.
In addition, children must avoid remote and desolate places when they go out alone, and don't accept drinks or food casually outside. If you are sexually assaulted, remember to ask your parents for help bravely and promptly, and never hide it.
Third, some misunderstandings about sex education.
1. Sexual enlightenment should not be too early. Sexual enlightenment is not the same as sex education. It is undoubtedly the right behavior to educate children from an early age, but it is not appropriate to open an account for children too early, such as taking a bath separately from children as soon as possible.
Rousseau believes that children's sexual enlightenment should be postponed as much as possible, and children should not be given a chance to be curious. Of course, if the child's curiosity has been aroused, you should not deceive the child with the language containing Hu Hu, but should answer the child with frank but short language, paying attention not to bring out malicious or pornographic expressions at this time.
2. For some adolescent children's puppy love and promiscuity, people often mistakenly think that sex education is not in place, but in western countries where sex education is so developed, these situations still exist. Why?
In fact, this is a series of extreme behaviors caused by some special life experiences, which leads to the extreme emptiness of children's spirit.
Therefore, the core of sex education should be the education of children's world outlook and love view. Before a child becomes an adult, he should cultivate his awareness of self-respect and self-love, as well as his good character of kindness and openness, so that he can grow into a person with healthy physical and mental development.
Therefore, parents must use the right methods and wisdom to win this tough battle of sex education. You are also welcome to put forward your valuable opinions here.